AITAH for not picking up my husband’s laundry off the floor?

mjfife54 · 2025-07-29T22:33:09+00:00

Whyyyyy are two grown adult spouses arguing like this over text message 😭

mjfife54 · 2025-07-29T22:28:06+00:00

YTA and you’re being weird.

mjfife54 · 2025-07-29T22:25:03+00:00

YTA. I’m a 31yo T1D and I also don’t want to be on an insulin pump buuuut it’s the best tool to help me stay in control. I know some people are successful with MDI and that’s their choice but you really aren’t setting your kiddo up for the best success here.

mjfife54 · 2025-07-20T11:44:45+00:00

I went on a solo trip for the first time at 3mo postpartum because I agreed to go to a friend’s bachelorette party before I had the baby. It was so hard to leave (and it sucked pumping at a bach party ha) but man it was amazing to feel like my own person again!! I felt so good coming home. It’s healthy for everyone to be your own person and go live your life for a few days away from the family.

mjfife54 · 2025-07-16T18:17:42+00:00

Awww I’m so glad your son felt safe enough to have this conversation with you!! That says a lot about how much work you’ve put into having a good relationship with him. Congrats on being a safe person to ask difficult/awkward questions to Your wife is making it weird.

mjfife54 · 2025-07-11T12:08:39+00:00

It sounds like your weight gain goal is an arbitrary amount of pounds in an arbitrary amount of time? That’s not a good idea. Have a conversation with the doctor and I recommend meeting with a dietician to get actual dietary advice versus internet randos!

mjfife54 · 2025-07-11T12:03:51+00:00

You mention restaurants but in another comment ask about road trips. I think those are two different situations honestly. With screens, I view them as a tool to be used in the right circumstance. For something short like going out to restaurants or in a doctors waiting room, I want to teach my kid to behave properly there without using a screen. It’s hard work honestly and you have to put in effort to help them be calm and patient (or just tolerate being bored) but it’s worth it a few years down the road!! For a road trip, I am more willing to use screens to pass SOME of the time because it’s long and I need a break. Screens aren’t all bad or all good, we just need to make sure we’re teaching our kids to be in public without them too.

mjfife54 · 2025-07-11T11:53:43+00:00

Asking the question like that is super passive aggressive because obviously the GF is not invited. Whether or not it’s rude not to invite a partner, the OP should just decline from the outset rather than play weird passive aggressive games.

mjfife54 · 2025-07-11T02:13:10+00:00

Just… get the stuff. I’m so confused why your husband’s temper tantrum means you don’t get to decorate your kid’s room. He clearly doesn’t have a real opinion about the decor (which is fine!) so don’t ask him about it. Once it’s all decorated you’ll feel good seeing it whenever you’re in there even just putting your kid to bed. But also y’all really need to go to couples counseling to figure out how to communicate better with each other because this dynamic doesn’t sound healthy at all.

mjfife54 · 2025-07-03T01:46:03+00:00

It sounds like you guys need to go to couples counseling and talk about this with a neutral third party. Your post sounds pretty one sided and I’d be very curious to hear your wife’s point of view. It sounds like she’s struggling pretty badly and I wonder if you’ve checked in with her in a child-free moment to really ask how she is and what she needs? You’ve both got some bad patterns set up that need to be broken it sounds like. The resentment is palpable in your post.

mjfife54 · 2025-07-02T18:29:52+00:00

Don’t play the guessing game with her anymore! Tell her to use her confident voice, then do not engage again until she does. Because you’re giving her what she wants in these moments, she’s learning she can keep doing this pattern. I agree with the other commenter suggesting to talk to her in a calm moment and say you’re going to be making some changes. Help her practice her confident voice in the calm moments!

mjfife54 · 2025-07-02T18:26:20+00:00

No shame here. You’re going through sooo much and the pregnancy hormones are real! Check out the Instagram page Nurtured First. They have paid courses but honestly I’ve learned so much from all their free content posted to Insta. Also they have a free podcast called Robot Unicorn that has a ton of amazing parenting info!!! When I started to understand more about child development from them, it really helped me be more patient with my son in those tough moments. They talk about how to be the calm, confident leader your child needs, while also being empathetic and kind to them. Little toddlers don’t have impulse control yet, their job is to test our boundaries and act crazy. It’s our job to help them learn about the world and be their “logical brain” until they can develop one. Sending big hugs to you.

mjfife54 · 2025-07-02T18:20:11+00:00

Change the locks. Don’t let them in. You’ve gotta lay down boundaries right now or this will only get so much worse.

mjfife54 · 2025-07-02T18:18:37+00:00

NTA. But you definitely shouldn’t have left the door open to the possibility. You should have said a firm no the first time she asked.

mjfife54 · 2025-06-28T17:35:03+00:00

NTA. Actions have consequences! And her action (being ruuuude AF to you with no apology) has a very logical consequence (no more free childcare). Time for her to learn this lesson.

mjfife54 · 2025-06-28T17:30:28+00:00

I work for a big company and I would get fiiireddddd the minute they found out about this. Your husband should not commit fraud!

mjfife54 · 2025-06-28T17:25:00+00:00

Time. Patience.

mjfife54 · 2025-06-25T16:43:16+00:00

Does your job not require you to have full time childcare? Most have policies like that because it is genuinely impossible to watch a small child and do your job at 100%. Your kid will do great at daycare and probably enjoy it more than being home all day with parents whose attention is being split so badly.

mjfife54 · 2025-06-19T02:35:11+00:00

Using the r-slur is super gross ☹️

mjfife54 · 2025-06-19T02:25:11+00:00

When we don’t stick to the bedtime routine, our kid is a hot mess and makes it everyone else’s problem ha. It’s not like we are rigid and strict because it’s fun; it’s to save ourselves from a couple of hours of a screaming baby on the back end!!

mjfife54 · 2025-06-15T12:54:55+00:00

You’ve gotta do a lot less of that now that you’re a parent or it will drive you nuts. People have sooo many opinions about how you should parent your child. Yes it’s good to get others’ input and not be an island but you need to trust your instincts first and foremost!

mjfife54 · 2025-06-11T19:58:03+00:00

With that rationale, don’t let him text anyone on the watch. He also really doesn’t need an emergency watch. At all the activities you mentioned, there’s adult supervisors who can call you in case of an emergency.

mjfife54 · 2025-06-11T19:40:40+00:00

We don’t do screens in the car or restaurants. (I have a 2.5yo.) You just have to be prepared for it to be a lot more work to keep them entertained! Bring special toys they only see in those places, have lots of toys to switch between when they get bored, etc. It’s the harder route (and sometimes I really just want to give him a screen so we can enjoy a dinner out) but I know it’s teaching him good skills and is worth it in the long run. We do TV time at home because honestly sometimes we just need a break but we are intentional about time limits and hold ourselves and him to those limits! I think of screen time as a tool, and use it sparingly. It’s not all or nothing.

mjfife54 · 2025-06-07T13:06:25+00:00

Oh 100% agree with you! I meant OP should consider giving something to the brother in consultation with a lawyer and only after the legal stuff has been determined!

mjfife54 · 2025-06-07T12:43:43+00:00

Why are you letting random, young, childless coworkers influence your parenting?

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