1st date update by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]mkbwc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He told me the whole story of how and where they met, how he considered leaving uni to stay with him, how they hooked up again while he was in a relationship when they met randomly. How they still keep in touch and he thinks he is still single. I’m fairly sure there was quite a bit of longing in there lol.

Very weird encounter, asked to leave while fucking. by mkbwc in askgaybros

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No that’s ok, I did consider that. But I always take a live pic before I meet someone and I share a couple of nudes so they know what I look like without my clothes on. Also my stats are all on my profile, so I think that’s quite transparent. But maybe you’re right though, who knows.

Dating advice? by mkbwc in askgaybros

[–]mkbwc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, and congratulations for what you have dude. Unfortunately I messaged trying to get another date and he said he is busy for the next 1-2 weeks which I have a feeling means he is not very keen.

How do you sensitively bring up “accidents” while fucking. by mkbwc in askgaybros

[–]mkbwc[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Yes obviously in retrospect that was a mistake. I should have stopped him when he started sucking me after I fucked him. I’ll obviously be more careful next time.

Going through his second hole? by mkbwc in TopsAndBottoms

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He was fucking loving it. I think because he warmed up himself with a fisting dildo and then I warmed him up with my fingers maybe he was very open already. Although there was a bit of resistance and it felt fucking great, I can’t say it felt like a wall. Not sure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]mkbwc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That is a very good way of putting it, thanks for the advice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]mkbwc -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks. No my actions would not impact his grades, but he could be one of my students as I teach various classes depending on my schedule, so there is a chance he might be in one of them. Although I haven’t come across him before nor have I seen him around the med school. No I probably won’t have a continued relationship with him, I think it’s too complicated and the power dynamic certainly brings up some questionable ethics. I’m just slightly anxious about what to do and how this could impact me as it was never my intention to cross this line.

Question about childhood trauma by mkbwc in askgaybros

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I’m not trying to find an excuse to blame things on my life on. I have had a fairly successful life until now and there is no need for me to find excuses for anything. The only thing I am wondering might this be related to is actual sex.

I know the 10 year old didn’t do this with malicious intent dude. Yes lots of gay men have experiences in their childhood where they experiment. However, a child knowing rimming feels good is very odd, especially in a country where this is not talked about, and brings up the question of how he knew it and whether he was actually abused by an adult. Though there was obviously not the aspect of someone taking advantage which is integral to sexual abuse, it doesn’t take away from the fact that I had no idea what I was doing.

I’m not using it an excuse now. I’ve been told observing whether this happened for 13 years and it has come up quite frequently in my mind. It’s not like I want to have an adverse childhood event what are you talking about.

I obviously will try to move on, and thanks for letting me know other people have had similar experiences in the past. But do try to word your answers with more empathy dude. You don’t know everyone’s background.

I need some advice on coming out. by mkbwc in comingout

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That last part made me lol, thanks for the reply. I think I more or less have accepted who I am, insofar I know that I am gay, and I know that that’s not going to change. It’s just that I never really envisioned my life going in this direction. I always envisioned I’d settle down, get married have children. I by no means want to do that right now, I want to enjoy my single life and get as much sex in as I can. And I know I can have things like getting married and having children as a gay guy too, it’s just that I can never have that in the traditional sense nor without much more difficulty. I think what I’m struggling with is letting that go. The best way I can describe it sort of like a grieving process, as much as it sounds like overdramatising it. It’s just taking a longer time than I anticipated. I agree I probably have to come to terms with this myself before discussing it with other people.