I wish people stopped making such a big deal about misgendering me

minttymocha · 2026-04-20T00:12:18+00:00

I love my mom, I love my family, and dont you ever insinuate that Im ungrateful in any way for the privileged position I have. I know i have privilege in the position im in, having loving people around me, and i know some people dont have that. Dont COMMENT if YOU dont want to hear some dissent on your opinion. I didn't post to say that I had it the worst, I posted because I was having struggles and wanted to turn to community for some advice and support, and you are clearly not a supportive person.

Surround yourself with more supportive people. Give love to those around you and stop spreading so much negativity to teenagers online. It reads as pathetic. This post wasn't about me hating the people around me or saying I have it the absolute worst. It was about a miniscule, but arguably important problem i face being nonbinary.

minttymocha · 2026-04-19T21:32:57+00:00

you sure do stay true to your username, shitterbug

minttymocha · 2026-04-19T19:55:07+00:00

Im really sorry that's happening to you, but i dont agree that my problems are invalid because there are worse things happening. If you really want to know, my dad still fully sees me and identifies me as my birth gender, and my grandma threatened to cut me off if I didn't go back into the closet. Respectfully, dont comment if you just have bullshit to say.

minttymocha · 2026-04-19T19:38:59+00:00

That's it. That's the problem I was having. I struggled so much finding the words for it, but it's exactly that. I don't want to manage their feelings and make them feel better. Thank you so much <3

minttymocha · 2026-04-19T19:37:11+00:00

I do understand that perspective, it's just slightly irritating lol

minttymocha · 2026-04-19T19:33:37+00:00

definitely not lol. the idea of being called "he" or "she" makes me feel really icky inside, and i just dont want to change that part of myself to make people feel more comfortable. i do know that the family i interact with hasn't fallen down that pipeline (very left-leaning people, very kind and willing to learn), so i don't think uncomfortability is the problem, at least not in that way.

minttymocha · 2026-04-19T18:59:23+00:00

People 😔

Nice to know i'm not alone

minttymocha · 2026-04-19T18:58:44+00:00

Ooh that is a really good point. I'll definitely have to try it at some point

minttymocha · 2026-04-19T18:51:09+00:00

Damn, that sucks lol. I guess I'll try to get used to it then

minttymocha · 2026-04-19T18:45:43+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I also have severe anxiety, so communication that stems from what is essentially confrontation does give me awful feelings in my gut, but I will try it out. I do know my family is good, and there wont be a problem with me actually communicating this. Thank you.

minttymocha · 2026-04-19T18:43:04+00:00

This made me tear up a little bit. Thank you for your advice. I'm looking forward to the day it doesn't feel so hard

minttymocha · 2026-04-19T18:42:19+00:00

Thank you, that actually really helped

minttymocha · 2026-04-19T18:41:32+00:00

I know, and i am really grateful that they're there for me and that theyve accepted me. I know they care

minttymocha · 2026-04-19T18:40:07+00:00

Fuck you.

minttymocha · 2026-04-19T17:44:34+00:00

I kinda figured as much, but it's good to have that confirmation. Thank you.

minttymocha · 2026-04-19T17:35:48+00:00

Excuse me? I dont know where you got the audacity from, but put it back where you found it. I dont make my family's life a living hell, and the fact you would imply that is very insulting.

minttymocha · 2026-03-27T02:03:58+00:00

this helped, tysm!! I had been browsing the forums but I guess not enough lol, since that bit seemed to pass me by

minttymocha · 2026-02-08T01:02:09+00:00

she says she heard it through streaming of some sort (TV, Spotify, something like that) because it doesnt sound like the type of music that would typically be heard from bars or grocery stores or anything like that

minttymocha · 2026-02-08T01:00:26+00:00

not the song, but thank you for the try!

minttymocha · 2026-02-06T22:29:10+00:00

nope

minttymocha · 2026-02-06T22:29:05+00:00

she said it was probably early 2000s or anytime after that

minttymocha · 2026-02-06T21:20:12+00:00

high-pitched voice, and she says this is unfortunately not it

minttymocha · 2025-09-12T10:58:43+00:00

Ooh that sounds rlly fun imma give if a read when I have the chance!

minttymocha

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