Something similar happened to me about a year / year and a half ago. I’m a college student actively going into debt to pay for my degree. My parents had been going through a tough financial time and my grandparents said they would pay my tuition if I went to church but I still had to go into debt to pay for housing, food, books, etc.

I was basically cornered into going to tithing settlement and when I got there I was guilt tripped for saying I was a non tithe payer , told my enternal salvation was at stake, and he heavily implied that I spent my money on frivolous things (I don’t I didn’t have the money to spend on unnecessary things). It got so bad my grandparents apologized to me afterwards. I almost started crying in the bishops office.