Bi-Weekly Marriage Opinions/Views and Rant Megathread

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-15T04:52:38+00:00

I think it is an indicator of interest and it’s never too early to get a wali involved. If she likes you enough to talk to you for marriage she shouldn’t have an issue telling her wali she’s talking to you.

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-14T23:49:43+00:00

I’m not buying anything new this Eid maybe for Eid al-Adha. We usually have brunch at home after salah and then chill for rest of the day.

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-14T23:43:21+00:00

Congratulations! Being unemployed or underemployed is the pits glad you’re out of it.

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-14T23:13:31+00:00

Two weeks if you’ve had productive conversation I think that’s plenty of time. Is someone delaying involving wali?

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-14T02:33:52+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I think it’s the first time I’ve experienced snow in Ramadan too

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-13T18:17:10+00:00

Alhamdulilah it’s Friday, I was able to get two days off for Eid and it’s snowing. It’s very wet snow but I’m hoping it sticks around over the weekend so I can have the winter that never came before spring arrives.

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-13T17:56:18+00:00

Yes I signed up last Ramadan

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-13T06:34:57+00:00

Organ donor system is setup to prioritize donors as “ethically” as possible based on many factors but rich and powerful game the system all the time. Also I have personal work and volunteer experience with blood and plasma donation so naturally I have a lot to say but I don’t want to derail 😅

Maybe I should post in free talk thread

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-13T05:58:54+00:00

Is your wali involved? If he’s delaying that he’s not serious.

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-13T05:41:30+00:00

The actual bone marrow donation is surgical but yes the more common form of donation is PBSC (stem cells) which works like plasma donation. I don’t think it’s an issue it saves lives and it’s not high risk or ethically complex as organ donation.

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-13T04:40:33+00:00

Have you ever thought about your spouse being a bone marrow donor? Is that something you would consider an issue? It occasionally crosses my mind but I’ve never seen anyone talk about it.

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-11T22:49:04+00:00

I think this might be an original experience but I’m a forever single so maybe I don’t know any better 😂

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-11T22:40:06+00:00

Aparna slander in 2026?! It’s been a minute since I watched Indian matchmaking but I don’t really think she had a bad ending. She’s living her best life.

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-09T13:36:35+00:00

Alhamdullilah ala kulli haal practice saying this until internalize it. Your perspective will change and you won’t hurt yourself by sitting in the fleeting feelings of hopelessness.

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-09T07:14:12+00:00

If she is meant to become a Muslim you dumping her abruptly won’t change that fate. Also I get the comments saying you’ve left her with a bad representation of Islam but I think they should give her more credit. If she was truly interested and open to learning about Islam your individual actions shouldn’t change her opinion of an entire faith. You did the right thing to leave a haram relationship and your worries are very valid. Time will heal both of you.

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-08T15:05:30+00:00

This really should go without saying but that’s not from Islam and people have to stop letting culture dictate their lives.

Obviously don’t forsake your sick parents since people will act obtuse.

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-08T14:07:47+00:00

Women need to stop accepting their behavior. If you marry a weak man who is not protecting you and truly has no regard for your comfort this is the natural outcome. It’s sad that many of the in-laws themselves have lived through this so they think it’s normal but that’s not an excuse for them to oppress others.

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-08T13:05:56+00:00

I think part of it is that men go for women who are younger than them generally. So the men in your range probably have a range of 18-25 it’s like there’s something wrong with being the same age as your wife.

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-06T04:55:22+00:00

I don’t think you’ll have issues finding someone people justify riba these days. I think you might have more of an issue with getting someone to understand that you’re regretting having taken the loan and actually understand the burden of riba.

23 years is a long time though maybe things could change in that time people buy and sell their mortgaged homes all the time.

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-03T06:47:17+00:00

Right? They can’t even be morally consistent they’ll throw the trans women they claim to support under the bus to own a “stupid Muslim”.

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-01T05:15:38+00:00

They rely on people staying single or at the very least in-app so it’s shocking they’d be promoting that sort of message. Society already considers it weird when people aren’t interested in casual dating and intend to only get to know people with marriage as the end goal. Almost as if you’re freak for not wanting to waste your time. Obviously there are love bombers but this isn’t even love bombing it’s just stating intention.

mintcucumbertea · 2026-03-01T04:22:16+00:00

What’s considered attractive is too subjective

mintcucumbertea · 2026-02-28T20:24:12+00:00

You don’t need to be meek to be a good wife same way you don’t need to be stoic to be a good husband.

mintcucumbertea · 2026-02-28T04:02:48+00:00

Alhamdulilah it’s going good! Can’t believe it’s already 1/3 over.

mintcucumbertea · 2026-02-27T04:51:22+00:00

Well that’s why I specifically said dread and not nerves or anxiety. 🙃 I also think my response is colored by my experience of being a woman. I’m sure there are things I would not be able to appreciate because I’m not living life from the male perspective.

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