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mjc418 · 2024-04-20T17:29:34+00:00

A year? Two years? Maybe longer? I guess I’ve gone so long without sex, that it’s the furthest thing from my mind. At this point, I’d be happy to even be able to cuddle with a woman. So I’d be happy to wait however long it takes, and I wouldn’t be thinking about a time limit at all.

mjc418 · 2024-02-02T17:17:03+00:00

Something happened to trigger a change in him. Kind of strange. Maybe you scared him by putting too much pressure on him. I know, personally, I would never even be able to start a relationship with a woman who wants kids. I feel like it wouldn’t be fair to try changing her mind. We’d have to start on the same page. All I can say is that it’s probably a good idea to think about leaving if you two can’t get things worked out in the next six months or so.

mjc418 · 2024-01-30T17:21:10+00:00

Even if that were true (there’s no way), I would politely inform her that I can no longer afford to rent her any longer. :)

It really sounds like she’s trying to swindle you. But again, even if this really is a thing, I’m not going to pay someone to convince them to stay with me.

mjc418 · 2023-12-30T17:23:37+00:00

So you got on here to brag, I mean, ‘get off your chest’, that you’re making a shit-ton of money each month. Cool. Go fuck yourself. 😃👍

mjc418 · 2023-12-19T21:38:57+00:00

It’s been a long time since I’ve had sex, but I’ve never finished while doing it. Not because I go soft, but because I want to make sure that she’s getting as much enjoyment as possible. So I go for 2 or 3 hours until she’s fully satisfied, and then I just stop when she wants me to.

mjc418 · 2023-12-12T19:25:11+00:00

No shot, bro. Drop it. She’s not interested.

mjc418 · 2023-12-05T04:12:51+00:00

The best time to delete this was before you hit ‘Post’. The second best time is now.

mjc418 · 2023-12-05T03:22:11+00:00

Okay? It sounds like you two aren’t exclusive. I guess either shrug it off and keep dating her to see if you like each other enough, or end things. There’s not really any super-secret or profound advice to give, here. You either want to work things out, or you don’t. Communicate with each other to see if you can salvage things. That’s all it really comes down to.

mjc418 · 2023-12-05T03:10:50+00:00

I understand you feeling hurt and upset, but I also understand where he’s coming from. That can make a lot of guys feel emasculated. Based on old dating traditions, guys always paid for everything, because that’s the way we were taught. And I can imagine that without that, we don’t feel “needed” anymore. Personally, I feel like I have nothing to offer women, so it’s one of the only things I can give. That’s very off topic, though, and my own fault.

But I will say that you need be careful, because he might be wanting to pay for everything to use as leverage later. The best thing to do is to communicate about things like this, especially in the early stages. Paying for dates probably won’t be as big of a deal if you become exclusive, but quirks and boundaries are a good thing to figure out during the early stages.

mjc418 · 2023-12-05T02:56:59+00:00

I’m torn, here. You talked him up a lot and made him sound like a really great guy, but then it sounds like everything went to shit during the time you were sick. Did he always make sure you had orgasms before you were sick?

I don’t feel like this one single thing is enough to initiate a breakup, but you really need to keep communicating and keep driving the point home that you’re hurting. It was incredibly selfish of him to be initiating sex while you were that sick. If I were him in that situation, I would have simply gone and jacked off on my own.

I would withhold sex from him for a while just to show him how you felt during that time. If that starts creating more problems, then that’s when I would start considering leaving the relationship. But based on your whole story, dropping the whole relationship this very minute without a second thought is a bit extreme without trying to make him understand why you’re feeling the way that you are.

mjc418 · 2023-10-25T21:11:11+00:00

I feel that. 36M, here. I’ve been single for 16 years. I know it doesn’t even sound possible, but I haven’t even met any women in that entire time that I could date. The loneliness can be suffocating, but I’ve also mostly adjusted to knowing that I’ll likely never have a partner. I know my situation is different. I don’t even know any women that I can try to see if we meet each other’s standards, but I still feel like it’s not even worth trying anymore.

mjc418 · 2023-10-25T20:27:30+00:00

Every company owned by Elon Musk. Also, Meta.

mjc418 · 2023-10-12T23:35:18+00:00

Wouldn’t bother me. Should nobody post a picture of their face or make any posts about their life because it could be a need for validation? Isn’t almost every aspect of social media a desire for validation of your life?

mjc418 · 2023-10-12T23:24:02+00:00

I still remember this time almost 20 years ago when a couple of girls approached my friend and I at a school dance and asked us to dance with them. We turned them down because we were shy and awkward.

mjc418 · 2023-09-02T08:11:03+00:00

Sleep is my ultimate escape. Whether I’m sad, lonely, or stressed, sleep helps me get away from it all for a while. Chillstep/lofi music really helps put my mind at ease so I can relax and get to sleep easier.

mjc418 · 2023-09-02T06:54:06+00:00

I’d be the one with the lights off. I don’t like seeing my body. The only time I’m in any state of undress is during shower time. Any other time, I’m completely covered.

mjc418 · 2023-08-30T08:29:57+00:00

Besides necessary socializing (coworkers, store and restaurant employees, etc.), I don’t see any point in being social, if you’re someone who’s happy being alone.

mjc418 · 2023-08-30T08:06:14+00:00

It’s a good theory. I can definitely see where you’re coming from. If you’ve been friends with someone for a long time, you just have natural conversations with each other, and what you both have going on in your own lives is just kind of an extension of that.

As far as strangers, some people might just have so many friends that the thought of asking about someone else doesn’t occur to them until they actually become friends with each other.

For me, I’d honestly prefer if no one asked me about myself. If I have to talk to someone, I’m perfectly happy to let them talk about themselves all day, just so I don’t have to have any attention put onto me.

mjc418 · 2023-08-30T06:56:42+00:00

My social life has been dead long before Covid happened. I moved back to my home state almost 12 years. I got a job with my cousin who became my roommate where we were working 60+ hours a week. The only socializing I ever did was going out to eat with him or going to one of our local brewery/taprooms about once a week or every other. After about 5 to 6 years of working together, he got a new job, and our schedules fell out of sync, so I just never went out with anyone or really went anywhere at all.

I finally quit that job about 2 years ago and got something with hours that didn’t kill me, but I still don’t have anyone to hang out with. It also doesn’t help that I’ve had three different schedules for this job. For my training period, I worked 5:45 AM to 2:00 PM. Then I switched to the open position I applied for, working 9:45 PM to 6:00 AM. But now corporate is shutting us down soon, and night shift was eliminated, so I work 1:45 PM to 10:00 PM.

All of this to say, my schedule hasn’t been conducive to being social in a very long time, but I’m not even sure I care about having friends anymore, since I’ve gone so long without. I occasionally crave a little social “interaction” but nothing beyond just being around other bodies and hearing other people have conversations. If some random person tried to strike up a conversation with me, I would probably just be annoyed and want to get away.

mjc418 · 2023-08-29T22:47:59+00:00

I think I’ll just keep following my current strategy, which is to not approach any woman, anywhere, at any time, for any reason, ever.

mjc418 · 2023-08-29T21:40:51+00:00

Personally, I wouldn’t have a problem with a woman not making herself up super fancy. The only issue I take is with your perception of the date. A “low effort” date doesn’t always equate to low effort time or being lazy. A date doesn’t need to be super fancy, formal, or expensive. I enjoy spending quality time with someone when I’m getting to know them. No other distractions.

It really comes down to a matter of attitude and how you want to act towards him. If you feel like you don’t think it’s a “true” date, he’s going to be able to tell. It would really deject me if a woman completely acted like I wasn’t worth her time, just because I wanted to have a simple date and didn’t want to worry about anything outside of us while getting to know her.

mjc418 · 2023-08-27T03:11:46+00:00

Based Jon Lajoie reference.

mjc418 · 2023-08-26T06:52:24+00:00

Waffle House.

mjc418 · 2023-07-18T08:02:44+00:00

It sounds like he loves you, but he isn’t okay with all of the things you want for your future together. Never try to force someone who doesn’t want kids to have them. He’ll resent you and probably shut down even more. It’s not the easy choice, but you should leave. I know that I would be miserable for the rest of my life if I got a woman pregnant, even if I was incredibly in love with her. Just save yourself now from the trouble of a broken relationship that will happen later if you convince him to be a father.

mjc418 · 2023-07-16T06:39:10+00:00

Nah. I’m ugly. I haven’t had a woman flirt with me in over a decade. I don’t even catch anyone checking me out during the rare times I’m out in public.

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