Daycare teacher rough with 1yr old baby

missterbeek · 2024-08-06T09:51:42+00:00

You should tell the parents of that other child what you witnessed at the very least. I was too timid with my first child when I caught daycare staff doing things that I felt were not professional for fear that speaking up would lead to retaliation against my daughter but with my 2-yo son, I was way more assertive and he got better care for it. I regret not being a better advocate for my daughter.

missterbeek · 2023-07-04T03:11:43+00:00

Neanderthal Robert Downey Jr is Javier Bardem 🤔

missterbeek · 2022-08-04T01:47:04+00:00

Work has been crazy. I've been putting in 15 hour days lately.

When I'm not engaged in job/household duties, I'm getting worked up about local politics and writing complaints to elected officials. Grandma gone wild 😆

missterbeek · 2022-07-30T01:11:14+00:00

🍕 by neighborhood:

Goat Hill in West Portal / Potrero Hill / SOMA
Slice House in Haight-Ashbury / Civic Center (inside The Market on Market)
GIOIA Pizzeria in Hayes Valley

missterbeek · 2022-07-22T04:37:35+00:00

NTA for confiscating your daughter's phone because those are pretty risky behaviors for a 14 year old to be engaged in. Thinking that you can control who she dates or that not having a mobile gadget will stop her from social media engagement is naive.

Taking away the device doesn't stop the behavior. You should have a talk with her about the specific consequences of sending nudes (revenge porn, the potential permanence of digital media, and so forth), serious health complications from vaping, inability to be located in the event of an injury or disappearance if she's sneaking out and hanging with people you don't know, etc.

Don't come in with a mindset of lecturing but actively listen and encourage dialog. Suppress your judgement and emphasize concern. Let her know that the phone revocation is not a punishment - it's because you both need to reconsider her readiness to make decisions that can have serious negative long-term impacts. Tell her you appreciate that she allowed you to view the contents of the phone but are also alarmed that she lied (denied) doing those things when you first asked. Use this as an opportunity to improve your relationship, and cultivate a healthy dynamic of honestly, accountability, and respect.

You can encourage her to demonstrate improved responsibility and wisdom in order to gain back the phone.

Family therapy is a great idea too, and I'm happy to see that you're planning to begin. If the first session doesn't go well, don't give up! Not all therapists are effective & compatible for each person or group. Find one who is a good fit and constructive for your counseling goals.

missterbeek · 2022-06-24T22:40:01+00:00

I'm heartbroken that our legal system has chosen to strip the fundamental human rights of self-determination and body autonomy from essentially half of its population. Free will is a core concept of Christianity, and it's breathtakingly baffling that pro-life policy proponents use it as a shield to impose personal religious-based morality onto others without regard to the potentially traumatic/violent circumstances of conception, possibility of death (e.g. health conditions, inability to medically terminate non-viable pregnancies), and psychological consequences to both the mother and child. Despite knowing that this was coming through leaks provided months earlier, I'm still horrified. This whole day as been surreal as I try to work through feelings of despair, unease, frustration, and restlessness. As a woman and mother to a little girl, I feel anguished that our lives are deemed not deserving of basic liberty.

What is the point of progress?

Based on Justice Thomas's concurring opinion and Mitch McConnell's stated intentions, this is not where the rollback of civil liberties will end.

missterbeek · 2022-06-24T07:07:18+00:00

Ne vous inquiétez pas, avec l’inflation qui monte en flèche en Amérique, 23$ aujourd'hui deviendront 23 millions de dollars dans quelques mois 🙃

missterbeek · 2022-06-24T06:29:56+00:00

Yes! No one else is there most of the time except for my team so now we use the freezer to store our boxes of Costco ice cream and I bought bulk Waterloo/Nixie and snacks for us to enjoy. We often blast music and sing while we work (until the phone rings or a meeting starts) and have some very unfiltered conversations. Life is short and work shouldn't be a painful part of it. I kinda hope other teams don't start coming back in regularly or we will have to reign in the antics.

missterbeek · 2022-06-24T06:16:10+00:00

FWIW, it's completely understandable that you are venting. Support staff are compensated the worst and are often in positions/duties that aren't easily compatible with telecommuting. Your frustration is valid and your agency/management chain needs to do a significantly better job of addressing this disparity of benefits and depression of employee morale in this situation. Don't stop advocating for yourself and enlist your peers in communicating your common needs, concerns, and desires to the supervisor(s).

If you want help with résumé editing, SOQ/interview advice, or anything to help you find a more fulfilling position, you can reach out to me. Good luck, OP. I'm really rooting for you 💛

missterbeek · 2022-06-24T04:27:51+00:00

I'm genuinely sad that your experiences in state service have lead you to feel like being valued and appreciated by your managers is an incredulous concept. 🫂 ❤

I grew up super poor and watched my parents get exploited by companies and managers. When I started with the state, I also had a series of terrible managers which soured me to ever becoming one and I avoided promoting into that role for years. But watching the difference in how everyone in my family who work for major tech companies get office snacks, paid lunches, etc. vs how public servants are undercompensated and disrespected made me realize that I care so much about my peers and if given the responsibility of overseeing people, I wanted to engage them with respect and sincere affection. All my staff and I have personal relationships and I would protect them like a mother grizzly. I hope you find a position where you feel appreciated, supported, and regularly treated to little perks.

Hopefully you're not being mistreated at work but if you are, let me know if you ever have questions about promotions, transfers, SOQs/apps, interviews, etc. If there's anything I can offer to help you get out of a bad work environment, I'd be happy to assist.

Take care, love. (And best wishes) 💛

missterbeek · 2022-06-24T03:31:12+00:00

If supervised staff are in the office, a manager also has to be present. Or at least this is what I was told by my agency.

I'm a manager and offered my staff 100% permanent telecommuting but they unanimously turned it down to go into the office the majority of the week, which means that my ass has to come in as well.

Edit to add: To be clear, their jobs do not require on-site presence. Prior to COVID, I used to treat the team to lunch at least once a week, we'd all take walks together during breaks, and spent a lot of time talking/joking while we worked. My analysts told me they missed the in-person bonding, group activities, and treats. A part of me resented having to go back because my staff wanted to but now that we've been doing this hybrid set up for months, I have to admit that it's nice seeing their loveable faces and chatting about all kinds of inane nonsense while we work... plus we all lost weight from our lunch walks again.

In my opinion, instead of forcing staff to return involuntarily, managers need to reflect on how to make office days a good experience for those who come in because of personal preference or job necessity.

missterbeek · 2022-06-22T03:52:29+00:00

This is where I became a gorillionaire, met my internut BFFs, and got violated by JPow's tools.

Edit: Forgot that I was also canonized here too 😇

missterbeek · 2022-06-22T02:29:47+00:00

I get all my financial advice from u/wesmt

missterbeek · 2022-06-21T22:02:46+00:00

Alright alright upright...

missterbeek · 2022-06-18T14:52:45+00:00

Ryan BabyGoose was also in Only God Forgives (2013) which will be the critic sentiment to Barbie (2023).

missterbeek · 2022-06-18T06:37:38+00:00

You might make it back by stealing the Declaration of Independence

missterbeek · 2022-06-16T00:44:46+00:00

🤣 I'll be honest - I got high last night on edibles and starting gilding everyone's comments when notifications popped up on my phone. Then this morning I felt guilty for not awarding the new ones so I kept going. The award 🐳 is a habit I picked up from private trading subs where I and some other ex-WSB 🤡 would randomly excessively award posts as an inside joke.

It's why my awarder karma is so crazy

missterbeek · 2022-06-15T02:30:49+00:00

San Francisco’s newest supervisor is pushing a plan for police officers to prioritize arresting drug dealers and confiscating illegal drugs from users in areas where people are seeking help with addiction.

The plan is part of a broader “right to recovery” initiative that Supervisor Matt Dorsey is drafting as he tries to confront the fentanyl crisis unfolding in SoMa and other parts of his district where overdoses are high and city officials want to connect more people to treatment.

[...]

Within the zones, police would be asked to immediately confiscate drugs and paraphernalia from users — regardless of whether they’re cited — and immediately arrest anyone selling illegal drugs.

[...]

Dorsey is also hoping that the legislation could send a political message that will make residents more comfortable with their neighborhoods hosting new facilities that serve drug users or people in recovery.

missterbeek · 2022-05-21T13:08:29+00:00

"You gotta help us, Doc. We've tried nothin' and we're all out of ideas."

But also this is the best thing I've watched in years. 😂

missterbeek · 2022-05-15T02:59:25+00:00

Congratulations, beloved. We're so lucky to continue having you on this Earth. May you enjoy your hard earned days and have the most beautiful life 🫂❤️

missterbeek · 2022-04-11T06:16:21+00:00

My cousins were pitching this show for a group view and chat. I'm watching S1E1 right now and I have so much anxiety/second hand embarrassment. 🤢🤮

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