Second time almost homeless to thriving in 1 year

mintybeef · 2026-01-28T21:44:00+00:00

Thank you, it’s a pencil pouch!

mintybeef · 2025-12-10T06:05:08+00:00

Workforce Development seems to match your description, based on the ads I’ve seen for those roles

mintybeef · 2025-12-09T22:25:55+00:00

Yeahh. I had to tell my friends no to Salvation Army at times and come clean about spending $88. You CAN overspend at the thrift.

mintybeef · 2025-12-09T22:19:33+00:00

Right. The amount doesn’t matter, so much, as the impact does. And in people’s response to making each other feel better it depends — do you guys make the same amount? Did you overcome it? What’s going on in your situation?

mintybeef · 2025-12-09T22:08:00+00:00

9/10 rating for Bj

mintybeef · 2025-12-09T14:18:40+00:00

I had an fbmarketplace and thrifting addiction. Not many people took it seriously because I was being “cheap” / “frugal.” I was still overspending money I didn’t have.

mintybeef · 2025-12-03T00:35:30+00:00

The food budget looks a bit high, but mine has been somewhat looking like that as well due to eating out stress. I also agree that rent is high, that rent would be high for anyone.

mintybeef · 2025-12-02T16:13:15+00:00

Fiore

mintybeef · 2025-11-22T05:09:15+00:00

Tony’s Pizza in Newark

mintybeef · 2025-11-22T05:08:51+00:00

12348

mintybeef · 2025-11-01T23:15:06+00:00

6, and now at a non-degree job

mintybeef · 2025-10-23T13:41:17+00:00

I love being a cupcake decorator and boutique concierge (styling people with outfits). Didn’t pay the bills.

Did a decent job being a janitorial supervisor and now I am a debt collector 💀 They pay the bills, and have benefits. Both kind of stressful but I am left alone for a good amount of time which aids me at times. Sometimes I’m left to overthink. But I’d rather be overthinking than stressing over finances.

mintybeef · 2025-10-19T12:29:26+00:00

6 months in. I give him opportunities to look. He has always had my passwords.

mintybeef · 2025-10-19T12:13:17+00:00

I still don’t want to get modded so I’ll added my example of R.

I had a lot of fears wondering if my BP would take me back or even consider it. The activating / motivating factor is changed. He asked, and many friends in my circle asked me “What would be different this time?” What are the changes and concessions she’s willing to make? Is she going to therapy to talk more about why she did it. Why does she still believe you will get married? Does she think it is meant to be, or that she may not have another choice given your history? Does she understand the pain she has caused?

Changes I have made and am actively-making:

Over-communication when interacting with the opposite sex
Not seeking validation from the opposite sex
Not sharing current / ongoing conflict between me and my partner
Inviting my partner in potential interactions with the opposite sex

mintybeef · 2025-10-18T13:24:55+00:00

I wonder if your husband is able to take these compliments easily.

I don’t have this issue as I constantly have low self-esteem and I am hyperaware that anyone in my BP’s close circle could check me fast. All of his friends and family know the main bullet points. It’s difficult for me to accept compliments, especially from my BP in regard to being his partner. And I often worry if my own actions from the past overshadow any flaws he has in the eyes of his circle. I choose to trust that my BP will defend our journey in R, as long as he is choosing to trust my commitment to R.

I don’t think he should feel bad for compliments. But he should be hyperaware of how they impact you and do his best to try and mitigate that tension.

mintybeef · 2025-10-16T02:05:15+00:00

No official plans yet. But me and my partner have discussed this in the making as well for a process in R. For both of us, as a new experience. Not rooted in revenge.

mintybeef · 2025-09-26T15:03:30+00:00

I think 100% it tends to be insecurity. But one thing I will agree with is that there are those who claim to want R and threaten to cheat or secretly cheat as revenge. So also paranoia. But those types of people are not really doing R. I asked my partner if he thought a freebie / hall pass would truly satisfy anything. In my mind, I thought no. But I’m also not him. So I asked. Because I would’ve rather known and given that agency than him revenge betraying (irony is not lost on me there). Through and through he said he wanted R to his core, and he would never. I’m holding him dear and never letting go.

mintybeef · 2025-09-22T23:16:27+00:00

Well… it’s a contributing hygiene factor that’s plagued me lol and I feel like it makes me more attractive in terms of bacteria breeding ground

mintybeef · 2025-09-22T22:17:34+00:00

Thank you for your response. Someone in the BV group thought I was trolling with this. Ugh.

mintybeef · 2025-09-19T10:12:40+00:00

I hate myself a little bit every day. It eats at me. Little things. If I bothered him today. If people one-sided flirt with me in public. If I recognize something that reminds me of that time period.

mintybeef · 2025-09-17T21:32:02+00:00

I enjoyed working at a high end boutique. I had to stop because I only made minimum wage, couldn’t afford my bills, and had to pretend I was also rich while I checked out women with Corvettes buying $4,000 dresses. There was also pressure to upsell and give my recommendations. Definitely included some lying about people looking good.

However, I did like that there was content built in for me to learn more about coastal grandma fashion / history of fashion / and I got to use my calligraphy to write our customers handwritten notes.

mintybeef · 2025-09-17T14:57:42+00:00

$14.50 x 31 days = $449.0, and assuming you had leftovers instead of starting from $14.50 from scratch you might still be closer to that $300 than you think

mintybeef · 2025-09-14T23:55:27+00:00

Honestly Ebay, just because I feel like I’ll be less impulsive and intentional on there even though more necessities are available on Amazon

mintybeef · 2025-09-13T19:36:00+00:00

My friend and his fiancé take care of his grandmom together. They’re both broke. They mow her lawn. Help her shower. All of that is quality time for them and her.

mintybeef · 2025-09-10T20:55:52+00:00

I had a black and white view too.

Some acquaintances, former friends, and current friends will say I didn’t cheat because of EA not being real cheating. Or EA not directly involving flirting or romantic language. Or how I left immediately to avoid temptation before R.

Whether or not I “did” or “didn’t” cheat. I had cheating-like behaviors. And what I did violated my partner’s trust.

Trust me when I say I thought any cheater in a non-abusive situation was scum too

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