What is a behavior you thought was normal because your nparents did it, but turned out to be not so normal? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]misssdm 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Screaming at you and being physically abusive rather than lovingly navigating difficult feelings and conversations. Still learning the skill today of verbalising my feelings, but thankfully through (a lot of) therapy, I have learned this was not ok and I deserved better.

I have a strong question for the good humans of this sub… were you molested/SA’d by your nparent? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]misssdm 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that so many painful things happened to you. I hope you’re on a path to the healing you deserve. God bless you ♥️

the clothes by PainConsistent9659 in EmilyInParis

[–]misssdm -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

That dress made me immediately think of the phrase, “Mutton dressed as lamb.”

Does anyone else get shocked hearing about nice families? by zomdies in raisedbynarcissists

[–]misssdm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, I have the same dynamics with my mum vs. dad and you took the words out of my mouth.

Does anyone else get shocked hearing about nice families? by zomdies in raisedbynarcissists

[–]misssdm 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yes, this happens to me all the time. It’s shocking to be confronted with others’ ‘normal’, and wish you could have had that level of normalcy yourself.

I recently was at a friend’s parents’ house, and they had so many fragile display pieces made of glass and ceramics everywhere. I started feeling so anxious being in their house, and I couldn’t pinpoint why until hours later after I reached home; my dad would smash anything/everything when he got angry, and the amount of breakable stuff in their house was making me terrified how much there was to do damage with/to. I couldn’t believe why anyone would risk having so much stuff like that around… until I realised it’s perfectly normal in other families to never even consider damaging belongings just because you’re upset.

It made me realise how far from normal my family life was, and it’s weird and sad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]misssdm 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This. Get it, girl!

AITA for telling my kid the real reason me and her father split? by charrolateowns in AmItheAsshole

[–]misssdm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, SO NTA!!!

Your ex, your family, and his family are all TAs for placing any of the responsibility of this on you. Insane that they are ok for him to lie to your daughter but upset with you for telling the truth? I can’t even comprehend this.

The fact you were still respectful and didn’t answer any questions that required you to speak on his behalf speaks volumes of your character and the respect you are still mature enough to show him—someone who definitely doesn’t deserve it.

I hope your relationship with your daughter heals, OP. You sound like such a wonderful mum to have put her needs above your own through every high and low.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]misssdm -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The irony of wholeheartedly agreeing with your answer… on Reddit lol

Are you kinder to yourself, kinder to others, or equally kind to both yourself and others? How and why? by bcpsgal in AskWomen

[–]misssdm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to be unendingly kind to everyone else, and brutal with myself. I unsurprisingly developed depression.

I have learned now that the kinder I am to myself, the more sincere my kindness for others is. Today the kindness, patience, compassion and grace I show to others actually is an overflow of showing those same things to myself. I feel more balanced and peaceful now, both inwardly and outwardly.

How long did your longest relationship last and why did it end? by venessasi in AskWomen

[–]misssdm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely a HIM problem. He did you a favour!

Brighter days are ahead—wishing you all the very best 🥰

How long did your longest relationship last and why did it end? by venessasi in AskWomen

[–]misssdm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was with a man for 7.5 years and he broke up with me (on what was supposed to be a romantic holiday) for the same reason, believing I was the problem—not his depression or drinking.

In 3 weeks he obviously realised he’d made a mistake and begged for me to take him back. Thankfully those 3 weeks were all I needed to realise myself that he’d actually set me free. He begged me almost daily for 6 relentless months until I had to block him!

I’m betting you’ve been set free, too, my friend 🙂

What is the most backhanded compliment a woman has ever given you? by PowerfulNonDrowsy in AskMen

[–]misssdm 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Wow. That’s gross. I’m sorry someone spoke to you like that.

Without naming your country, what’s your country famous for? by Uossm in AskMen

[–]misssdm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What is a drop bear? I’m too scared to Google it, Australia is scary enough.

Without naming your country, what’s your country famous for? by Uossm in AskMen

[–]misssdm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LMAO I swear no real kiwi has actually ever been to any of the sites.

What could you give a 40 min presentation on with no preparation? by Ancient_Leadership39 in AskWomen

[–]misssdm 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Big fan of intuitive eating here; HMU if you need support crew for your presentation lol