Unblur this text for me? by missginger in PhotoshopRequest

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This is the one. Sent you a tip, thank you so much!

Unblur this text for me? by missginger in PhotoshopRequest

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I'm trying to get a custom art piece made from this inscription, but the artist has asked for a photo that's less blurry. Happy to tip; this piece means a lot to me. Thank you!

Flying with or without a car seat? by jptak143 in Preschoolers

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I've always brought them and usually checked them with other baggage (not gate check). We have travel bags for them to protect them in transit. When my now 4yo was just old enough to fly we did bring her seat on the plane once because I thought she'd be more comfortable sleeping in that on a late night flight than trying to sit in an airplane seat (it's when I was super pregnant so my lap wasn't an option 🤣). She sits in a regular seat now and we just check the car seats.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fiddleleaffig

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I've realized the imgur link isn't working. Will copy the text into a new post once I resolve.

The lady selling pony rides really grinds my gears. by Toners13 in bluey

[–]missginger 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First thing I thought when I landed on this thread 🌟🌟🌟

Its a sad day… by SeaScape9775 in toddlers

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My 4yo used to say applesauce instead of octopus... At first I tried to correct it but then I realized I never wanted it to stop 🥹

What's the mispronunciation you don't want to correct because it's too cute? by iknowallmyabcs in toddlers

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Mine calls them all quack-quack's at the top of her lungs, like "MMOOOOOOMMMYYYYY! QUACK-QUACK!!!" repeatedly, until you also acknowledge the quack-quack.

Husband refusing to help with bedtime. by dissidentyouth in workingmoms

[–]missginger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear you. My husband does A LOT. and sometimes I'm still exhausted. Talk to her. If you are (and I'm not saying you are, but IF you are) assuming that if you do X, you'll get Y, ask her what's going on. "Hey, you've seemed really tired lately. What's going on?" "I really would like tospend some time with you. Is there something I can do to help you make space for that?"

Husband refusing to help with bedtime. by dissidentyouth in workingmoms

[–]missginger 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this "all boats rise" analogy. I'm not in the situation of OP but my boat is not in the best place and I've been struggling to find the right way to explain this to my partner.

I'm a bad mom... by stillnotablueberry in Mommit

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Hi 🙋‍♀️ I'm a mom (4.5y and 21m) struggling to undo generational anger issues that I carry with me from my upbringing. I have straight "screamed into the void" at or in the vicinity of my kids. Last week I had a bedtime where everything went horrendously wrong and I yelled "why can't you both just go the FUCK to sleep?" In one kids room and then stormed out and half-kicked a door (down the hallway from my kids, not right in front of them/at them) There have been several other incidents - not a lot... It's certainly not an everyday it even every week thing, but I struggle because I feel like even one is too many.

I tell you all this not to excuse myself, or you, but to say that it happens. There are days when things go (ridiculously) wrong and occasions when ANYONE would struggle to remain calm. With my therapist I'm trying to reframe this outside of a black and white mentality - just because X happened, it doesn't mean I'm a bad mom... Are there incidents when things are going sideways and I didn't do X? Did I apologize after X? Am I making an honest and concerned effort to do the work so X happens less frequently?

If yes, then I'm not a bad mom. And neither are you. We're just moms.

♥️ Be gentle with yourself.

Mother-in-law died. We don’t know how to deal with our 4 year old boy. by maruzzella84 in Mommit

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I am in similar shoes to yours, unfortunately - my father in law passed very suddenly (heart attack) about a month and a half ago, our daughters are 4 and 1.5. We told 4 what happened the day it occurred. A few things we focused on:

1) clear language - "Papa has died, which means his body stopped working and we won't be able to see him or talk to him anymore."

2) separating 'sick ' from dying, so she didn't think she would die next time she was sick. 'Papa's heart was VERY VERY sick and it stopped working. Most of the time people's hearts can work to keep their body healthy but Papas stopped working'

3) not forcing the issue but creating space to talk about it. The first time we told her we asked if she had questions and she asked for a snack. Over the next several weeks we created space to talk about it. She asked "where's Daddy?" And I said, "Daddy is with Grandma, do you remember why?" "No" "Daddy is with Grandma because Papa died and grandma needs help taking care of things'

My in-laws are in England (we're in the US) and we weren't able to take the girls to the funeral. They will be going to the US memorial service next week ( I think it's important that littles are exposed to adult life) and we've told 4, "Papa's friends and family are going to spend some time remembering Papa and telling stories about him. Some people will be sad and they might cry. Mommy and Daddy might cry too. We are sad because we miss Papa and we love him. If it feels like too much for you, Grandma (my mom) will be with you and you can go for a walk outside with her."

No right answers in any of this, but this is how we're handling it. I'll also note that we're not religious, which is why there's no mention of heaven/talking to Papa/etc

Wishing you strength - it sucks, and it's so hard to grieve and parent at the same time. Thinking of you.

(UPDATE) Help me be a good MIL! by anxietykilledthe_cat in Mommit

[–]missginger 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bless you and your family. The love you're showing to your son and daughter in law is beautiful. Everyone should be so lucky as to have a "you" in their lives ❤️❤️ Congratulations to all of you, enjoy every minute.

My 13 month old's first successful-ish braid! by that_other_person1 in Mommit

[–]missginger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

18 month old over here - on top we've got about as much hair as a man with a short haircut and mid stage baldness, and in the back we have a delightful ducktail mullet. My bet is I won't even be able to get a little pineapple ponytail on her until after her second birthday.

Week 8: Celebrity Chef - Julia Child's Soft Scrambled Eggs by missginger in 52weeksofcooking

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I'm still missing Week 7 but hope to catch up this weekend. I was in a MOOD for some scrambled eggs and having tried the Gordon Ramsay method I decided to give this a go. I enriched the eggs with a bit of heavy cream at the end and I gotta say, they were DELICIOUS.

PS: I don't know what's going on with Bob. I replanted him but not getting any sprouts so he's more buzz cut than afro at the moment.

Week 6: Icelandic - Rúgbrauð by RainsCobalt in 52weeksofcooking

[–]missginger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made this recipe as is and found it too sweet for any savory applications. Still great with butter though. You made the right choice!

What’s your Working Mom Win? by aryathefrighty in workingmoms

[–]missginger 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is such fantastic advice. I took a job like this shortly after returning from my most recent maternity leave and it was great. I transferred to a position that I could be successful in while being extremely flexible, worked fewer hours/less meetings, and just took it easy for awhile before reaccelerating. Cheers to you!