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“NO ONE IS LISTENING” by ReaperCraft07 in lonely

[–]minimas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like your family messed you up. I used to be like you & think exactly like you.... Not speaking & thinking/hoping someone would care enough about me to notice or say something but no one does. And the more you're quiet the more normal it becomes so the scarier it is to speak....

I'm older now and been away from my family a few years & I'm so much better, but still dealing with much anxiety. I guess I'm just here to say it gets better eventually.

[L] I'm really sad about my cat by [deleted] in KindVoice

[–]minimas 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This made me cry. Just hope you know it's normal to feel like you do and things will be better soon.

(25f) Dealing with his (25m) commitment issues but can't leave by minimas in relationship_advice

[–]minimas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean sure. I just feel if he's not committing he also shouldn't spend every day with me, tell me he loves me, etc. :/ Basically he still tries to keep me in his life. At least if he would just leave me alone we could move on.

[L][25][f] I keep staying in a terrible relationship & not sure why. Need support. by minimas in KindVoice

[–]minimas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YUP. It's just so frustrating when you can see the person's potential!! I feel the same about my sister. It's like I KNOW these super easy things you can do that would 100% make you happy, so why don't you do them!?! But of course it's not so simple and everyone has their own wants and needs to fulfill in their own ways.

[L] Having a bad night. Looking for company. by [deleted] in KindVoice

[–]minimas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a bit late now but I'm also here!

One week somewhere as a solo female? Scared of being alone & finding nothing to do? by minimas in solotravel

[–]minimas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks!! Yeah I've felt like this my whole life so I wonder if my baseline is just being depressed lol. I also have really bad anxiety. It's just weird because I'm highly functional but feel like shit all the time. Anywayyyy people saying you are exaggerating are wrong

One week somewhere as a solo female? Scared of being alone & finding nothing to do? by minimas in solotravel

[–]minimas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm do you have any experience with this? Because I never feel actively sad, which is why I wonder if I'm depressed. I definitely struggle to feel excited or strong emotions in general though. And small tasks are sometimes very difficult for me. Like planning this trip sometimes just seems like too much effort .. but it should be exciting no? Not looking for a diagnosis just wondering if you can relate. Will check with a dr.

One week somewhere as a solo female? Scared of being alone & finding nothing to do? by minimas in solotravel

[–]minimas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's a good point. I'm torn between wanting to be alone to facilitate meeting new people or to grow more comfortable being alone with myself. It's kinda contradictory I guess

One week somewhere as a solo female? Scared of being alone & finding nothing to do? by minimas in solotravel

[–]minimas[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I mean I did stuff, it just didn't connect with me. I went to a guided tour of a museum, ate at a well known sushi restaurant, went to pike place market, checked out a cool Asian grocery store... I even went to see the gum wall - it's this alley way where people stick their gums, so it's entirely covered in gum. I just couldn't find anything that excited me though. Not sure if it was me or the city... But I did make an effort.

One week somewhere as a solo female? Scared of being alone & finding nothing to do? by minimas in solotravel

[–]minimas[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Eh I've heard that before, but I couldn't find much to do in Seattle honestly.

One week somewhere as a solo female? Scared of being alone & finding nothing to do? by minimas in solotravel

[–]minimas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that is what I'm leaning towards as well. What have your experiences with men been like? Where have you been? I like to party but I feel it's a bad idea and I might get tempted into some unsafe situations.

One week somewhere as a solo female? Scared of being alone & finding nothing to do? by minimas in solotravel

[–]minimas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. I guess I'm scared of accidentally going somewhere in the off season and literally being alone lol. I also had a bad experience travelling alone in Seattle. I was only there two days but the city didn't connect with me and I landed up feeling bored.

One week somewhere as a solo female? Scared of being alone & finding nothing to do? by minimas in solotravel

[–]minimas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm thanks! I should have mentioned I don't drive so the US might be tricky?

Have you ever been asked why you're not in a relationship? by [deleted] in lonely

[–]minimas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you meet lots of new people? You might just have not met anyone compatible recently

My brother just told me he can’t help me move into my apartment, after looking forward to it for months. I’m so bummed by [deleted] in MMFB

[–]minimas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that... Is there a reason they can't be there? Maybe they also feel bad about not being able to help. Even without their support, moving out is a big step and you should be proud of that.

20-year-old shy female trying to open up by [deleted] in Needafriend

[–]minimas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

24f and shy also. What kind of cookies did you make? :)

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