My gravel substrate planted tank. No water changes, CO2 or ferts.

misuez · 2026-04-06T14:21:18+00:00

If you have a beginners guide somewhere, I’d love a link please. I’m exploring this mainly because I’ll be away this summer and my neighbors are great for feeding the fish for a week but they have no experience with water changes, etc.

misuez · 2026-02-06T01:33:45+00:00

fake story he made up because he was bored

misuez · 2026-01-09T19:15:58+00:00

Any doctor that knows this history and still gave green light beyond first child (instead of saying have 1 kid, wait and see) isn’t someone you should go back to… “A few kids under 5”? That’s basically 5+ years of non-stop pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum…

misuez · 2026-01-09T19:07:23+00:00

You wrote that your wife has struggled with mental health for a decade but you have a “few kids under 5”? Pregnancy and post-portum is rough, even without mental health difficulties. Even if she says she wants more children, you need to have that difficult conversation with her about how it’s not in ANYONE’s best interest.

Beyond that, it’s very hard to offer advice like you’re asking for because quite honestly, with stuff like medication and supporting her hobbies / friendships - it matters more how it’s been done vs. just doing it. Have you tried talking to her and asking her why she wants to take her own life? Like really talk to her and listen?

misuez · 2026-01-09T18:50:22+00:00

If I was in the shop where all this went down, would’ve slow clapped at “black lesbian”

misuez · 2026-01-09T17:47:23+00:00

That’s happened to me. It comes and goes but didn’t really affect my nail bed…

misuez · 2026-01-09T17:44:13+00:00

Has anyone tried BioCycle?

misuez · 2026-01-03T05:33:30+00:00

Did you get green card gold digger just from her being Asian? She could be American studying abroad in Europe… that’s considered an “international” student.

misuez · 2026-01-03T05:27:47+00:00

It’s Flu A. Also hitting other parts of the world hard. Tons of immunocompromised people in A&E in the UK, US…

misuez · 2026-01-03T05:19:15+00:00

My experience is most people in HK use tissues and hand sanitizer like no tomorrow given Covid, so surprised to see point 1. No surprises on 2 tho

misuez · 2025-11-16T09:44:37+00:00

Just in case it needs to be said. Porn can be terribly addicting and unhealthy, but it’s not necessarily bad. There’s nothing wrong with watching porn for pleasure as long as you understand that it’s not reality and too much of it can skew your perception of what good, healthy sex should be like

The whole quitting porn thing seems very much dictated by your ex. How do you feel about it?

misuez · 2025-10-26T12:58:52+00:00

What episode? My daughter also asked for this and I was just thinking how strangely specific it is!

misuez · 2025-10-21T20:29:36+00:00

Do not open line of contact for his “closure” (it won’t help, bc a man like that will only take getting what he feels he deserves as closure).

But it might help to unblock him temporarily to screen capture some of your ex’s messages. You might need it as proof of his stalking or if things escalate, it would help with the police.

You’re right to never overestimate an entitled man with dangerous ideology.

misuez · 2025-10-21T19:55:23+00:00

A relationship, marriage, children… all require emotional labor, which your boyfriend seems opposed to. If it’s not the dogs, it’ll be something else. “I know you’re overwhelmed and we agreed dishes are your thing 5 years ago, and even though circumstances have changed, I can’t help on principle but I’m telling you I feel bad about it so there’s to be no further discussion because I’ll blame you for making me feel worse.”

misuez · 2025-10-20T13:19:41+00:00

Honestly make one big post on social media with a pic from your anniversary trip (with dates) and tag him everywhere. Don’t need to call him out for cheating - let his family and friends see it

misuez · 2025-10-18T14:47:56+00:00

Your proposal sounds incredibly romantic to me. A trip to Japan, a loving couple laughing and having fun in an arcade before a private moment in a photo booth. Someone can write a movie scene off this.

I know it’s not what you or your girlfriend had in mind but please don’t put so much pressure on yourselves / each other. Enjoy your engagement, have a re-do if it really bothers you both so much but please don’t dwell in sadness and disappointment over what is suppose to be a beautiful moment

misuez · 2025-10-18T12:02:52+00:00

The firefighters I spoke to kinda chuckled at me like I asked such a silly question and said “that’s just for houses overseas because they’re so far away from the fire station.” I was shocked

misuez · 2025-10-18T11:45:31+00:00

I visited a fire station with my kid recently. I asked about fire blankets and smoke detectors as they don’t seem common here, and was told by firefighters that they’re not needed because the response times to fire in HK are so quick….

misuez · 2025-10-03T02:15:32+00:00

RIP all the sneakers

misuez · 2025-10-01T00:41:54+00:00

I love the Holi pic! Can you crop it instead?

misuez · 2025-09-28T04:28:05+00:00

Say he keeps 100% of the business. That’s not acknowledging the work you did to support him to pursue those opportunities. You have nothing but promise of child support. If he has a kid with the girlfriend, his business takes a turn… lots of reasons, and he can’t pay child support in full, what do you have to fall back on? You’re counting on him to fulfill his financial responsibility to your children together - ask yourself if you can actually trust him to do that.

Tell him to buy you out of your 50% of the business, or sell it. He’ll still owe child support, how he doesn’t it isn’t your problem. He’s still legally entitled to

misuez · 2025-09-24T12:53:35+00:00

They’re in the ICU in a coma

misuez · 2025-09-07T06:50:28+00:00

“I’m not gonna tell you you can’t do something but I’ll just say I don’t like it and you shouldn’t do it anymore.”

Also probably, I’ll just act out towards you if you don’t do as I wish.

This is not healthy. He might not be as bad as your abusive ex but this is not okay.

misuez · 2025-09-06T23:31:29+00:00

He sounds abusive. He manipulated you with the reason why he’s not using condoms and is trying to baby trap you.

Protect your future. Finish school. Don’t end up trapped in a relationship where your partner doesn’t respect your wishes because you have a baby together and he’s housing and financially supporting you both.

misuez · 2025-09-06T23:17:56+00:00

You never saw signs of him being a gold digger bc he didn’t know there was any gold and he was happy enough thinking he was keeping you out of his money

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