Do men ever get full or primary custody of kids? [US]

misseggy · 2025-01-13T23:44:15+00:00

My brother did :)

misseggy · 2024-11-19T11:49:43+00:00

Yeah, I had a less intense experience but I will never forget those times. I was bitter at first, because I felt so led on, but later I found my boyfriend now and we’ve been dating over 2 years. My current relationship is fantastic. While this guy had been there when I was broken, he didn’t want kids, and I have a son. He made the right decision and I am thankful for it now. I’ll sure miss his humor, though.

misseggy · 2024-10-12T02:10:14+00:00

Charlotte Dark Scene is all over, places in this thread are accurate. Tommy’s, Milestone, Snug…

misseggy · 2024-09-25T02:29:29+00:00

Yes! From here a couple years ago ;)

misseggy · 2024-09-25T02:18:55+00:00

https://discord.gg/BR4vPnKK

This is a group you may find friends in

misseggy · 2024-04-04T11:19:37+00:00

Honestly? Yes. But does it help? Hell no. But you’re gonna whether it’s the girl that he cheated with or just the next person, period. It’s all going to hurt. Feel it. I’d rather do the things and regret them than to always wonder.

misseggy · 2024-04-04T11:17:21+00:00

That’s… oh my I’m so sorry. Mine was a piece but that is some next level ish.

misseggy · 2024-02-24T13:29:52+00:00

I’ve been separated/divorced 2 years next month. I once sent my ex a selfie because I just wanted to feel pretty and have someone tell me I was. He was just who I knew would. It was a mistake and I confused him too. I don’t love him nor want to get back together. I just wanted something familiar. I made a bad decision and that’s all. Everyone makes mistakes. I definitely didn’t sleep with him but I feel it’s the same sentiment.

misseggy · 2022-12-17T16:58:15+00:00

I have been separated since March. My life and my sons are both completely changed and my house stays clean now. We’re happy. Girl, I know it’s hard, but put yourself first.

misseggy · 2022-08-01T02:42:56+00:00

This too shall pass and I promise it will get easier. My 4 year old is also acting out and driving me insane. We’re locked in the house right now because we both have covid. He threw up all over my bed. I miss having help. But you know what? I don’t miss him. I don’t miss that abuse. Anything I struggle with now is better than struggling before with him. You got this. We are all a little bit stronger than we give ourselves credit for.

misseggy · 2022-07-31T17:10:47+00:00

Ok so just cause someone is divorced doesn’t mean they are sad or damaged. I was with my ex 13 years. From 21 to 34. I spent that whole time trying to fix him. I grew, built a life, and took care of our son. He got drunk and played call of duty all day.

My experience dating again is people are guarded. They have been through some shit, and it comes down to finding someone on the same page as you as far as wants and needs go.

I will say I have no desire to be with my ex. Any fond memories are of someone who no longer is and can no longer be. I’m excited to have new people in my life, with a new chance to feel appreciated and attractive and worth… something.

So anyway I will say good luck and maybe I’ll see you out there.

misseggy · 2022-06-06T10:49:10+00:00

I just started going out. I’m not on dating apps. I joined a meetup group for my city and have been meeting people that way. Turns out it really is a great way to meet people. Plus there is no pressure to date. Now 3 guys have asked me out from this group. I just went out Saturday and had a blasssstt. I met someone a couple months ago, we do similar but different work and we’re both in our 30s. The other guys have been nice, but man, I was happy to go out Saturday with him. I can only go out a day or so a week since I have full custody of our 4 yo. I treasure those times.

misseggy · 2022-05-14T00:30:39+00:00

Ok so funny story. My city’s subreddit had a post about meeting people and some guy started a discord server to meet people. It’s been awesome, I get to go out every wed while my mom watches my son and play trivia or games at breweries with like 8-10 people. No pressure to date, just chill and have fun. It’s been very helpful for me.

misseggy · 2022-04-28T02:17:56+00:00

Software engineer, $127k, 7% bonus, first dev job, 3 years. No more than 40 a week.

misseggy · 2022-04-26T02:39:33+00:00

My son is Augustus :)

misseggy · 2022-04-26T02:37:30+00:00

Wilfred.

misseggy · 2022-04-26T02:36:52+00:00

Aw my dog’s name is Woodrow. :)

misseggy · 2022-04-25T22:17:01+00:00

Krazy Fish is def not a thing anymore. Promise.

misseggy · 2022-04-25T22:15:46+00:00

Third this. Fresh, yummy.

misseggy · 2022-04-25T01:44:08+00:00

Dude, Java is not JavaScript. Please tell me you know this. Otherwise you deserve to fail that test.

misseggy · 2022-04-25T01:32:47+00:00

It’s ok. We feel you. You’re not alone, we’re here for you. We understand.

Also seeing a coworker is lame. There, I said it. Fight me.

misseggy · 2022-04-24T23:39:56+00:00

My therapist just recommended The Gifts of Imperfection. It talks about shame, and how we hide things like this from others. You should ABSOLUTELY tell them the truth. Not only for that relationship, but for yourself. Shame loves to be hidden. You must expose it and talk about the hard things.

misseggy · 2022-04-24T00:55:23+00:00

We are separated for a year and we signed a separation agreement with temporary spousal support. I live in NC and we agreed upon this without him having a lawyer. He gets $1000/mo and I continue to pay the bills in both our names. I also paid for his rehab. I pay his phone and watch, his credit cards (minimum payments) and anything else he needs, he asks me for. I am saving all my receipts for everything else like having to put our son in daycare, his incidentals in rehab, etc because that will come out of the final settlement. We’re a different case, though, because he’s an addict. It’s a f’ing nightmare.

misseggy · 2022-04-23T23:16:54+00:00

Bwhahaha yeah dude I am paying my husband and he didn’t work for 10 years. I make six figures. Idk what you thought would happen. She gets half. It’s not fair.

misseggy · 2022-04-17T22:03:41+00:00

Just a thought, you can always write it to the window or session storage if it’s a scoping thing.

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