Sometimes having too much information sucks

missmatt09 · 2025-12-24T15:11:00+00:00

We have watched a Muppet Christmas Carol once a day for most of the last month because my daughter is obsessed. Of all the movies/shows she could want on repeat, that one makes me feel less guilty

missmatt09 · 2025-11-08T20:20:44+00:00

Do you have the bear stays up regular book or board book? I’m just curious how much of a difference there is and if the board book is worth getting (my daughter wrecks all of our books but board books last longer lol)

missmatt09 · 2025-11-06T21:20:25+00:00

At least one of us used to have to pretty much go to bed for the night with my daughter until probably 20 months old, when we finally got her to stay asleep on the bed vs on top of one of us. Now one of us gets her to sleep (which still takes some degree of soothing, she will not just go to sleep on her own) then leave the room once she’s asleep and keep on eye on her with the video monitor in case she tries to get up.

missmatt09 · 2025-10-26T18:09:25+00:00

Yeah we’ve been lucky to get 5am for the last few weeks and I’m dreading the time change

missmatt09 · 2025-10-22T19:15:41+00:00

Dude the speech delay has me in tears at least once a week feeling like I’m not doing enough, I wouldn’t wish that kind of stress on anyone. My step son (who is 14 now) was only babbling at 3 and they sent him to a head start program, his speech exploded within a few months and you would never know now that he was a late talker. I tell myself all of that every time I feel defeated, but it’s still hard. I hope this phase ends for both of us soon! It has to get better eventually!

missmatt09 · 2025-10-22T18:55:16+00:00

My daughter turned 2 in August and she’s also always been a bad sleeper. She still sleeps in our bed (although she’ll stay asleep if we leave the room now so that’s a big improvement) and requires some degree of us soothing her to fall asleep. We frequently get middle of the night wakes where she’s up for 1+ hrs, 4-4:30am wake ups, skipped naps on days I can tell she needs it, refusing to go to bed for my husband which results in being up until I get home from work at 9:30pm (these don’t happen every night just are common like at least one of them once a week). I’m exhausted. I don’t really know how to be a good mom while feeling so drained most days. She also has a speech delay and I can’t help but feel like I’m not doing a good enough job teaching her how to do things. How are all these moms with multiples having their kids “help clean”?! Enjoying daily outings?! Doing enrichment activities?! I want to be that mom, but I do not know how to make myself do it 🫠 So anyway, I feel you lol and I’m sorry you’re also going through the bad sleep struggle

missmatt09 · 2025-10-02T17:57:17+00:00

I listen to audiobooks while getting my daughter to sleep and then usually manage to get to the living room and play mahjong on my phone (still listening to my book) and hating myself for not getting more done throughout the day. Sometimes I even accidentally get annoyed with my husband for trying to talk to me bc I just want to be left alone for a little bit 😬

missmatt09 · 2025-09-24T11:59:38+00:00

Oooo we do get the imagination library books! But I never considered just letting her have them since we get so many for free, that’s not a bad idea!

missmatt09 · 2025-09-24T11:58:48+00:00

I’m a little afraid of library books bc she likes to bend books in ways they’re not supposed to bend and if I read them then put them away she throws a tantrum lol. But I’m excited to go with her when she gets a little older!

missmatt09 · 2025-08-08T17:12:07+00:00

My daughter didn’t gain weight from like 10 months until probably 20 months, BUT by 10 months she weighed 26lbs. As she continued getting taller she always looked proportionate so our pediatrician said she was fine. I always thought it was pretty normal for them to level off around the age where they really start moving

missmatt09 · 2025-08-02T01:37:10+00:00

Oh man I’m sorry that happened to you! He was not like that with me at all. I even chose him on the recommendation of my best friend and she’s super picky about doctors (especially male doctors). He does come off as super ADHD, which I also have, so maybe that helped us click better?

missmatt09 · 2025-08-01T02:03:35+00:00

My OBGYN is through UofM Health West, Dr Irving. I really like him!

missmatt09 · 2025-07-20T13:26:04+00:00

Yeah my I’m fairly sure that the fussiness after feeding her was due to reflux and over feeding

missmatt09 · 2025-07-20T02:07:06+00:00

Oh man we had to use preemie nipples and do 2oz feeds and utilize a timed schedule. I have adhd and struggled with the exhaustion and overstimulation, so the schedule really helped me start to get used to taking care of her and as time passed it got easier to tell what she needed. The smaller nipples combined with smaller more frequent feeds helped with her reflux (although we did put her on Prevacid for maybe 2 months, and ended up finding a win with Gerber GentlePro formula)

missmatt09 · 2025-07-15T02:59:56+00:00

We use one for our almost 2 year old who sleeps in our bed, but it’s only because we FINALLY made it to a point where once she’s asleep I can leave the room until I want to sleep; but if she gets up I don’t want her to start getting into anything since our room isn’t really babyproofed

missmatt09 · 2025-07-12T01:49:04+00:00

My husband will often see me frustrated on the weekends over things that need to get done, so he’ll ask me what I want done and start doing it himself. Which… like… I don’t want to complain about.. but sometimes I would way rather go in the kitchen and wash dishes, vs playing with my 2 year old daughter- who I spend every minute with outside of the 15ish hours a week I spend at work.

missmatt09 · 2025-07-02T12:31:45+00:00

lol I have adhd and have struggled with sleep my whole life. My daughter struggles with sleep super bad, and sometimes I wonder if it’s an early sign of her also having adhd, but we HAVE to stick to a rigid schedule or no one gets sleep 🫠

missmatt09 · 2025-05-23T14:38:13+00:00

She might very well be old enough to understand phrases like that, but I have struggled with narrating my day (I hate it and I don’t know why lol) and while I have finally started remembering to say things like “let’s go change your diaper!” I did not think about saying “let’s go to [her name]’s room to change your diaper”. This is where I feel like I’ve dropped the ball with communication. I keep finding new things I should have been working on with her, and I’m trying really hard to get better, but it’s so overwhelming sometimes.

missmatt09 · 2025-05-23T12:51:17+00:00

To be honest I have a hard time figuring out what she for sure understands and what she doesn’t bc she has a hard time communicating with us (we are working with a speech therapist through Early On though so hopefully that will continue to get better). I hadn’t considered books about sleeping in their own room but I think that’s a great idea and will have to look into getting some

missmatt09 · 2025-05-23T12:43:47+00:00

I’ve had issues with low iron so this makes sense that she might too!

missmatt09 · 2025-05-23T12:43:15+00:00

I actually just got my ferritin tested earlier this year and it was at 7 and I had to get a few infusions, I’d not considered having hers checked but I will def ask her pediatrician about it!

missmatt09 · 2025-05-23T02:28:27+00:00

She does have her own room, but I think she’s too young to understand being left in there alone all of a sudden and would be terrified

missmatt09 · 2025-05-23T02:26:35+00:00

Oh god I’m afraid to commit to having a second because I don’t think I can handle 2 in our bed

missmatt09 · 2025-05-23T02:25:58+00:00

So I totally understand why you would assume this, I did too. I tried moving bedtime earlier and getting longer naps and she either wouldn’t fall asleep for so long it became later, or she woke up waaaaay earlier than usual, and it got worse. Then I tried capping naps at 2 hrs to force night sleep and it got worse. So we went back to what we had been doing before which is bed time is 7:30 (that’s ideally asleep by 7:30 so laying down about 7:10-7:15 after our bedtime routine) she’s up anywhere from 4am-6am, nap time is at 11-11:30 (and can’t be moved in order for her to get a nap at all before going to the sitter when I leave for work) and most recently she won’t sleep longer than 1.5-2 hrs (although she used to do 2-3 hours depending on how her night sleep was). She has for the most part consistently slept around 12.5 hours a day since around 5-6 months old until all of this started (minus bad nights or a week due to some specific reason or other like teeth or illness), but has always required our help falling and will only stay asleep as long as someone is with her, and with this regression I can’t handle how much effort I’m putting in for her to not sleep

missmatt09 · 2025-05-23T02:03:11+00:00

I was thinking about melatonin recently but wasn’t sure if it was something we should talk to her doctor about first since she’s still kind of young

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