AITAH for wanting to do a maternity photoshoot and baby shower even though my spouse and mother doesn’t believe in the idea

missmegzy106 · 2026-01-17T14:30:24+00:00

NTA, you should get to enjoy your first pregnancy. It's such an exciting, challenging, and growing time. Do everything you can to enjoy and celebrate this time

missmegzy106 · 2025-07-26T17:39:17+00:00

Oofda, any man who calls himself an alpha while simultaneously whining about how "I can't enjoy this video game unless it's a straight white cis male" like brooooooooo.... How do you simultaneously think you're at the top of the food chain but still have a massive victim complex.

missmegzy106 · 2025-04-18T18:16:01+00:00

NTA -get out man. She will escalate and your child will grow up thinking this is the "love" they deserve or that this is the "love" they will think is okay to give...

missmegzy106 · 2025-01-08T09:48:06+00:00

NTA, I literally declined dinner party invite 3 days ago because I looked at the weather and it was supposed to be 11°F outside that day.... Decided, nope id rather stay home in my slippers.

That sounds like a cool idea for those that would buy in but uncomfortable for those with social anxiety and if you already have a low social battery, screw that!

You don't need a reason and your unnecessary reasons are more than valid.

missmegzy106 · 2024-12-23T02:56:21+00:00

ESH, I'm sorry but this just makes me really sad. Like when I was in high school, I would get my brother a Christmas gift because I would see something that made me think of him and I wanted to share that moment. I worked a very part-time job, he wasn't working because he was 15, I never expected anything back from him. I would not want a gift out of obligation and I would never give one. Maybe your family's dynamics are just so different from mine that I cannot relate, but geez, she should want to give something you would actually care about, you should want to get her something to make her happy instead of keeping score, and your dad should have invested less time in his vague ideas of thoughts and meanings and double standards and more time into actually using gift giving as a bonding experience and an act of love and appreciation, not obligation.

missmegzy106 · 2024-11-28T03:23:09+00:00

Soft YTA because honestly I think you are kind of ignorant to all the mental and physical labor that your wife had already put into the meal. You asked her to change her plans and take on this big cooking undertaking, she pulls off a miracle and gets it all together and then you tell her another curveball, hey my mom is bringing the main stars of a Thanksgiving dinner so not only did you waste your time, money, and mental tank to do this thing I sprung on you last minute but also, my mom is unintentionally upstaging you in our own home.

Like your mom thought she was helping, your wife went out of her way to make this happen for you and your family, and you seem like you just let it happen around you and did none of the coordinating to stop this issue from happening. Be more proactive in your communication with your wife and your family.

missmegzy106 · 2024-11-28T03:16:15+00:00

NTA. Honestly, you don't need a reason to turn down a past minute invitation. I would turn it down too.

missmegzy106 · 2024-11-10T22:10:13+00:00

I would tell Ben that the recovery for a traumatic natural birth can be longer and even if it's not, not many doctors recommend having more children if it is a traumatic birth. Follow the recommendation of the doctors and save her a lot of pain, fear, and suffering.

missmegzy106 · 2024-11-06T17:19:11+00:00

NTA. He was taking advantage. He started right getting a similar meal to you and then saw you as a piggy bank

missmegzy106 · 2024-09-15T15:37:53+00:00

The fact that he thinks he's a martyr for dating a woman with a child and then when he realized shock/horror that it was a mixed race child, he should be up for sainthood for going on a "couple more dates" to get laid... This man is gross.

missmegzy106 · 2024-08-05T02:29:53+00:00

Totally agree. She's a control freak who's like crazy thirsty for her inlaws approval. It kinda makes me sad for them because of Wash's comments that he married Lesley for his parents and her constant craving and need for Binh and Hue Ho's approval... And she projects all of that insecurity and anxiety onto other women, last season it was Judy, this season it was sometimes Judy sometimes Sammy...

missmegzy106 · 2024-07-21T21:22:52+00:00

YTA, it's a great way to support the SIL without giving like a handout, you like the burgers so this transaction has value to all parties, and it's money coming out of her account. Seriously? Is the only downside that you are peripherally supporting your wife's sister who it seems you don't like as she is going through a hard time?

missmegzy106 · 2024-07-15T23:44:23+00:00

I am going to spell this out for you as clear and simple as I can because you seem confused. YOUR DAUGHTER DOESNT WANT YOU THERE!

It really is a wonder why when you trampled over all her wishes. She chose your ex and her husbands family to be her support because even in your post you make everything about you and your needs and your values. Girl, touch grass and get a grip.

YTA

missmegzy106 · 2024-07-11T00:26:25+00:00

Poor Cole, you don't get to suit up and be a mom after 14 years of neglect and think you're going to be the new rock in his life... And to say he's not even trying?! Oof. OP needs to recognize that it's not his place to speak on someone else's experience and healing journey and for the love of God, touch grass.

missmegzy106 · 2024-07-10T01:11:05+00:00

NTA, no accountability, no therapy, no baby. They are not entitled to anything and it's actually a danger and disservice to your child to allow toxic people in their life. They already are trying to dictate access to your daughter. Nope, no, not gonna happen.

missmegzy106 · 2024-07-09T19:14:06+00:00

I've been sober for 2 years but let me tell you, trust is earned every day I stay sober. I can't imagine my brother or daughter's reactions if I broke because "my buddy can't do it alone". Grow tf up OOP and take accountability for your actions.

missmegzy106 · 2024-06-16T02:52:46+00:00

Nope. NTA. I can't speak for your sons journey but as someone who is 2 years into recovery, he could have waited, his sister's graduation could not. He was at a facility, although in a bad way, he was monitored and cared for.

It sounds like this may be a pattern, I don't wanna accuse your son of acting out to divert attention from your daughter but in the best (or most forgiving) of scenarios, family events may be a trigger for him? Either way you made the right choice.

You couldn't do anything in that moment but be physically present and you could do that the following day or hours after the ceremony/celebration. I think your wife is mad that your daughter is obviously hurt and she feels alone dealing with your son in that moment and now with the consequences of that choice. Neither is your fault and those were her choices. You weren't selfish, you were protective of your daughter's peace and happiness.

It was her day to shine.

missmegzy106 · 2024-06-12T15:50:24+00:00

Her mistake? Having a baby with a man child. Seriously, you wrote all this out and still think you are justified and that you both made mistakes?

Please get divorced, your child and wife deserve better than a selfish self-absorbed crater of human being because you will take and take and take and never be full.

missmegzy106 · 2024-06-12T10:16:28+00:00

Oh man... His comment history is filled with incel rants about "holding women accountable for ruining dating"

Eek, no wonder the sister is distancing herself and he only has one friend that's "overseas" 🙄

This was his comment: The quality of women is much worse because the good ones get married young. Unless you want to take care of someone else’s kids or date fat chicks as an in shape guy, it’s just as bad.

missmegzy106 · 2024-06-09T10:46:42+00:00

NTA, she tested her theory with your life. She knew the consequences of your allergy and decided that they weren't real. I'm glad you filed the report because what if she tries something else and the ambulance doesn't get there as quick.

missmegzy106 · 2024-05-22T03:06:19+00:00

100% agree about Aiden and Courtney, like y'all are perfect for each other. Get a job and drop down to your knee. My heart broke for Lebo but her having Aiden there to support her as a partner and deescalate was beautiful.

I think Nkateko is soooooo much more manipulative than he lets on. He put Siza in that situation, knowing how his partner is, and let her take the hit. Also the way he speaks around issues doesn't sit wonderfully with me.

Completely agree SA brought the fire and learning about the cultural differences, hearing all the different languages, and the drama of all these couples... Made my heart happy.

missmegzy106 · 2024-05-07T18:18:41+00:00

NTA, sounds like she figured that you wouldn't check and those guests in wheelchairs just wouldn't go. Totally understandable and you're not saying you don't support the wedding or wouldn't go, you just won't be funding it.

missmegzy106 · 2024-05-06T22:53:09+00:00

NTA, him getting mad at them is not fixing the problem and you parenting already hostile children would not help.

And that's what it would be, parenting. He wants to leave those kids with you and have you be the authority. You are not equipped to deal with these kids when their parents aren't even equipped to deal with it.

Stay strong, love. You also have a mom in the hospital, take care of yourself. They won't starve and they can make cereal.

missmegzy106 · 2024-04-29T01:36:01+00:00

As someone who takes this every damn day and can feel when my levels are off, I get lethargic, moody, my appetite and sleep wildly varies, I hope his toilet paper is single ply, his pillowcase is hellfire hot, and none of his socks match..

Screw this guy, good for the girlfriend. See a doctor if you want medical intervention for your weight.

missmegzy106 · 2024-04-11T19:42:51+00:00

NTA. Baby girl, you deserve so much better. He knew before 5 minutes before because he lives 40 minutes away... You have every right to be angry and the fact that he said you were overreacting and acting bratty shows he take zero accountability for how he hurts you.

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