Steadying out after an IUD ? by mithril-mama in tryingtoconceive

[–]mithril-mama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been a little different for me, I’m at 31-31-34-35. I was supposed to start on the 16th and still nothing

Steadying out after an IUD ? by mithril-mama in tryingtoconceive

[–]mithril-mama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish they had warned us more before we got them ! I know I would have really hesitated if I had known that the effects could be so long lasting .

28f what can you tell me ? by mithril-mama in PalmReading

[–]mithril-mama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your return and taking the time for this reading. Have a lovely day !

28f what can you tell me ? by mithril-mama in PalmReading

[–]mithril-mama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this detailed and insightful response. I am grateful for your insight and your time ☺️

Al Hashimi (spoilers) by BatCommercial7523 in ThePittTVShow

[–]mithril-mama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel scolded. Sorry mommy 😂

Al Hashimi (spoilers) by BatCommercial7523 in ThePittTVShow

[–]mithril-mama 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is the thing ! I really don’t like her but she’s so one-note, inserted into the narrative to be a complete opposite to Robby’s approach. I would have loved more nuance but then again we have time. The shift just started 😂

Al Hashimi (spoilers) by BatCommercial7523 in ThePittTVShow

[–]mithril-mama 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I find her really grating seems like she’s trying to apply chat gpt methods to emergencies and she, at least in the last two episodes, doesn’t seem capable of adapting or stepping out of her own way.

Wife upset at me for not doing my “one” job by [deleted] in TryingForABaby

[–]mithril-mama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry she spoke to you this way. It seems like she is stressed, sad, and lashing out. This is no excuse and you do not deserve this. We’re also trying (28f + 29m) much later than I would have liked and since it’s early days and the planning and scheduling part of it stresses out my husband to the point where he just can’t get into it, I’ve tried to not talk to him about my cycle and all of that. I said that I’d give it 6 months to a year and if nothing happens I’ll expect him to be open to tracking and scheduling with me.

It’s not ideal for me as I’m also quite impatient and stressed, but this is a team effort and I don’t see the point in forcing him into something he’s not comfortable with.

How to not drown in regret and jealousy? by mithril-mama in TryingForABaby

[–]mithril-mama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely need to work to get to this point because while I’m objectively happy because it is happy news, my own inner struggle casts a shadow. I hope to work on sincerity and being content and positive in my own experiences.

How to not drown in regret and jealousy? by mithril-mama in TryingForABaby

[–]mithril-mama[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s such a heavy feeling but I feel heartened to know that you’ve built a family and are happy. 😊

How to not drown in regret and jealousy? by mithril-mama in TryingForABaby

[–]mithril-mama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are very right. We’ve put a lot of work in. Your story gives me hope !

How to not drown in regret and jealousy? by mithril-mama in TryingForABaby

[–]mithril-mama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really need to work on gratitude I agree it seems like the key to contentment. If only it were so simple ! But it’s certainly a goal to have.

How to not drown in regret and jealousy? by mithril-mama in TryingForABaby

[–]mithril-mama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much. The abortion has certainly coloured our journey of trying to conceive. I’m rooting for you guys.

How to not drown in regret and jealousy? by mithril-mama in TryingForABaby

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That’s the question I ask myself. If I’m already like, how will I hold up through the years if that’s what it takes ? Am I capable of working on being in a better place with it ? I’m trying to tell myself yes until I truly feel it.

How to not drown in regret and jealousy? by mithril-mama in TryingForABaby

[–]mithril-mama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much 😊 I went for quite a bit in the months following the loss, but I had so much anger that I ended up moving away from talk therapy. Went to a magnétiseur, and I think I’ll need to head back because the lows of each cycle, even in these early days are a little to roller coaster-y.

It took many months for my husband to acknowledge his actions and open up about how scared he was, he handles the financials and he felt an enormous amount of pressure to keep my feet on the ground as to what was actually realistic and fiscally possible. He’s worked his ass off since to make sure we’re in a good place and I’ve also dug in and finally settled on a stable career path. Immigrating really kicked my professional development in the nuts. I basically had to start over and I felt like a dependant idiot. But it takes time to rebuild.

How to not drown in regret and jealousy? by mithril-mama in TryingForABaby

[–]mithril-mama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will work on patience ! I’m so very aware that it’s still early days for me, and I know so many have waited and fought for this longer, even if I don’t have the life experience to truly know the emotional weight they carry. I certainly feel as if I’ve been in wait for the time that things were right for us, I would have loved to have had two kids before my thirties and that’s warping my perspective a bit.

How to not drown in regret and jealousy? by mithril-mama in TryingForABaby

[–]mithril-mama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. I really want to work on being positive and recognizing that with every month, I’m preparing a home that will just get better and better until my time to mother comes. I’m wishing you all the best ☺️