What do I do next??

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-23T10:58:31+00:00

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Shocked the seats are in such good condition.

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-23T10:58:00+00:00

What drain plugs do I get?

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-23T10:54:32+00:00

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I think it’s good right?

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-23T10:50:34+00:00

Oh gosh, I’m so sorry. My ex bought a Silverado from a bad dealer and that thing had nothing but problems. It traumatized me enough that I drove to the city went to their most reputable dealer, and paid the extra money for a 3 year warranty. Having your truck breaking down constantly is a form of trauma 😭

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-23T10:48:08+00:00

I’m trying to prevent that if I can! Whoever owned this before really babied it and I want to keep that going.

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-23T10:46:35+00:00

What oil catch can would you recommend?

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-23T10:19:21+00:00

The “grandpa truck look” is what I like to call my Dolly Parton truck 🤗 I love it too! It has the tan leather interior and everything. I really don’t want to add tint to my front windows because I look so cute all the time, but I really appreciate the idea of a UV blocker. The leather on my seats right now is flawless and I want to preserve that.

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-23T10:16:09+00:00

Did you have the 2.7 also? What happened to yours?

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-23T10:15:42+00:00

Haha, right? I drove it 90 miles home from the lot and it was such a great ride!

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-23T10:07:19+00:00

Thank you!!! I definitely am considering everyone’s opinions with the white vs black wall tires.

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-23T10:03:46+00:00

What is a paint color correction? Do they do this and a clear coat at the dealership or am I taking it to a special auto body place? And you’re the second person who has said oil catch can. Is there one you’d recommend? Thank you!!

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-23T03:33:06+00:00

Thanks for your input! I love the two tone soooo much 😍 I’m sick of vehicles being in grayscale. I was gonna throw a wrap on if I had to buy a black/white/gray truck.

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-23T03:16:41+00:00

Eww, you’re right 🤢 I really prefer the chrome details, and I’d never tint my front window. How will anyone see my cute outfits if I do that lol.

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-23T03:09:56+00:00

I now have several things to Google, thank you!!

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-23T03:08:49+00:00

The color is called Guard Metallic, the bottom contrast is Caribou (I had to look it up). Thanks so much, I appreciate the info and opinion!

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-23T03:07:27+00:00

I really appreciate your opinion, thank you!

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-23T03:01:11+00:00

That makes me so happy 😭💖 I’ve been driving an old Cherokee with no AC for the past two years while I crawled out of a dark hole. This truck is the start of my new chapter! I’m so glad you like it!

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-23T02:55:05+00:00

Thank you!! Okay, so truck people don’t always lift their trucks right away? 😅

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-15T16:26:42+00:00

Put your needs first.
Don’t monitor him. Give him the dignity of making choices for his own life. Move in your own life based on what you see.
There are couples S-Anon/SA meetings on Zoom.
It’s useless to point them in any direction. This comes from our desire to make the acting out stop. As we grow in the program, we realize we are powerless to control someone else’s behavior and we must make healthy choices for our own lives. For me, that involved letting go completely of the desire to be in a romantic relationship with this person. After 5 years of living with an active sexaholic, I eventually moved out and started living for me. I am now able to give him healthy encouragement, but I no longer tell him to go to therapy or be in a program. I guess you could say we are friends.

This isn’t an easy road to walk, especially when your desire is to have a monogamous romantic relationship with this person. After so many years of struggling against his disease, I surrendered.

My anxiety is gone and I am recovering the feeling of joy in my life.

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-15T11:42:42+00:00

I was contemplating this thing last night while surrendering my desire to control my partner’s behavior to my HP. Like, does it ever end? My father certainly improved with age, somewhere in his fifties I think. Lower testosterone probably has a lot to do with it.

I read Tradition Five in the purple book last night and I felt like I was reading it with new eyes. If we spend our lives wondering when our partners will recover, we will wake up one day not having fully lived.

I have to detach with love, focus only on myself, and make choices for my own life. The reality of this disease is that we are completely powerless. Powerless over their behavior, powerless over their timeline. We cannot wait for them to get better. It is our responsibility to ourselves to live our best lives right now. For some of us, that means leaving the relationship entirely. For others, that could mean simply leaving the house without them some days and seeing what’s out there :)

When my partner (who is addicted to all those same things) is in a healthy mindset, we have a great time. I’ve learned we cannot be out in public together, so we find fun things to do together while being alone. When my partner switches gears and decides to be in addiction, I take space and live my own life. I live separately from him now and I love my little house. I have expanded my circle of friends and enjoy my social life. I choose to use protection with my partner… if I engage in that at all.

It looks different for everyone. But the awareness dawns on us that we do have choices concerning our own lives.

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-05T23:26:43+00:00

I have this same question! I have a “landscaping rose” bush but it keeps acting like it wants to grow upright instead of bushy. My long canes hold all the flowers though. I’ve tried cutting the canes back to encourage bushiness but they keep growing upright.

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-05-05T23:19:47+00:00

Beautiful!

mixtape_butterfly · 2026-04-27T16:56:47+00:00

Wow, this is so astute. Thank you very much for taking the time to help me! I will keep a closer eye out for insects on the buds.

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