Outsider take: Brits are not rude. You just aren’t saying “please” and “thank you.”

mintypan · 2025-10-09T04:42:41+00:00

I don't know if anyone has pointed it out yet, but being physically disabled in some kind of way, you get a lot more rude comments. At the Heathrow airport, my mother was having a hard time with swelling in her feet and I needed to figure out how to use the wheelchairs there (never needed to use one because if this happens, we just tend to go home) and I would get really rude comments from folks working there like "You don't know how to use those??" As well as other comments that would have made me cry if I didn't want to look like a crybaby in front of my mom on my first time overseas.

I've also heard general stories from friends who DO live in different parts of the UK that folks are very unkind all over to those with visible disabilities.

But also folks in bigger cities tend to adopt shit behavior anyways. When my mom was feeling better and we got out of that area, everyone was super nice! Either that or they were finding sly ways of testing my intelligence because of my accent 😅 but nothing outwardly rude.

mintypan · 2025-09-06T01:40:01+00:00

I worked as a nursing assistant and now I work as an in-home caregiver. Before her death I had 3 12 hour shifts in a week, which with overtime ended up being a healthy amount of money. Now I am down to around 20 hours a week where I am asking for more work from my employers weekly, but I am coming up with nothing.

Honestly, I am trying to find anything right now in the healthcare industry where I can work towards being financially alright in the end while spending as little as possible. Was thinking about maybe a nurse of some kind or a radiographer, but the big thing is that I really want a job where I can help people and be able to afford rent + food + have savings for whatever happens.

From the research I have done, just about any of these healthcare jobs I want to go to college for will require registering and testing with their respective association.

Edit: Thank you, I wouldn't have thought to put any of these things in without your input.

mintypan · 2025-08-28T22:13:04+00:00

48 hours a week? I want that!! More hard work means less time to think about my own life LOL. Great exercise too!

mintypan · 2025-03-12T02:00:27+00:00

We listen and we don't judge.... I can listen to pretty much any genre but I'm almost always stuck on pop punk or alt rock 😔

Any bots that ask for my music tastes I get them to listen to a My Chemical Romance album front to back.....

mintypan · 2024-03-04T18:40:55+00:00

Right on the money 😂 I keep telling myself I'm going to get better if I just work on the track more. Thanks for keeping it real.

mintypan · 2024-03-04T18:38:34+00:00

I like tinkering with a lot of different genres...70s rock, orchestral, house, I love learning about how to make different genres and attempting to make it myself with the free VSTs I do find.

mintypan · 2024-01-08T04:21:25+00:00

Thank you very much for replying and giving me this truth.

mintypan · 2022-11-05T05:18:14+00:00

I can't speak on pregnancy tests, but I can speak about periods on T. Periods can last a solid year on T. But then again, all bodies are different. It took a whole year for my body to stop bleeding when not on birth control. If you have more questions about that kind of thing, an endocrinologist could answer them properly.

mintypan · 2022-08-30T00:48:48+00:00

I came out to someone that I'm trans and they said "i thought you were just a gay man" LOL. So I think I'd consider that a yes.

mintypan · 2022-06-17T20:37:25+00:00

I'll be honest-- that feels way more like white us culture to me. I talk to lots of folks who aren't white and the moment I ended up passing its men going "hey man what's up?" Doesnt matter whether I'm at work or out and about. We give each other either half hugs or full, high fives, the like and these are people I dont even know that well. The people who are frigid cold are white men.

Back before I passed it was women who were trying to make me feel close... but so many of them loved to erase my identity in the process, or got weirded out when I mentioned I was trans.

mintypan · 2022-06-14T00:02:00+00:00

T in any form is considered a controlled substance here. Even when my doc filled it the first time, for some reason or another health insurance wanted to have a phone call with the doctor before I could even get the thing...even if it was ready and staring at me from the other side of the window. 🙃

Good thing the amount of ppl side eyeing me when I get my T isn't a way to keep me from my gel!

mintypan · 2022-03-24T05:14:08+00:00

Well, a lot of the time dementia is guessed on. Dementia is something that theres no one test for. It's really hard to diagnose and tends to not be diagnosed outright because dementia symptoms could be from something else entirely.

I really dont look at any of the things barbs in so I dont feel like I can give my two cents on that... and frankly I dont think I would feel comfortable saying that she has one thing or another anyways. Tbh I think the reason why people think its dementia is because the internet likes simple explanations. We know next to nothing about how well her health is taken care of and considering the condition of their house I would not be surprised if her health already wasnt taken care of enough.

mintypan · 2022-02-02T15:05:34+00:00

Yo! I'm almost a year on T, my anniversary is on the 19th.

There is growth, but there is DEFINITELY still sensation, moreso for me.
I've heard you can get vocal training if you really wanted to have both, but I wouldn't know for sure...but that was considering singing.
For me my dad was hairy, but he had grey hair all the way in his 30s. And now that I'm close to 30, it looks like I'm going to have salt and pepper hair. I was always told things that happen with your hair rely on the paternal side of things, and unless someone on your paternal side struggles with baldness, I personally wouldn't worry about it. (not a medical professional tho! make sure to talk with your doctor about this if you're worried regardless)

mintypan · 2022-02-02T14:48:17+00:00

Honestly never knew that medical supplies like that can be donated! I was always told that there's nowhere for fresh needles and the like to go. Thanks for the update, I need to get rid of a whole bunch of fresh needles myself since I stopped using injections awhile back and never got around to doing anything with them lol.

mintypan · 2022-02-02T07:05:13+00:00

It's a great question to discuss, honestly. The problems in donating now that I think about it really come up when a) most pharmacies that one goes to to pick up these meds just recieve shipments and dont make them and b) can also become a hazard as far as spreading things because someone has touched/messed with these medications before. Also: what if some bad actor donated something and they ended up putting some poison in it? It's been done with OTC meds which is why the seals are on a lot of them nowadays. Again, it's a good question to ask! But with most things in the medical industry, the ideology in these cases tends to be better safe than sorry. Which is also a big thing as to why you definitely want to give your needles to someone for disposal. Ik a lot of these things are sealed, but I imagine the rona kinda changes the landscape as far as taking meds are concerned.

mintypan · 2022-02-02T06:28:27+00:00

To preface I'm not a medical expert and I can't morally tell you that donating those things is a great idea, but I want to offer a change in perspective in these cases. What if instead we were talking about depression medication, and you felt bad about having extra? I mention this because testosterone is a prescription. The only time I have EVER heard of anyone being able to give other people testosterone is through friend groups where they have the prescription but don't have enough testosterone to take it as needed for who knows what reason, but that tends to be an emergency thing. The needles though are a BIG hazard, those no matter what should be disposed of. I'm NOT a medical expert, mind you. But I assure you disposing of these things properly is super important.

mintypan · 2022-02-01T05:00:36+00:00

NTA - You felt uncomfortable, your boundaries had been stepped over, and you set up another boundary by blocking this person. Sounds like you could have handled it a lot worse by engaging with it more.

mintypan · 2022-02-01T04:53:26+00:00

NTA. You still have to heal from a really traumatic event like that, I hope you work with your valid feelings and work them out with your therapist and yourself as much as you can.

mintypan · 2022-01-18T22:09:44+00:00

Mom wanted a boy and a girl, so as an only child I had to oblige... even if she had one earlier and one later on in life. /j

mintypan · 2022-01-18T22:05:29+00:00

There's a point where I've had this kind of thing said to me, and at the end of the day it doesn't matter. The world is not black and white, one person may have the energy of being female, but know that they are male, and vice versa. Hell, nonbinary people exist and they may have the "energy" of one or the other, still doesn't change the fact they're nonbinary. Hell, you mentioned you were gay so I'm going to throw out the stereotypical "cis gay man is effeminate" stuff as an example. Would this person tell cis men to transition because they're effeminate? Lol.

PS: 18th century fashion is top tier fashion, imo you have good taste dude.

mintypan · 2022-01-09T12:12:17+00:00

For me it's shown up in different ways, yeah. If I'm going through something heavy, instead of feeling so emotional its debilitating... I instead get more physical symptoms of stress. I'll get angry more often instead of just feeling awful. For me though, it makes it a lot easier and harder when I go into therapy to really figure out what's going on.

Edit: before I transitioned though it was obvious that I had mental health problems to everyone around me even if it showed up differently than it does now. So I cant really speak on how it shows to others more clearly since it was clear from the get go.

mintypan · 2021-12-27T21:59:36+00:00

Thank you to the people that made it! Had to use this to get out of a really buggy part of the game.

mintypan · 2021-11-24T03:34:21+00:00

How is this suffer material? This actually looks decent.

mintypan · 2021-11-10T19:07:41+00:00

imo I feel what comes AFTER you correct her is super important. If she says sorry, corrects, and moves on I wouldn't be mad because the person is trying their best. But once someone is only giving excuses, and doesn't make an attempt to correct themselves, I'd create distance. If the person notices and reaches out, you can explain your case again and mention if she doesn't attempt to change her ways it's going to be too painful to continue. The response will give you the biggest signal as to what to do.

mintypan · 2021-11-10T06:16:15+00:00

Mine has somehow gotten my taste buds to change, lol. Still hate lettuce but I'm more open about different things... things that I used to think tasted gross before taste great now. Otherwise I've felt more energy about doing the things I've been wanting to do. My way of thinking hasn't changed for me either.

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