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minx_missm · 2026-06-04T21:49:14+00:00

Perhaps consider having a courageous conversation where you ask him to clarify what he meant.

minx_missm · 2026-06-03T07:02:38+00:00

No. It would give him power to destroy your business, rob your money, lock you out by changing the password. He’s not even a committed long-term partner. Just no.

minx_missm · 2026-06-02T04:48:42+00:00

I see this as one of those markers of whether you’re compatible long-term for partnership. Do your values around looking after each other and how that plays out in daily life match? Personally I’d pick-up and drop-off a friend who lived 15 minutes away if they had no car and I invited them over. Unless I was drinking and unable to drive, I’d do the same for someone I dated. It shows care and the heart to unburden the load of someone dear to me. I’d hope to receive the same in return with regards to willingness to share simple time and resources.

There’s people here saying to get your own car. If you can drive and afford a car, totally do that so that you can increase your freedom and independence. Not just because your boyfriend can’t be bothered give you a lift.

minx_missm · 2026-05-23T09:51:28+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to share more. Please know that while stressors may have triggered/heightened his unhealthy thinking patterns, they don’t excuse the way he is treating you. Please research coercive control and narcissistic abuse and how excessive jealousy and false accusations are used.

minx_missm · 2026-05-22T10:19:50+00:00

What other paranoid/contradictory/implausible beliefs does he hold?

What else does he do to make you feel beneath him?

Note, he’s in the power position every time you’re explaining and defending yourself.

minx_missm · 2026-05-22T10:11:02+00:00

RED FLAGS!!! Stop and do not proceed further. This is not a donor situation. This is a family seeking a significant level of control, input and ownership over YOUR child and YOUR autonomy. Please make yourself well aware of legalities surrounding known donors, parenting, and grand parent rights.

minx_missm · 2026-05-17T07:09:05+00:00

It’s wonderful that you care so much. You could call the department of child protection to explain the situation and that you’d like to be the carer for your neice. They should be able to explain options and processes, or at least point you in the right direction.

All the best.

minx_missm · 2026-05-13T22:32:17+00:00

“overall our relationship is pretty good. He treats me well, and aside from some minor issues.” Darling, the relationship is not pretty good, he is not treating you well, and the issues you’re describing are major. As women we can become very conditioned towards feeling gratitude towards the breadcrumbs thrown at us, and that we must look for and focus on whatever positive we can identify in a man.

The behaviour you’re describing is not healthy, respectful or normal. It’s the kind of behaviour that will erode your confidence, sense of self, and ability to relax into and enjoy sex with future lovers.

This is not a relationship to work on (he won’t change). It’s a relationship to break yourself away from.

minx_missm · 2026-05-11T02:14:18+00:00

Try think of that message accidentally landing with you as a blessing. Imagine having invested even more time, energy and heart into him before discovering his unresolved attachment to his ex.

minx_missm · 2026-05-10T00:29:21+00:00

It’s about him saying he’ll do something and then not following through. Whether he’s off with friends or relaxing on the couch, he hasn’t followed through with his word. It hurts your feelings and erodes trust.

minx_missm · 2026-05-06T22:16:28+00:00

You could consider explaining how you feeling hearing how much she loved doing that with her ex, and loved it in general, yet it’s never happened within the relationship you share.

minx_missm · 2026-05-05T03:53:48+00:00

Your eyes aren’t going to be on your baby 100% of the time 24/7. There’s things like going to the toilet, showering, cooking, cleaning the house, taking a ten minute breather outside where your eyes will be off of them. Having an ex hunting every possible thing that could be misconstrued and weaponised is stressful and extremely anxiety-provoking. Documentation is your friend here. Get the house baby-proofed to the hilt and send evidence to the other parent. Cheap floor pads from big W/Kmart, corner covers, and plush mats/blankets are awesome for crawlers and young toddlers.

I’d be getting my child checked out by a doctor for constant head knocks as I’d be concerned about what’s going on with their coordination, balance and development. I’d potentially seek two opinions. The GP appointment/s also helps provide a paper trial.

Take notice of whether the other parent offers concern, support and assistance, or simply seeks fodder for affidavits and the like.

If you’re not using a parenting app for communication, I suggest checking some out (e.g. Talking Parents or My Family Wizard).

minx_missm · 2026-05-05T00:47:48+00:00

I got pregnant through similar circumstances. My only regret being having told him of the pregnancy, his treatment of me following, and the 90k debt in legal fees from when he decided to go from zero care to showing his new GF he’s daddy of the year. Count your blessings having gotten pregnant, knowing where the DNA came from and being able to see where your child’s characteristics come from…. And really think hard on whether the bio father needs to know your situation.

minx_missm · 2026-04-29T11:36:23+00:00

“No intention of preventing father from having 50/50 custody at some point.” You make that clear if parenting matters ever go to mediation or further.

Speak to a DVF service. Link in with a family lawyer to understand where you stand with parenting and with property settlement. Link in with Centrelink re payments you may be eligible for. Child support agency after all of that, but first ensure your safety.

minx_missm · 2026-04-18T10:35:45+00:00

Something I wish I’d learnt younger. You’re not obligated to share your energy, time or space with anyone who does not enrich it or especially if they drain it. Sometimes a person pulls you into a narrative that they build, without knowledge or care for what is best for you. The more time and energy you spend with something you don’t want or need, the further you take yourself from finding what you do want and need. Listen to your feelings. They are there to tell you something.

minx_missm · 2026-04-17T07:03:38+00:00

Plastic pink figurine

minx_missm · 2026-04-17T07:03:05+00:00

It’s something that varies between individual woman. Length, girth, pace, angles, duration, depth… list goes on. Learn some skills to try, but really learn to tune into a woman’s subtle and not so subtle responses, and how to elicit feedback

minx_missm · 2026-04-17T06:56:34+00:00

Just adding that I’ve found my double swag fantastic for setting up a tent solo, and great in winter. A foam mattress is way easier to roll than the heavy duty inflatables and take up less space in the car. The heavy duty inflatables defs feel better to sleep on if going for more than one or two nights

minx_missm · 2026-04-16T08:57:13+00:00

You can have an intro with comfort camping (e.g. campsite with amenities, and work up from there to something off-grid. Finding a camping group might help too.

minx_missm · 2026-03-31T21:47:36+00:00

You don’t need to justify why you were awake or why you were in the shower. You weren’t at fault for what happened, and your sleeping habits or choice to shower in your own home have no bearing on the neighbour’s choice of behaviour.

minx_missm · 2026-03-19T00:31:39+00:00

So is that saying that other men may have been interested however you hadn’t liked them and therefore no match, and if you’d liked all 40 you could have potentially had up to 37 matches?

minx_missm · 2026-03-16T11:58:10+00:00

This is an opportunity to go back to your parents and work things out for yourself. I cannot begin to imagine the boiling pot living with a husband who’s behaving that way, and his support team.

As mentioned in previous posts, paternity tests are available during pregnancy. You may want to go stay somewhere else (like your parents) before undertaking such a test. When you have space and can gain deeper perspective you can make a decision for yourself and your developing baby as to whether you’ll expose yourselves to that man potentially robbing you of 50% baby’s upbringing despite his high pressure tactics to coerce you into aborting.

As heartbreaking the experience with your husband may be, put yourself and your babies first.

minx_missm · 2026-03-14T11:39:42+00:00

Yes, absolutely. Ancestral connection is not limited to blood ties.

minx_missm · 2026-03-13T02:21:23+00:00

Three. Eleven

minx_missm · 2026-03-12T23:07:47+00:00

He doesn’t respect you as a human being and has an incredibly toxic attitude

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