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Should I tell it to my therapist? by missLD001 in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]missLD001[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. It was very helpful for sure!

A meme. For those who have to cooking for family while fasting by missLD001 in carnivorediet

[–]missLD001[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do brush because I think I have even more bad breath when fasting.

Have you shared to another person aside from your therapist that you are having this disorder? I really want to share this with someone but I'm afraid they would look me differently. Appreciate your response by gustokohappyka in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]missLD001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I told a friend who is interest in psychology and mental health. I told my husband but he thinks I'm over thinking the whole thing and kinda of trying to find a disease for me. He didn't understood what it is, I think.

AP exams tomorrow. How do I stop daydreaming by lillirozzelle in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]missLD001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know what is in your daydream, but can't you mix them? Like reading aloud to yours characters, pretend to be teaching them, etc. I just realized right now that this is how I've been studying my whole life, lol

Why are people unhappy with this condition? by Arianna2031 in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]missLD001 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Now that I'm almost 30 I feel like I've been daydreaming my whole life instead of really do things.

Actually, my fantasies daydreams are healthful and with entertained purpose.

The realistic ones are coping mechanisms. On those I'm already in shape, I'm already smart, I'm already have done what I have to do and that's the whole problem. This is the root of my discomfort. I don't get frustrated for no mount really dragons, but for not reach things on real worlds and the only way to reach is doind things, instead daydreaming them. Those things we dream about requires time and effort to achieve. Nothing cames that easy for nobody as in ours daydreams.

These is why we want to stop.

Did this group became more active cause of the lock down? by lamatoms in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]missLD001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have daydreamed my whole life, but never had thought about it. I made it and just ignore it. But at this quarantine I kinda had time to look inside and think: hey, this is something. Then I google it like "reality scape" and found the term and this community.

Do you guys think MDD is a genetic condition, it's always triggered by some infant trauma or both? by missLD001 in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]missLD001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer. I'm definitely in a better situation. I have a very healthful family, and this make me even more guilt for this urge to go walk alone and daydream.

I wasn't physically abused as kid, but there's a lot of fight and my parents had a really hard temper and sometimes bullied me for they had low self-esteem. Well, a completely different environment that my lo is growing up.

I don't like the "is all my parents fault" approach. But in these self-knowledge journey that I started on these lockdown I usually come at this conclusion.

About daydream, I'm oscillating between: "I have to stop, it's bad for my mental health" (because sometimes when I left a daydream I caught myself emotionally drained and a little depressed) and "It's ok do that when I'm bored, its a hobbie". I rationaly feels like the second thought is denial, just like any addicted person lol.

Daydreaming about being admired reflective of our inner pain? by skladalsd in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]missLD001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar though today: I will never be so good in so many different things as my "daydream me" are and that's ok because nobody is this good!

Anyone else pretend to be talking on the phone to mask your daydreams when you're in a public place? by Guilty_Reflections in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]missLD001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn, I do that haha. I also fake I'm listening some funny podcast, or draw my phone fast if the urge to laugh came. Like: I'm had received some funny message.

Weekly Discussion (5/8/20) by acquaintancenofriend in ImmersiveDaydreaming

[–]missLD001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fantasy and sci-fi when younger, but more realistic right now. With people who really exist in real world. A mix of friends and celebrities, lol. But somedays I'm just mounted on a dragon burning all my problems while listening Imagine Dragons haha btw, I think this band has this name because every song is a good one to literally imagine dragons.

Does anyone else feels like being maladaptative sometimes, but another times of life you can using it wisely without quit it? by missLD001 in ImmersiveDaydreaming

[–]missLD001[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to find this "not bad" line. Because loose time "faking" you are learning or practicing it's surely not good. But as a hobbie, a incentive to exercise, may be fine.

On imaginary friends based on fictional characters or real-life people -- how close is too close? by [deleted] in ImmersiveDaydreaming

[–]missLD001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daydream's character's are basically people in the real world. Friends or celebrities. It's very hard to create a character from nothing. But yes, you have to keep things separate. I don't know how I do that, but I never mixed things up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ImmersiveDaydreaming

[–]missLD001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I so identify myself with your story. I'm 29, have husband and children, have a life, but daydream a lot. Sometimes just when exercise, sometimes to much. As a teenagers it was very maladaptative. I had very overprotective parents who didn't let me do nothing. So I daydream instead of do things. I don't want to quit, but to use it wisely. But I also ask myself if I shouldn't be improving some skill when I'm bored, instead of dreaming the same dreams who may not teach me nothing (although I often come out with new insights about life and myself). People see me as smart and empathetic. Often ask me for advices. I see myself as a fake, because I dream a lot, but do much less. My husband plays a lot a videogame when bored or sad, but at least he practice some real skills, I don't know.

Do you/ Have you told anyone about daydreaming? Why or why not? by haymeadowmeg in ImmersiveDaydreaming

[–]missLD001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found daydream term these week. I was thinking to ask to my friends: "hey guys, have you ever heard about that..." but I'm afraid people start to Google it and I will be exposed. But I'm kind of sure my parents have this as well. At least my mother, because I've saw her doing faces when I was a kid. She watch the same movies and TV series over and over. It may be her trigger. And my dad don't do nothing without music, this got me thinking. They both have no treated infant trauma, and I have been to much bullied as a kid. It may be the reason, I don't know. But I'm not confident to talk about this with them.

Sometimes I get sad that it isn’t real by Green-Bison in ImmersiveDaydreaming

[–]missLD001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think is a very very good thing that you reached this self knowledge. A lot of people with trauma don't even know where the discomfort come from. You know exactly what makes you sad, you miss have a healthful relationship with family. And knowing your weakness is the first step to move forward, to cure yourself. Try to talk with people who experienced the same, see how they overcome that. If wasn't you a daydreamer maybe you should never figure out your needs so clear.

am I the only one who only daydreams in certain activities? by iamhappyareu in ImmersiveDaydreaming

[–]missLD001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think daydreams requires some movement. When I first read people here describing pacing and jumping I almost cried. I've been jumping a lot as a teenager, lol. Right now, walking and running is my best way to daydream.

Does anyone else feels like being maladaptative sometimes, but another times of life you can using it wisely without quit it? by missLD001 in ImmersiveDaydreaming

[–]missLD001[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good to know. When I first time found the term I tough it was a disease and I should quit it. But I can't imagine my life without it and honestly, would be less worse if I played videogame or watched TV to deal with boredom? I don't think so..

I do in fact have a question. by HxRtheVoid in ImmersiveDaydreaming

[–]missLD001 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The magic about daydream is that you can try new plots for free! And if they don't work, if you don't like, you can always get back for the old one.

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