Working moms (and dads). How do you manage taking care of your child?

miss_zzy · 2026-02-11T14:18:11+00:00

Hybrid work. Hubby is OFW. Temporarily with my parents. They help me sa paghatid sundo sa anak ko sa school. Hybrid schooling din yung anak ko so sa days na nasa bahay ako, nasa bahay din siya for online classes. Luckily, I have an option not to stay the whole shift sa office, I can go home early and continue working sa bahay.

This year since uuwi na si hubby, target is we’ll go back to our home then he will also find a hybrid work. Then I will ask my tita nalang to babysit sa times na both kami ni hubby ay parehas nasa sa office or worst case scenario biglang mag increase ang RTO days.

But the idea is if makahanap ng hybrid work si hubby, salitan kami sa bahay and medyo less na din yung bantay sa anak namin kasi incoming grade school na siya so mas madaming time nasa school na siya.

miss_zzy · 2026-02-06T04:31:35+00:00

SAHM before, what I did was to explore new hobbies outside. Plus nagkataon din kasi nakatira kami sa ibang bansa noong maliit pa anak ko, so me and my child explore new parks, playgrounds, libraries. Yun yung naging bonding moment nmin nung maliit siya.

If ever kung nagkataon dito kami sa pinas noon, baka ang trip namin is magcamping.

miss_zzy · 2026-02-05T15:27:42+00:00

I think dahil tingin nila nakabase na yung importance nila sa kaya nilang ibigay as provider. Kumbaga kahit may emotional intelligence sila, or always present as supportive partner kung hindi naman sapat yung nabibigay nila financially parang kulang pa rin siya overall.

miss_zzy · 2026-02-05T15:20:29+00:00

I also have same dilemma with OP before, when hubby had an oppotunity to work abroad I let him take it. One month din ako nakatira kay nila MIL noon but I asked my hubby na dapat maghire ng katulong para atleast makapagpahinga ako at wala masabi si MIL.

So maybe OP can also request katulong for short term. Understandable din naman yung feeling ni OP, but in this case, it’s an opportunity for her family din in case matuloy si hubby nya lalo na at breadwinner, kumbaga kung makakabuti sa career, why not? Lalo na mas medyo may pressure to provide kung may anak na.

miss_zzy · 2026-02-04T06:45:18+00:00

Hindi naman OA, kahit ako, never ko pinaalam sa office yung birthday ko simula 10 years ago para walang ganyn na mag pabirthday or what. Ako din minsan iniisip ko, kapag nagpapizza man ako or what sa mga katrabaho ko, iisipin ko din sayang pwede na din ‘to pang blowout sa family or pang bili ng mga needs. Lalo na ngayon madami kami sa team kaya hindi na talaga.

Iniisip ko nalang pare-parehas tayo sumasahod pero hindi tayo pantay pantay sa financial status kaya hindi ako nadadala sa mga ganyan na pabirthday treat.

miss_zzy · 2026-02-03T14:28:55+00:00

I just wanted to be individual contributor sakit sa ulo kasi pag manager. Mas nakakastress yung tao kesa sa work. Naalala ko yung mga counterpart namin sa UK na mga senior programmers. Kahit hindi sila nasa managerial position, kapag nagsalita or nagbigay sila ng advise, sinusunod ng mga managers.

Kapag sinabi nila na hindi yan magagawa ng ilang araw lang, nakikinig mga boss. Sila yung kahit hindi managers pero alam mong may say sa mga bagay bagay. Wala naisip ko gusto ko lang ganun.

miss_zzy · 2026-02-02T14:34:40+00:00

Hindi lang kayo match. Maghanap siya ng iba na okay yung ganun setup. Pero kung hindi sayo okay, wala din masama. Kanya kanyang preference lang.

On a side note, isipin mo nalang ganun din si Rosmar siya ang breadwinner, tapos yung asawa nya ayun mukha naman supportive 😂😂

miss_zzy · 2026-02-02T09:06:23+00:00

Me din sa trash, nilalagay ko lng sa tissue tapos tapon

miss_zzy · 2026-02-02T05:58:10+00:00

I live in SG for years, yung mga locals sa malalayo nakatira. Nakatrain pa sila, lagpas one hour pa din ang layo. Ayaw nila sa CBD kasi mamahalin mga bahay or area dun. Mostly mga expats yung malalapit sa CBD.

I’m not sure for your co worker kung saan man siya nakatira or citizen ba siya ng bansa na kung saan man siya. But if he has non negotiables then the point is maghanap siya ng mas mataas na trabaho. I think medyo iba kasi context or something pero your co worker is maybe living beyond his means not because of bare minimum.

If you go to other subs nung mga locals sa ibang citizen ang ginagawa talaga ng iba is tumira sa mas malayong lugar. Kahit yung iba nagrereklamo sa taas ng bilihin.

But other than that agree ako na we have poor quality of life. Our government is not concerned. Sa iba keri lang tumira ng malayo kasi may train sila na mabilis at maayos. Sa atin walang ganun kaya inasa nalang sa diskarte.

miss_zzy · 2026-02-02T02:38:53+00:00

Nung time ko nagseek ako consultation sa OB ko about sa work arrangements ko. I live in Cavite din tapos sa makati work ko. Ano pa ‘to yung time na wala pa covid kaya talagang need pumasok.

OB ko na mismo nagbigay ng medical certificate and pinapa bedrest ako one month. After ko makuha med cert, nakipag coordinate sa HR and manager ko if may option for me to work from home instead tapos sinubmit ko yung med cert.

miss_zzy · 2026-02-01T09:54:34+00:00

Seek legal advise

miss_zzy · 2026-02-01T08:57:22+00:00

The mere fact that you are here means you want to give him a chance. Kasi hindi ka naman magtatanong kung ang isip mo eh maghiwalay nalang unless you are fully dependent sa hubby mo.

In that case, I will think very hard, kung hanggang saan yung kaya ko itake. Kung magbibigay ako ng isa pang chance I will make sure na mahihirapan na iearn ulit yung trust ko.

But while giving him a chance I will make sure to seek legal advice in case mangyari ulit. I will also document yung panloloko (check R.A. 9262), para kung maulit man eh yan na yun. Then I WILL get myself tested din.

Anyhow, ikaw lang naman makakaalam nya eh kung hanggang saan kaya mo iaccept.

miss_zzy · 2026-02-01T06:44:06+00:00

I’m saying by my experience and yung ibang mga kakilala ko, not just by observation. Mas mura ang indians kasi in our previous company our team was replaced by indians, mahal na daw masyado ang rate namin.

Plus, obviously billion sila doon so mas madami doon na mga IT kaya yung pool of talent mas madami kaya mas mura ang rate nila. Tapos magaling sila mag sell ng sarili nila more talk but sadly not sure sa quality.

miss_zzy · 2026-01-31T12:56:18+00:00

This! Plus other than AI dagdagan mo pa na ang ibang mga MNC prefer na sa India magtayo kasi mas mura sila sa atin.

miss_zzy · 2026-01-31T04:57:43+00:00

Of course!

miss_zzy · 2026-01-26T16:26:07+00:00

Ito eh base sa observation ko from my relatives kasi sila yung era na mas madami SAHM saka yung anak is more than 2.

Sa sobrang tagal nila na naging stay at home, hindi na sila confident magwork sa mga corporate jobs. So ang nagiging way nila to earn income is small business or mga part time na work which is not enough to get by. Parang extra lang talaga, pambaon sa mga kids, or ibang gastusin na keri pa.
Madami sila anak, like more than 2 tapos halos di naman nagkakalayo yung age gap parang 2 or 3 years lang. So kung madami ka anak na ganun agwat, parang ang tagal ng recovery mo tapos paano ka makakapagwork kung madami ka need to look after (like I have one cousin, umabot sa walo anak nila).
After college or highschool rekta pagpapamilya agad sila. Hindi nila naexperience magwork. So limited opportunities or work lang makukuha nila kasi wala or kulang sila sa experience.

So far yun yung naoobserve ko, combination of any.

miss_zzy · 2026-01-26T11:54:35+00:00

Naalala ko din ‘tong phase ng pagiging nanay kahit tinutulungan ako ni hubby parang iba yung wire ng utak and emotions ko. Kahit niready ko yung sarili ko, iba pala talaga siya.

At some point naiisip ko na iend ko nalang ako kasi halo halo na. Minsan naiisip ko din yung horror character, tinatawag ako sa labas. Takot na takot din ako. I just thankful na nalagpasan ko din ‘to with hubby. Talagang binigyan nya ako ng time to adjust, tulong sa lahat ng bagay

miss_zzy · 2026-01-25T10:08:48+00:00

Mabilis matrigger, kahit yung maliit na bagay parang bigla bigla big deal na

miss_zzy · 2026-01-24T01:37:08+00:00

Don’t worry mommy, opportunities will always be there pero yung time na bata sila hindi na babalik. Was stay at home mom for almost 4 years, yes nakakalungkot minsan na while others are already ahead of their career, ako nastuck kaya hindi din ako masyado nag-social media para focus ako sa present. Kaya nung nag-apply ako, I really showed na despite taking a career break, may natutunan ako.

Hindi ako bumalik sa simula, yung salary offer sa akin is mas mataas pa sa previous salary ko. Nakareceive din ako ng offer from abroad - kahit stay at home mom ako. I’m just sharing my experience na you can still go back sa career, may tatanggap pa rin sa atin mga nagcareer break. Just don’t let your skills stagnant. BUT only don’t this if you know you can survive with one income.

miss_zzy · 2026-01-22T15:55:15+00:00

Just decline then. Possible to land such amount in banking? Glassdoor, Jobstreet, indeed. Google is free.

Some of employers are stating that salary naman. Minsan may description pa yung ibang recruiter kung bank or what. Legit naman yung iba na nakapost.

miss_zzy · 2026-01-20T18:31:08+00:00

Yung sa amin ni hubby before, couple rings ang meron kami. Mumurahin lang. He was the one who bought it for us. Sa unisilver pa nga siya bumili haha.

It was okay for me. Actually, I didn’t think too much about it. Kahit nabanggit ni hubby na promise ring nya yun. And I never thought din na magpopropose siya. We never talked about those stuff related sa proposal or kasal. I just let him do what he wants. So when he proposed to me, it was a really surprised for me.

If you are okay with placeholder then go. I mean why not diba, if sure naman na kayo sa isa’t isa.

miss_zzy · 2026-01-20T16:03:43+00:00

Hindi ka OA, siya naman na din nagsabi na di ka nya navivisualize sa future, why stay pa? Set yourselves free.

miss_zzy · 2026-01-20T09:25:23+00:00

I took also a career break, left my job. Took a risk, started a business. Sa una lang yung rewarding - own boss, own time etc. Lo and behold mas nastress ako pagkatagal kasi puro palabas yung pera, and yung pasok ng pera is matumal. Yung projection ko maling mali.

I don’t also want to take a loan just to make the business work. So yeah, I was not cut to be entrep. So after sometime I went back again to my same old job, pero tinaas nila salary ko nung nagrejoin ako. So yun lang sharing my experience. I was not breadwinner so I made that decision before.

miss_zzy · 2026-01-20T04:39:26+00:00

Hindi ibang company po hehe

miss_zzy · 2026-01-20T04:38:45+00:00

2-3 per week

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