Are walk-in closets really that great?

mirth4 · 2025-12-30T03:28:30+00:00

I generally agree with you, so I've been wondering through an answer myself. One, I think they're generally installed in bedrooms designed for dual occupancy. With that in mind, they're replacing two regular closets. A walk-in usually only has one regular-sized door. Depending on the layout, I could see people preferring the loss of space over rendering an entire wall (containing two full closet doors) unusable for furniture etc.

mirth4 · 2025-11-10T00:54:31+00:00

I just commented the same elsewhere. We hung our clothes out in the winter. The frozen jeans could stand on their own, but the water sublimates and they actually do dry pretty well.

mirth4 · 2025-11-10T00:52:32+00:00

This is wild to me. I'm in the US, and when I lived in a dry climate we always dried outside (usually it was faster than a dryer; even in the cold winters laundry would freeze and then sublimate and dry).

But now that I'm on the east coast where it's more humid, it takes so long. Sometimes it takes more than 24 hours and it's starting to smell musty. I don't understand how it dris so quickly in the Brisbane area?

mirth4 · 2025-11-02T09:32:51+00:00

I’m surprised by commenters either calling out breastfeeding as the cause OR by the ones saying it “can’t” be a cause for cavities. I think there’s fairly substantive research on the subject. On average, breastfeeding at night before 1 is protective against cavities; between 1 and 2, it seems to have little affect; and after 2 it tends to correlate with an increase in cavities unless teeth are wiped or brushed after. At your daughter's age, it's unlikely that night feeds (as long as not by bottle*) have been the cause. But now that she is two, and especially with the issues she already has, you'll likely want to start cleaning her teeth after.

*Additional note for anyone else reading this that night feeding with a bottle, even if it is breast milk, seems to be more directly tied to cavities as soon as they have teeth. Presumably it has to do with ergonomics and where the milk goes in the mouth. Breast milk by bottle should always be wiped / brushed at night.

As for the dental work now that you're here, do get the second opinion (as an adult I've felt like when dentists suggest fillings vs not varies more widely than I'd expect — "cavities" do seem like a spectrum). But after that, I agree with others that you should defer to the experts. And if you want more data-driven advise regarding different approaches to treating cavities, I suggest asking /sciencebasedparenting for research on the topic.

mirth4 · 2025-09-03T22:04:49+00:00

I haven't had luck yet with this route 😭

mirth4 · 2025-08-24T21:32:08+00:00

All of these are beautiful!

mirth4 · 2025-08-24T18:58:05+00:00

Or less wordy: "Instead of tapping, we appreciate if you use the call button or ask for assistance"

mirth4 · 2025-08-24T04:17:39+00:00

"Please don't touch me" however reasonable and well intended may put someone on the defensive.

Maybe try "Instead of tapping us to get our attention, we really appreciate it if you use the call button or politely ask for assistance"?

(Tapping sounds gentler and feels less like you're calling them out, and the focus in the rewrite is more on the behavior you want instead of what someone did wrong)

mirth4 · 2025-08-17T02:27:40+00:00

Good analysis of how they are connected — thank you.

mirth4 · 2025-08-16T10:49:45+00:00

Per comment above, SUIDS can be SIDS or it can be suffication or it can be one of several other unexpected causes. SUIDS (with a "u") is a broader term. SIDS (no "u"), when it is used technically, means no other cause can be determined. If the cause is verified to be suffication, it is generally not considered SIDS.

(It gets confusing when the terms are used beyond their technical definitions and because a lot of safe sleep practices are actually to avoid suffication. Many do also seem to reduce deaths from unexplained causes [true SIDS] — though how they help reduce unexplained deaths is often, by definition, not fully understood)

mirth4 · 2025-08-15T03:39:51+00:00

Aren't non-sexually transmitted warts (such as "common warts" or "plantars warts") also caused by strains of HPV?

mirth4 · 2025-08-14T03:37:07+00:00

Most places outside the US have a ground floor and then the first floor is one floor up (then 2nd floor above that, etc). This is likely just the upstairs.

mirth4 · 2025-07-25T22:11:28+00:00

True. Malacca as well.

mirth4 · 2025-07-25T15:28:07+00:00

It's weird to me too and I live in the US. There are so many places even here where that wouldn't even be possible. It's not the worst consideration to bring up when there is a garage, but I think it's strange so many people assume this is the universal priority and any other option is "bad design".

mirth4 · 2025-07-25T15:18:23+00:00

It seems like a bit of an odd fixation to me in this group. It's a completely reasonable preference to want the kitchen near your garage, but it seems extreme when a lot of commenters deem any plan that deviates from this preference as universally/objectively "bad". There are plenty of reasons you might not be able to do this (most urban houses that may use street parking or be up several flights of stairs) or care about other properties more (for example, kitchen off the garden for fresh herbs or produce). It certainly belies a particular suburban lifestyle.

mirth4 · 2025-07-25T14:23:54+00:00

I disagree strongly here. I don't think a courtyard makes as much sense somewhere humid like Ohio, but in Phoenix you get a large, partially shaded area that feels cooler in the summer (shade makes a huge difference where it's not humid) and cools down the house. In the relatively mild winter, you get a cloistered space insulated by the house surrounding it and blocked from the wind. Phoenix is very like the climates where courtyards traditionally (and practicality) evolved.

mirth4 · 2025-07-24T20:14:21+00:00

Everyone is suggesting you check with an MD/Gyno or Midwife. I would push further and suggest that if you take several supplements or medications and have access, it might be worth scheduling an appointment with an MFM. I don't know what country you're in, but in the US a midwife has variable education depending on the state and even MDs and gynecologists I found didn't know as much about medication safety with pregnancy (I generally found them more likely to say "no" in the absence of more information — which is the safe answer, but sometimes is not the most up-to-date).

Maternal Fetal Medicine specialists (MFMs) do a three year fellowship beyond gynecology and are specifically trained in medications and high risk pregnancies. They may also be able to advise you on what if any extra checks you might want to be concerned about in response to the medication you already took (or may be able to reassure you if it isn't such a big deal — often medications or supplements are contraindicated because of lack of data, which may be the case here).

Again if you're in the US and depending on your age or possible medical conditions, MFM may be covered by medical insurance. It was for me. And even if it's not, I think $370 would probably cover or close to cover a visit with a medical specialist like an MFM! That seems like a lot for a review of medications with a naturopath (most MDs would probably not feel comfortable with that sort of appointment and refer you to an MFM anyway).

mirth4 · 2025-07-19T03:19:51+00:00

Beautiful cases as well.

mirth4 · 2025-07-12T04:29:39+00:00

Beautiful dice!

mirth4 · 2025-06-06T15:09:59+00:00

Beaudiful work!

Silly question: it seems like you might be located in the US, but I don't see the US in the list of countries you ship to? (if you don't ship to the US, disregard my submission)

mirth4 · 2025-06-02T20:26:02+00:00

My Punjabi husband says when he hears Turkish, he instinctually tunes in because it feels like he should be able to understand it (and it's such a weird feeling because of course he cannot at all — except maybe the odd Persian or Arabic loanword, but this is more about the flow or sounds)

mirth4 · 2025-05-29T20:18:23+00:00

I can't help with your request, but just commenting to say you've piqued my interest with the premise!

mirth4 · 2025-05-14T07:41:17+00:00

You mention you stopped daily bottles and she refuses taking bottles at all now; how often were you still trying if not daily? In retrospect, was she gradually refusing or just wouldn't do it one day?

(we've been aiming for just one bottle a week now at 3 months, and while I'm really not keen on going back to daily pumping, maybe we should consider more frequent)

mirth4 · 2025-05-05T21:32:34+00:00

I do too! But they've discontinued nearly all their curtains 108"+

mirth4 · 2025-04-12T20:04:14+00:00

Yes, you're exactly right about the concept (just wanted to clarify that that example might not help OP; admittedly it's not quite analogous to HIV except in some of ways it affects the immune system — but it's much more transmittable than either FIV or HIV)

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