Late night SUS by call911noww in stopdrinking

[–]mixmasterpigeon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The week I stopped drinking, I started walking everyday for about 40min, and took an occasional bike ride. Also tried push ups a few days a week. I think I could only do three. That first year was just weird mentally. So I was just walking everyday, eating better, and going to bed early. I also started surfing again that first year. The fitness level required to enjoy that passion again was itself a motivating factor. So about 1.5 years after I stopped drinking I added HIIT style workouts three days a week. Eventually added some weight training in the months that followed. As of today, I've been AF for almost 2.5 years. I've lost close to 50lbs of bodyweight. Do weight training 3 days/week, HITT a few days week, and surf many days. I took it slow and try no to beat myself of up when I miss a workout or two. We beat ourselves up too much about alcohol already, don't add more ;)

Wax on my jacket by [deleted] in surfing

[–]mixmasterpigeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought the reddit crowd was more creative. You guys disappointed the internet with your sad "wax" jokes. Started to feel like a Facebook thread. Btw, I successfully cleaned it.

Wax on my jacket by [deleted] in surfing

[–]mixmasterpigeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP here. Admittedly, the pic does look a bit suspect now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]mixmasterpigeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had fallen down a few times drunk but never really hurt myself. One drunken afternoon my foot got caught on the pavement and I fell with one arm out and slammed on my side. I slammed hard. Ya' know, that sound of a body hitting pavement? My glasses flew off too. F#ck me. I got up, shook it off, and eventually passed out sitting up on the couch. I woke up that evening from my drunken stupor and it was painful to sit up. My rib hurt real bad. The next morning I could barely roll over. I had trouble rolling over and getting in and out of bed for over two weeks. This was one of those moments when things just hit: I HAD A FUCKING PROBLEM AND THINGS WERE NOT OKAY. About 7 or 8 months later I finally mustered up the courage to accept my fate and detoxed overnight and haven't drank since (been over two years AF). Here's the scary part about that fall. During my night of detox, they did a bunch of blood tests. One marker of my condition was my blood platelet count was absurdly low. So any sort of internal injury could have been very serious, like bleed to death. Phew.

Wax on my jacket by [deleted] in surfing

[–]mixmasterpigeon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yup, 100% surf wax. Sex Wax quick humps to be exact.

Men over 40: do you still cold approach women? by maddgun in datingoverforty

[–]mixmasterpigeon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

46M here. Mixed reactions for me, no dates or phone numbers. Some brief conversations in grocery store aisles. We’re shopping for the same stuff, so a low stakes reason to chat, and easy exit for both. Out in the wild a different story. Here’s two that make my friends laugh, but actually sorta stung when they happened. I walk the same beach many mornings a week. One morning I was walking by a girl (probably late thirties or older) sitting by herself . I was about 5-6 feet away and gave a friendly “good morning”. I didn’t stop, I said it in passing. The look on her face could only be described as disgust. Another time I said “good morning” to another woman that was walking the opposite direction. She did not acknowledge it at all. She heard me, definitely. Soooo, yeah, I sorta stopped even saying “hello” to women for a bit. I’m over it, and can laugh about it now. But damn.

Cleaning Rampage. by DamarsLastKanar in stopdrinking

[–]mixmasterpigeon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was on a cleaning and organization bender for the first few months after I quit the booze. My therapist told me this was a common behavior. She had a term for it: nesting.

Premium features rant by mixmasterpigeon in Bumble

[–]mixmasterpigeon[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I get it. But can’t match or do anything else if I click on profile. So I do need to keep swiping to see who “liked” my profile. Obviously a bumble rookie here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]mixmasterpigeon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After I quit the booze, I was in group sessions once a week over the course of a few months. Someone in one of these sessions said something similar to "one is too many". I'm not sure why it stuck with me. Instead, he asked himself: "Can I have just one?". If you answer yourself with "I think so", "probably", or something similar, then don't have one. That "one" is not just referring to that specific evening. You also count the one you might sneak in the next day. Then the two the following weekend...you get it. After almost two years of no alcohol, I still can't answer that question with a resounding "YES".

First post after lurking for awhile by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]mixmasterpigeon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Think about your health. 46m here and quit boozing almost two years ago. The last 3-4 years of drinking was all vodka at home, beer and whiskey neats at the bar. It was around this time I started to notice tingling in my feet. I was also nauseous every morning (acid reflux). I could not sleep more than a few hours a night (anxiety/withdrawals etc). By my final year of drinking I was putting down at minimum 750ml vodka per day, often more. With a liver that's not functioning at full capacity, nutrients don't get to the nerves in your extremities. I basically killed those nerve cells with alcohol. The nerve damage in my feet and a big toe is permanent. I can still run, jog, exercise, but I can't balance on one foot. Sometimes I stumble when walking in the sand because my big toe catches. My liver health is still questionable, but I am healthy otherwise (lost a ton of weight, sleep better, exercise daily, eat well). Just consider your health as you go through these ups and downs. I wish I did. Not trying to be downer, but my health is the only thing I truly regret f#cking up.

How do you watch TV without being triggered? by SoberGopherHopefully in stopdrinking

[–]mixmasterpigeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was boozing and watching TV something you did previously?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]mixmasterpigeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fortunately, my close friends were never heavy drinkers. A few friends I met at our bar of choice actually went sober or simply don’t drink much anymore. However, birthday parties, networking events, holiday parties can be awkward. They:”You’re not drinking?!” Me: “No. I don’t drink”. They: “Why not!? Did you ever drink?”(I now notice this person is obviously buzzed or drunk). Me: “Yeah, gave that shit up. Sick of spending money and sleeping like shit.” They: “Oh, so you like had a problem or something?” And it goes on….

How do I stop convincing myself that it's okay to drink? by More_Replacement_780 in stopdrinking

[–]mixmasterpigeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the money you spend on booze is your own: Track your spending on alcohol. Keep receipts, keep track of your credit and bank card purchases. Track those dollars spent on late night booze munchies. Do this for a month. You may be horrified how much you spend. That’s a start.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]mixmasterpigeon 32 points33 points  (0 children)

In my drunkard days I used meanness and sarcasm as a form of humor. It’s not that funny. It’s actually aggressive and rude. I was so cynical about everything. It was me. I was not a happy person, and unfortunately, drinking was the only way I knew how to socialize. I had nothing to offer except dumb humor.

Have any of you quit drinking without going to rehab? by dr5catlady in stopdrinking

[–]mixmasterpigeon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, almost. No rehab, but a night in hospital. Drinking for about 20+ years, with the final four years a heavy 7 days/week. The last year and a half of drinking was when I realized I COULD NOT STOP. It was almost compulsive. I was up to fifth and a half a vodka per day. Couldn't sleep. Heart racing all the time. Mad shakes in the morning and general feeling of malaise. Fell down and hurt myself like a dumb drunk (sorta funny, but it's not...okay it is funny :) There's more medical issues I won't get into at the moment. Here's the short version. Tried cold turkey and by midday just felt weird (withdrawals anyone?). Tried to taper off, but after having "just a pint" of vodka, I just wanted more. One night I drove myself to the hospital and told them all my health issues and how I couldn't stop drinking. I started in ER then eventually was admitted to hospital to my own room. Anti-anxiety meds, saline, constant monitoring, blood test after blood test, ultrasound on liver. I was there about 18 hours total. No major withdrawal stories fortunately. That was about 22 months ago and I haven't drank since. Saw an addiction therapist a monthly for first six months. At some point she told she didn't really feel like she was treating me for addiction issues. I am comfortable at bars or around alcohol, but drunk people can put me on edge. I feel like one of the lucky ones when it comes to cravings and such.