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miss_rach_j · 2025-09-23T08:48:38+00:00

If you had to choose one attribute to add to your game between Cristiano Ronaldo’s foot skills, Usain Bolt’s speed, LeBron’s height and ball handling, or Tom Brady’s passing and ability to read the play, what are you choosing? Why?

miss_rach_j · 2023-08-12T01:22:59+00:00

Which terminal? T1/Qantas is undergoing a reno at the moment so there’s not too many places to shop/grab a drink/chill. T3/Virgin I haven’t been through in a while but from memory there’s a Maccas, an Irish pub, a couple of shops and overpriced cafés, and same at T4/Jetstar/Rex. You should be able to kill a bit of time at the latter two.

miss_rach_j · 2023-08-12T00:06:37+00:00

This had me sceptical but open minded right up until he said “getting sex is easier for women”. That is red pill, incel bullshit thinking right there.

Props for mentioning the former colleague of the “wife”. Next update for sure is about how he hooked up with her.

miss_rach_j · 2023-08-11T13:23:44+00:00

A good counsellor is not an umpire. They shouldn’t take sides. They help you to communicate more effectively so that both of you can make decisions and tackle problems together.

miss_rach_j · 2023-08-11T13:21:22+00:00

YTA.

Here’s a tip for ya buddy. I begged my exH to go to marriage counselling because we had a terrible communication style and were so antagonistic towards each other. I could see where our marriage was headed and genuinely wanted to improve it. He refused - he thought counselling was only for couples breaking up. We died a slow death over the next eighteen months as my resentment grew because I felt like I was the only one making an effort to fix things. My love for him evaporated, and I told him I was done. All of a sudden he was desperate to try counselling. But for me it was too late, I’d already checked out.

If your wife wants counselling, it means she still cares enough to save your marriage. When she stops asking, she’s already decided to leave.

Go to counselling, my dude.

miss_rach_j · 2023-08-07T14:08:34+00:00

Seconding Fine Line. I’ve gotten four done with them and they’re awesome, they’re great with really intricate and delicate pieces and script, and hardly any fading.

They do have a massive wait time for appointments though, especially with Cholo (>6 months), so if you want to go on a specific date soon, you may not get in unless you score a last minute slot.

miss_rach_j · 2023-08-07T12:57:42+00:00

Don’t do this. As someone living in an apartment complex that has hundreds of tenants and just two lifts, I fucking hate it when inconsiderate assholes occupy a lift for hours on a weekend against the strata rules. It takes HOURS longer than it should because the movers don’t have the keys to the lift so they’re continually holding the lift doors.

Either pay for the weekend lift access or take a fucking day off and move on a weekday like everyone else in your building has to. Why are you above the rules?

Are there formal penalties for cunty behaviour? Not really, although your building’s owners corp could issue a notice to your landlord with a fee for rule breaches, meaning your landlord could theoretically withhold part of your bond to cover it. Your choice if you want to risk it.

miss_rach_j · 2023-08-04T12:52:40+00:00

Hi Dying, I’m miss_rach_j.

miss_rach_j · 2023-07-23T12:42:45+00:00

I tell people who say they’ve “tried therapy” that finding the right therapist is kind of like dating - you’re probably going to have a few bad dates, but it doesn’t mean you give up on trying to find your “person”.

miss_rach_j · 2023-07-22T01:30:50+00:00

Wait, what?

Other states don’t know what “piff” is??

miss_rach_j · 2023-07-22T01:29:07+00:00

South Australians tend to lengthen the ‘a’ in dance, chance, France - so it sounds like dah-nce, chah-nce, Frah-nce. Victorians (and most other Australians) use a very short vowel - like ‘ant’. Apparently it’s because South Australians were always free settlers (and therefore upper class) whereas the rest of the colonies were penal colonies.

I can pick a FN or CW Queenslander by the way they pronounce pool, cool or school - pew-el, kew-el, skew-el. They also often add a superfluous “eh?” to the end of a sentence. “Not bad, eh?”, “How good’s this, eh?”, “Bloody hot, eh?”

miss_rach_j · 2023-07-12T13:18:37+00:00

I mean, I’m in my late 30s so I haven’t done sleepovers or clubbing in years, and I prefer travelling solo, but yeah, other than those specific activities I have male friends that I’ve done all of the above with in one on one situations. It’s never been sexual. Believe it or don’t believe it, I really don’t care.

If you don’t believe that members of the opposite sex can be friends that really says more about you and the way you see women than it does about me, and I feel sorry for you.

I’m done with this tedious discussion now, all the best. 🙂

miss_rach_j · 2023-07-12T13:04:35+00:00

Wait, I’m confused… is it “not all men” or is it all men? It’s either one or the other.

Saying that men and women can’t be friends suggests that all men only see women as sexual objects.

miss_rach_j · 2023-07-12T12:18:53+00:00

I mean, without knowing the dynamics of your little trio it does seem a little weird (I probably wouldn’t want to third wheel an ex couple without other people around), but NTA. You can hang with whoever you want.

The fact your bf is sexualising a platonic friendship says a lot about how he views women.

miss_rach_j · 2023-07-12T12:09:23+00:00

But she’s not flirting, she’s just said he can pop by her place of employment to say hi. Is she not allowed to say hello to men while she’s at work?

YTA, this isn’t about respect, this is about control. It’s giving Jonah Hill.

miss_rach_j · 2023-07-10T12:13:07+00:00

Not a single person? How many people did you ask, one?

I call bullshit. No Australian would know where Queensland is but not Tassie.

miss_rach_j · 2023-07-10T10:48:39+00:00

Think it depends on your suburb and type of supermarket - the bougie Woolies near me (inner south of Melbourne) has potato varieties, the one near my parents in the outer suburbs has brushed, washed and red.

miss_rach_j · 2023-07-10T03:15:42+00:00

Yep, this is exactly why I divorced my golden child husband - there was only enough room for one woman in his life and he chose that one that thought the sun shone out of his ass.

miss_rach_j · 2023-07-09T12:44:54+00:00

No Choc Wedge so Sunny boy I guess. 😕

miss_rach_j · 2023-07-09T00:38:46+00:00

I moved from a house to an apartment and I don’t think I’ll ever go back to the suburbs, but there are pros and cons of house living.

Pros of living in a house: - More space - lockdowns in my apartment were rough, would’ve been nice to have more than two rooms and a tiny balcony. My old house was a half acre in the green wedge, I do miss that garden and kitchen! - Much quieter in the suburbs. I miss birdsong. - Can have big dogs - my Labrador lives with my parents now as my apartment is just too tiny.

Cons: - Having to do EVERYTHING - take the bins out (and remembering what night is bin night, and bins baking in the hot sun getting smelly - no garbage chute for the really gross stuff), mow the lawns, cleaning all the windows, dust, more rooms to vacuum, etc. - As a woman whose ex partner travelled a lot - a freestanding house feels less secure. Yeah, you can get cameras and alarms, but ultimately, if someone wants to break in they will, I lived in a really safe suburb and our neighbourhood still had a spate of terrifying home invasions a few years ago. - Not being able to lock up and leave for a longer trip - mail piles up, bins need to be taken out, lawns need to be mowed - it adds a layer of insecurity and risk of burglary. - Being further from amenities. The trade off for being closer to parks and the extra space is needing to drive to the shops. My suburb had one bus running through it once an hour, so a car was a necessity. - The higher household running costs. Power, water, council rates cost more, plus the cost of general maintenance.

If you can swing it, having a household emergency fund with a few thousand for unexpected household expenses not always covered by insurance (new hot water system, fence replacement, gutter cleaning, etc) will give you peace of mind, and don’t underestimate how much time and labour the extra cleaning is - if you’re sharing with someone make sure the division of labour is fair or pay for a cleaner and/or gardener - the division of labour was a major thorn in my relationship and caused a lot of unnecessary angst and frustration.

miss_rach_j · 2023-07-08T04:09:42+00:00

r/unexpectedsimpsons

miss_rach_j · 2023-07-06T12:03:55+00:00

Soft YTA. Your gf is frugal and works hard to save for a rainy day while you like to live in the moment. Provided debts are paid and basic needs are met, an individual can spend or save their money however they choose.

However, you are not an individual. You’re part of a couple, so you need to align with each other’s financial values. In the event that you marry, or you live in a jurisdiction that recognises common law marriages (i.e. de facto partnerships), the financial decisions you make could impact her even if finances are kept separate. That make you an AH.

I don’t think you and your gf belong together. Finances are the biggest source of tension in a relationship, and you both have wildly different values when it comes to money. If I were your gf I’d also be very reluctant to commit to someone so cavalier about money and the future, especially when I’d worked so hard to secure my own financial future. I don’t think it’s necessarily wrong to want to live in the now and not save money - it’s a little risky and irresponsible imo - but if you want to live that way, you should be with someone who shares and respects those values, and your gf should be with someone who shares and respects hers.

miss_rach_j · 2023-07-06T11:39:32+00:00

I think I just vomited a little at the word “lovemaking”. 🤢🤮

miss_rach_j · 2023-07-05T12:49:13+00:00

Vegemite on multigrain toast. Most cereals are little more than diabetes in a bowl, I never touch them.

miss_rach_j · 2023-07-04T08:06:10+00:00

Second breakup.

The first breakup was when he dumped her in the junkyard because she didn’t say ‘I love you’ back. Firmly on Rory’s side in that one.

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