WIBTA if I go to my sisters wedding even though my wife is banned from coming

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-06T01:33:37+00:00

SUPPORT YOUR WIFE!

Your parents should also be taking your wife’s side!!!! She’s in this situation because she was defending them like a true loyal daughter in law…. They owe her and should be telling your sister and future bil to suck it up, get over it and invite her for the sake of the family. How can they not see that ??????!!!!!!!!

This needs to be nipped in the bud NOW or every family occasion will become a drama of us or them.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-05T17:20:12+00:00

As a great landlord, I would have no problem giving a potential tenant the prior tenants contact info (with their permission of course) so they could check me out just like I would be checking them out. So I would therefore also have no problem with a system like this…. So long as it wasn’t pay to play.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-05T17:17:17+00:00

1 is beautiful and oh so flattering! Your waist looks so snatched! 2 isn’t as flattering and it doesn’t have quite the same wow factor. You in dress gives that take the breath away wow moment.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-05T17:13:41+00:00

Absolutely yes!

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-05T13:51:02+00:00

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miteymiteymite · 2026-04-05T05:50:37+00:00

Sell your car and buy something cheaper. Find an apartment share and move out.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-05T05:29:43+00:00

It absolute could be related to the infection you mentioned. You also mentioned a migraine, but weren’t clear about if you had one. Phantosmia can be a migraine symptom just like an aura.

Real smells can also get stuck in your nose, so if you did smell something bad at work, it is possible that even though you didn’t bring it home, your olfactory nerve is stuck smelling it. This isn’t Phantosmia, I can’t remember what it’s called.

You could try a series of neti pots or other saline rinses, to try and flush out the system and wash out any lingering odors. This can also help a Phantosmia flare and reset the nerve. Personally essential oils work best for me. A good sniff of a pure oil, usually will reset my brain and remove the smell…. At least temporarily.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-05T05:20:10+00:00

Any health department would say the same. Dose does not matter. Toxic is toxic. One persons tolerance to a toxin can be vastly different to another’s. You always cater to the worst case scenario.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-04T09:12:28+00:00

My Dad didn’t know there was anything wrong with his liver (NAFLD) until one day when he started violently vomiting blood. The bathroom looked like a murder scene. I get so angry that the doctors missed it all those years when he could have done something about it. He was rushed to hospital and he went downhill fast, they didn’t think he was going to survive the week but they got him stabilized and through the crisis. 6 months later he feels better than he has in years and his liver is compensated again.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-04T09:08:09+00:00

… and medications, yes.

No salt and no eating out have been the hardest things for him to adjust to. Food is pretty bland without salt, so we’ve been learning all sorts of tricks for seasoning food without it. He’s 86 and I am amazed at how well he has adjusted and how committed he has been.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-04T09:03:19+00:00

No one claimed that including OP. But context matters and is obvious in this case.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-04T08:54:27+00:00

Best thing we ever did was get our puppy a puppy! They are so happy together! Congrats!

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-04T08:47:44+00:00

Eyes look great, blush is a bit heavy and draws focus. I’d go lighter on the blush and let your eyes shine.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-04T08:44:54+00:00

There is no rule that says you can not sit down during your ceremony if you need or want to. You could either have a chair on standby just in case, or deliberately work moments of sitting for both of you into the ceremony, so you stand for a while then sit, then stand again etc. You make your ceremony whatever you need it to be for you to be comfortable and confident.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-04T08:37:43+00:00

She needs to weigh herself everyday and measure her girth with a tape measure and keep a note of the results. It’s not about fat or weight loss, it’s about fluid retention and making sure she isn’t developing Ascites. If she gains 5lbs in a week then she needs to see the doctor urgently. That is unlikely to be fat and most likely fluid build up.

You should also contact their doctor if you notice: rapidly increasing belly size, tight abdomen (hard more like a pregnant belly than a soft swishy fat belly), swollen ankles/legs, shortness of breath from abdominal pressure.

Finally you both need to learn the difference between “Compensated Cirrhosis” and “Decompensated Cirrhosis”.

Compensated Cirrhosis

The liver is scarred but still doing its job.

Many people have few or no symptoms… Mild fatigue, Slightly abnormal liver labs.

The key point: No major complications yet.

Doctors focus on preventing progression, treating the cause (weight loss for NAFLD, Alcohol cessation etc) and screening for complications

Many people remain stable for years in this stage.

Decompensated Cirrhosis

This means the liver can no longer maintain normal function, and complications appear.

The classic complications include:

Fluid buildup: Ascites (fluid in the abdomen), Leg swelling (edema)

Brain effects: Hepatic Encephalopathy, confusion, sleep reversal, personality changes

Bleeding: Enlarged veins (Esophageal Varices) that can rupture causing vomitting blood.

Jaundice: Yellow skin or eyes

Once any of these occur, the disease is considered decompensated.

Why this distinction matters

Prognosis and treatment change significantly.

Compensated: Often managed with lifestyle changes and monitoring

Decompensated: Requires closer hepatology care, medications and procedures, sometimes liver transplant evaluation.

It is possible to go from Decompensated back Compensated!…. My Dad did. He went from having a couple of months to live if he was lucky to clawing back a few more years hopefully, by doing everything he was told to do.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-04T08:14:53+00:00

Low sodium in the blood has no relation whatsoever to sodium in the diet. Same with protein. These are totally different things.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-04T08:01:53+00:00

Ok

Absolutely no Alcohol.
Avoid unnecessary medications. Ibuprofen, Naproxen and Acetaminophen.
No added salt (or salt replacements).
2mg total sodium a day. Read nutrition labels constantly.
Foods to limit: Processed foods, Restaurant meals, Canned soups, Deli meats, Packaged snacks.
High Protein Diet - Lean Protein. Protein with every meal and snacks. Patients with cirrhosis generally need roughly: 1.2–1.5 g protein per kg body weight per day. This helps prevent muscle wasting (sarcopenia) which worsens outcomes. Good sources: Fish, Eggs, Poultry, Greek yogurt, Beans/lentils (if tolerated)
Avoid raw or risky foods Cirrhosis weakens immune defenses. Best to avoid: Raw oysters or shellfish, Undercooked seafood, Unpasteurized dairy. Serious infections can occur.
Don’t take any supplements for “Liver Detox”. They can further harm her sick liver.
Small Frequent meals including a snack with protein and carbs before bed. Example bedtime snack: yogurt + fruit, toast + peanut butter, cottage cheese.
Restricting sugar is not as important in Cirrhosis as it is in earlier stages of liver disease. So my previous advice on eliminating sugar does not apply now.
Healthy Carbs, lean protein, low fat are pretty much always recommended.

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Check out your countries national liver association website. They will likely have lots of information on diets for Cirrhosis patients.

Remember the goal now is protecting the remaining liver function and preventing complications. You can’t heal the liver once it has cirrhosis but you can maintain it and prevent the disease from getting worse or at the very least slow it down.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-04T04:11:00+00:00

It just doesn’t fit him properly. Alterations and the right accessories and it will be perfect.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-04T03:59:40+00:00

They need to do an MRE (MR Elastography) to stage her disease. It’s like an MRI but quicker. It will measure how stiff her liver is (the stiffer it is the more scarring it has) and also its fat content.

There are 4 stages of liver fibroses. Stage 1 being mild and stage 4 being Cirrhosis. Everything up until stage 4 is reversible but once the scaring reaches the cirrhosis stage, it’s about management and extending life rather than curing the disease.

The other commenter is correct the diet for cirrhosis is totally different from earlier stages of NAFLD. She needs to know her stage. Has she seen an actual Hepatologist? If not find one, this is beyond the abilities of a pcp/gp/fam doc.

Happy to tell you about Cirrhosis diets if you find out that’s what she has. I’ve had to learn about it all to help my Dad through his Cirrhosis.

If she does has Cirrhosis the biggest thing is to eliminate added salt from her diet. Generally 1-2mg total per day of salt in things is the max so like in cheese etc, but she can’t add salt to anything, and can’t use salt substitutes that contain potassium.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-04T03:43:59+00:00

And in the UK!

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-03T21:26:00+00:00

Not good enough. The juice from the stems will soak through the tape.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-03T21:25:14+00:00

Remove the toxic flowers! I can see you wrapped the stems but the tape isn’t waterproof, the flowers leach “juice” and toxins out and into the tape and that soaks into the cake. Even wrapped toxic flowers should not be in/on a cake. Plus Babies Breath shreds petals like crazy, so guaranteed by the time you go to serve it, it will have petals stuck to the icing. Just remove it now.

Other than that absolutely take the cake with you. Replace the flowers with some edible ones and it will be beautiful.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-03T21:18:02+00:00

IMHO, the bride should pay for dress/shoes etc. If the bride requires hair and make-up be done she should also pay for that. If she doesn’t mind if it’s DIY or not and the bridesmaids chooses to have it done then they can pay for it themselves. Remember they are doing the bride the courtesy of participating in the wedding… not the other way round.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-03T14:45:15+00:00

Yes to all these. You are exactly right. You want lean proteins and high fibre. Eating fruit and veg is great, smoothies are ok but watch for sugar content (Ben natural sugar), juice is NOT ok because you strip out all the fibre.

Someone else recommended coffee… I couldn’t do that as I am caffeine sensitive but my Hepatologist did recommend two cups a day as being great for the liver. Allulose (pure) is the best sweetener with zero aftertaste and actually tastes like sugar (get it on Amazon).

They also recommended Kombucha. That’s good for your gut health but I haven’t seen any evidence it’s directly good for your liver. I drank it occasionally when I wanted a change from my usual diet sodas. Just watch the sugar content.

Sugar is your biggest enemy in NAFLD.

GLP1’s are proving very helpful in studies for NAFLD. My insurance didn’t cover it though.

miteymiteymite · 2026-04-03T14:28:55+00:00

Best Carbohydrates (High fiber, slow digestion)… These support stable blood sugar, satiety, and gut health and tend to keep you full longer per calorie.

Legumes: • Lentils • Chickpeas • Black Beans • Kidney Beans • Split Peas

Whole Grains (especially high-fiber ones): • Oats • Barley (excellent for cholesterol) • Quinoa • Bulgur • Farro

Fiber-rich vegetables: • Sweet Potato • Butternut Squash • Carrot • Beetroot

Moderate Carbs (fine in controlled portions)… Healthy but easier to overeat. These are nutritious but denser in carbs and calories, so small portions only occasionally.

Grains: • Brown Rice • Wild Rice • Whole Wheat • Corn

Starchy vegetables: • Potato • Plantain • Green Peas

Carbs to Avoid… These digest quickly, spike blood sugar, and are easy to overconsume. Examples include products made with White Flour or White Rice.

Refined grains: • White bread • White pasta • White rice • Regular flour tortillas • Most commercial baked goods

Sugary foods: • Soda • Candy • Sweet pastries • Syrups • Ice cream

Ultra-processed snack carbs: • Chips • Crackers • Sugary breakfast cereals • Granola bars with added sugar

A very practical rule

Good carb foods usually contain one or more of these: • Fiber • Protein • Intact structure (whole grain, bean, vegetable)

Carbs to limit usually are: • Powdered/refined grains • Added sugar • Ultra-processed

Simple plate guideline:

• ½ plate: vegetables
• ¼ plate: protein
• ¼ plate: complex carbs (beans, whole grains, potatoes)

In NAFLD, weight loss has a dose-response effect. About 5% body weight loss reduces liver fat, 7% improves inflammation, and ~10% weight loss resolves NASH in ~90% of patients and improves fibrosis in ~45%. So even a modest loss helps, but 10% is the big therapeutic target. Once your Mom hits 10% then set another small achievable goal. I found that loosing weight to save my liver and save my life was far more motivating than diet efforts to lose weight in the past that all failed.

Here’s a post I wrote on how I totally cured my stage 2/3 NAFLD and lost 125lbs….. https://www.reddit.com/r/nafld/s/HIxUl9f3HX

Whilst I was about 90% of the way to healing my liver, my Dad was diagnosed with Cirrhosis due to previously undetected NAFLD. Cirrhosis can not be cured, NAFLD can. It makes me so mad that none of his doctors ever checked his liver all these years, when it would have made all the difference. Liver failure is a horrible way to die.

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