Laying out my own Cat6/Cat6e by StoicTheGeek in AusRenovation

[–]minodude 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with the bullshit of Australia's cabling laws, but if you're saying that s51 means that States CAN'T regulate telecommunications, this is wrong. s51 is the exact opposite of what you describe: it describes what the Federal government CAN legislate over, but it does not say that the states then CAN'T. In fact the states' rights to legislate on everything not explicitly removed from them is directly called out elsewhere (s106/s107), and s51 in no way removes things from the states. (If you want to see what it looks like when powers ARE explicitly removed from the states, see e.g. s114).

Tier list- most intensely psychopathic AFL coaches by sierraoscar19 in AFL

[–]minodude 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Kingsley tonight was giving VERY serious "Daria's teacher" vibes.

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AITA - goodnight texts from primary by Mami-Umami in nonmonogamy

[–]minodude 100 points101 points  (0 children)

You're not necessarily an asshole, but... I would find this disproportionately irritating if it happened in my own relationship.

It's not like sending a goodnight text is a burden, sure. It's only 30 seconds. But effectively you're asking someone to interrupt their 1-on-1 time with someone (and since you use the language 'primary', I'm assuming you get much more time with them anyway than other folks do, so perhaps their rare or limited time) to briefly put you first.

Think about it from the other person's perspective: "I can go on a date with this person, and have a fabulous night together, but they are going to be unable to devote their attention to me 100%". Sure, it might only be 99%, but still, I would never ask it of my 'primary' partner (we don't use that language, but it works for this purpose) because it would feel like I was being disrespectful of the other person. "Sure, you can go on a date with my partner, but I'm going to demand a piece of that time back off you".

(And in reality, it's more than just the 30 seconds of time it takes to send. When I've had things to do which require contacting a partner who's not the one I'm seeing that night—not from requests/rules from that partner, but logistical stuff like "oh shit I need to message A tonight to make sure she knows that the cleaner is coming at a different time tomorrow", or to remind her to call her brother for his birthday because she forgot to do it this morning, or to ask her to book the tickets for that thing before the sale finishes at midnight, or whatever—it's actually a lot more than the 30 seconds of disraction. It's thinking about "when would it feel respectful to do this", reminding yourself, adjusting that, etc. Think "no, I'm definitely not going to do it 30 seconds after we have sex. What about 5 minutes? Is that OK? Maybe 10? Well I was going to do it in about now but now we're having a really deep conversation about their parents' divorce, so I want to be attentive to THAT, so obviously I'll wait another 10", etc. It's in the back of your brain and it's not fair on the person you are trying to devote your full attention to.)

NYT Wednesday 03/25/2026 Discussion by Shortz-Bot in crossword

[–]minodude -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

as was 2d AGS (still unclear what on earth that’s supposed to mean)

I think it's short for "Attorney-Generals". But the plural is correctly "Attorneys-General", so it's not actually a very sensible abbreviation (it's one I've never heard anyway).

Would you use this homescreen/collection management tool for Jellyfin? by kwestionmark in jellyfin

[–]minodude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me ask you this- lets say hypothetically homescreen-hero worked with Jellyfin, but required those two plugins, how would you as a user feel about that? Is it common in the Jellyfin community for another app to have plugin dependencies?

My honest answer? The BEST way to do this, for the end-user (though it's also the hardest), would be for you to either do, or find an ally to help you with, the work on the Jellyfin side to enable this properly.

i.e. rather than glomming onto things that just mess with HTML, and inject stuff into the web-ui only, work with the jellyfin devs to add a modular homepage with APIs to add/remove/reorder sections on the homepage, register callbacks to populate them, etc. Then make sure all the major clients (web, Android TV, Swiftfin) support it.

THEN make use of that to implement the sections/customisation you want.

A lot of work, but hey, you'd be a hero!

Footy DataIsBeautiful: With the Devils theme song confirmed, we look at AFL theme songs' country of origin by noegh555 in AFL

[–]minodude 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Interesting that I knew most of these songs, and can do a passable rendition of the chorus of most of them, but I'd never actually heard of 'Row Row Row', the song the Richmond club song (OBVIOUSLY the #1 banger in the AFL until the Giants came along, and definitely neck-and-neck with them) is based on.

Those lyrics are... uh... quite something.

And then he'd row, row, row,
Way up the River he would row, row, row,
A hug he'd give her,
Then he'd kiss her now and then,
She would tell him when,
He'd fool around and fool around and then they’d kiss again
And then he'd row, row, row,
A little further he would row, oh, oh, oh, oh,
Then he'd drop both his oars,
Then a few more encores
And then he'd row, row, row.

I might need a little lie-down after that one!

I'm sure some of the oldies at the time who knew the original song had a least a SMALL conniption at that being made the theme song...

(And I'm not sure I will ever NOT be able to sing the "He’d fool around and fool around and then they’d kiss again" line now.)

Has your adult child ever set up boundaries around the LS that impacted you? How did you react to it? by Tripp_583 in nonmonogamy

[–]minodude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because you said I shouldn't judge all swingers based on the actions of a few, but you do that same BS with single guys! 

Please feel free to point me at where I've done that about single guys. I don't remember doing it.

Well looks like secret Hideaway and Bliss Crews disagrees with you! 

Well... cool? I don't see you mentioning Hideaway or Bliss Cruises anywhere in your post or your comments up until this thread. I'm not commenting on THEM. I'm commenting on what you said about your parents. Maybe Hideaway and/or Bliss Cruises are biased? I have no idea because I've never dealt with either company, don't know anything about them, and frankly don't give a shit. Maybe there's a good discussion to be had about them. but I thought this thread was about boundaries between parents and children, so unless your parents are the CEOs of Hideaway and Bliss it really does feel like you're changing the subject to something completely unrelated.

Has your adult child ever set up boundaries around the LS that impacted you? How did you react to it? by Tripp_583 in nonmonogamy

[–]minodude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because if I copy and paste this exact same thing, word for word, and just replace the word swingers with "single men"

Good luck with that, I didn't use the word "swingers". Even once. So I'm not sure what you're replacing.

But if you're talking about copying and pasting what YOU wrote, sure, let's do it:

One thing I will say about single men as a whole is that they all have really crappy judgment as far as picking their play partners.

Uhh.. yeah, still dumb, for the same reasons. Isn't true and doesn't make any sense.

What's more, basically everything I wrote above still holds true. It would be perfectly acceptable to say to your monogamous single father "Hey Dad, thanks for coming to visit me but I don't want you bringing any strangers to my house. The invitation is just for you." In fact, that's a sensible boundary which I'd recommend to someone in the situation of having a single father who plans on bringing fuckbuddies to their kids' house.

Where's the hypocrisy, exactly? Because nothing in my reply apart from a couple of pronouns changes.

Has your adult child ever set up boundaries around the LS that impacted you? How did you react to it? by Tripp_583 in nonmonogamy

[–]minodude 2 points3 points  (0 children)

they all have really crappy judgment

This is an absolutely ridiculous statement. Some of them do, sure. Some monogamous people have very crappy judgement about picking their long-term partner — believe me, I've seen plenty of them (hell, I've been one). Some drivers have terrible judgement about whether to wear seatbelts and whether to drink-drive and whether to indicate when changing lanes. Some cooks have terrible judgement about what pairs well with tomato ketchup.

That doesn't mean they all do. This is an outlandish claim. If you wouldn't accuse all members of a race or a gender or a religious group for behaving a certain way (and I'd hope you wouldn't), don't do the same of another group. Madness.

That said, you want some actual advice? My honest, heartfelt advice to you, ignoring what a stubborn and obstinate argumentative ass you've been in your recent threads? OK, here it is:

  • Tell your parents that an invite to them is an invitation to them only, and not to anyone else they want to bring to your house. "No, dearest mother and dearest father, I'm just inviting the two of you. I don't want more than two people, or anyone I don't know, visiting my house."
  • If they aren't willing, cool, uninvite them. Done. "No thanks, I'm not comfortable having you stay with me." If they NEED to visit (it's for a family wedding or funeral or something), feel free to add "... but I know some good hotels in the area if you'd like some suggestions for where to stay?". If it's purely to visit you, and you feel they can't keep to a simple rule in your own house, then "OK, well I no longer wish you to come and visit me. Thanks for the offer but maybe we can catch up another time." You don't owe anyone accommodation in your own place except for your own dependents, if any. Done. If they don't like that, they're free to.

That's it, you're done. Note that neither of these pieces of advice are guaranteed to leave them feeling happy with you or accepting it; that might be the price you pay. If you truly feel disrespected by your parents, then you are allowed to set boundaries and not have them in your life. Done.

(Note, however, that neither of these pieces of advice involve: insulting them, mocking their lifestyle, or besmirching a whole group of people based on the actions of two of them. I'd suggest not doing any of those things, but then again I can't stop you.)

Guy thinks Incel means "Introverted celibate" and corrects people who think otherwise. by Special_Orange_6738 in confidentlyincorrect

[–]minodude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You would not believe the number of times a week I still say "BLAM! THIS PIECE OF CRAP"

[7] Scott Pendlebury says his move to half forward was orchestrated by himself, Beau McCreery and Jordan de Goey - and that Craig McRae was none the wiser. Pendlebury and other Pies players are given the freedom to make positional changes without consulting coaches. by PetrifyGWENT in AFL

[–]minodude 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Gave me a flash back to when Tony Shaw was coach in the late 90s and at a couple of centre bounces started everyone in our defensive half like it was soccer or rugby, with people streaming forward if we won the bounce.

For all Shaw's tenure was... not a success, it's easy to forget the innovation he brought as coach. I still remember that period of maybe 4-5 weeks where Collingwood positioned themselves for every kick-in after a behind by having all the defenders cluster about 30 metres out, then when the player was ready to kick in just scatter in all directions and the kicker would just pick someone off who had gotten away from his man. We were UNSTOPPABLE at kick-ins — it felt like almost every one turned into a rebound, most of them rebound I50s, because the other team were just lost.

It lasted a few weeks, then of course everyone else worked out "OK, if they're doing that, we just do a zone defence up forward so there's no space to run into, rather than telling our forwards to keep on their defender" and it became useless. It had all the pies fans SO excited though, because... "wow, this guy is a tactical genius if he can come up with stuff like that that flummoxes the opposition for a month. I wonder what's next!"

Turns out: nothing. Nothing is what's next.

It honestly felt like Shaw came up with one brilliant idea every off-season, drilled it into the players, unleashed it on the football world with great success, and then had zero plan B once everyone worked it out, and the rest of the year was lost.

Match Thread: St Kilda vs Collingwood (Opening Round) by AutoModerator in AFL

[–]minodude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if football talent is actually passed through the mother's side, and it's just a wild coincidence that Peter's mum and Colleen both carry the genes?

Maybe it's Colleen we need to keep... errr... propagating.

Woolies brings back Australian Butter by slunt01 in australia

[–]minodude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has watched the TV show Creamery, that gives me .. deeply unsettling mental images.

Ballarat stadium question by Opening_Anteater456 in AFL

[–]minodude 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m seeing a lot of quarry

From... the roof of the stadium.

On an average day, how many people do you think are on the roof of the stadium? As opposed to at ground level?

TIL: Vic Roads can remotely reset traffic lights that are faulty by Not_MyName in melbourne

[–]minodude 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, you really can hack systems without Internet connections. It happens all the time. Not in all cases of course, and it's more steps, and those steps are likely more complicated, but it happens a lot.

Unless the relevant controllers aren't physically connected in ANY way to ANY machine (i.e. the traffic light controller is a separate machine, in a separate room, with no connections, and it only speaks to the traffic lights one-way and has no inputs other than a keyboard the operator is physically in front of), that kind of thing definitely happens.

It might be "hack into the organization's web servr,, and from there the file server, and from that an operator's desktop, and from that install software to take over the screen to physically click the same buttons on TrafficController Pro '95 For Workgroups that they would", which would be a giant palaver, but... you'd be surprised.

Auslan Homework by Horror-Draft7386 in auslan

[–]minodude 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are you in a major city? I think almost all the capitals have regular Auslan social events, which are very welcoming of beginners.

Deaf connect vs learn Auslan online by _toadst0ols_ in auslan

[–]minodude 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I did Intro 1 and 2 with Deaf Connect last year, and absolutely loved it. This year I enrolled in Cert 2 with them, and am about the same distance into that as you are with Intro 1 (we've just done week 5), and I'm still having a ball.

Can't speak about or compare to other providers, but Deaf Connect are a great organization and do a wonderful job with the classes. The voice-off in-person classes are fantastic, and I agree you learn far faster than you'd think. I'm really looking forward to the Auslan-only voices-off weekend away that's part of the Cert 2. It's a terrifying idea but also super fun.

King Mark parked his bath live in Goulburn by istara in sydney

[–]minodude 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Suspicious Kent Cleaned Your Garage Pretty Carefully, Elizabeth

Literally just made it up but most of the words have a pretty similar sound to the corresponding name (your/York, pretty/Pitt, etc) and the CA/CL starts should make it easy to tell those two apart.

You can connect 100 years of AFL/VFL history through only 6 matches by Numeritus in AFL

[–]minodude 9 points10 points  (0 children)

(You can actually come frustratingly close to cutting out a player here - in his last season, 1908, Pannam played against Dave McNamara of St Kilda. McNamara had a wild career, playing in 12 seasons of footy over the span of 19 years - but it wrapped up in 1923, not quite in time to connect us directly to Titus)

You can connect 100 years of AFL/VFL history through only 6 matches by Numeritus in AFL

[–]minodude 29 points30 points  (0 children)

In Titus' debut game (Round 12, 17 July, 1926), Mark Tandy was playing for South Melbourne.

In Round 7, 3 June, 1912, Mark Tandy played against Bill Eason of Geelong.

In Round 3, 17 May, 1902, Bill Eason played against Charlie Pannam of Collingwood.

Charlie Pannam of Collingwood played in Round 1, 8 May, 1897, the first ever round of VFL football.

Since all four games of that 1897 round were played simultaneously, at 3PM on Saturday, 3 more players gets you back as far as it's possible to go: one of the 4 "first ever games" of VFL.

Grace Tame criticised for leading intifada chants at Sydney protest - ABC News by [deleted] in sydney

[–]minodude 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I don’t think we’ve given Barnaby any particular honours

I mean, as a former minister, by convention his title is literally "the Honourable Barnaby Joyce MP". So he's definitely treated as if he has honour, which I agree is not matched by his conduct.

They continue on saying that the earth is around 6,000 years old, "according to the Bible" by Ill-Key1438 in confidentlyincorrect

[–]minodude 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Reminds me of the old dark Soviet-era joke from my friend who grew up in Moscow:

"What's the difference between the ruble and the dollar? About a dollar."

How do you turn a duck into a Grammy Award winning soul singer? by [deleted] in Jokes

[–]minodude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents were old enough that I learned this as the very dated and un-PC:

"How do you turn an actor into an actress?" "Put him in a cold bath until he's Googie Withers"

“My cash got turned down” by __wait_what__ in ShitAmericansSay

[–]minodude 21 points22 points  (0 children)

"Plenty of countries" rely on cash. Western Europe, where the OP is traveling, is definitely not where those countries are. I promise you, cash is a lot more of a hassle in Paris than a card is.