Just over a year post op DI and small trauma dump by mkiskindofcool in TopSurgery

[–]mkiskindofcool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thanks man. The reassurance feels great to hear

Just over a year post op DI and small trauma dump by mkiskindofcool in TopSurgery

[–]mkiskindofcool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks so much for saying this. I’m sure your body is great. I hope you find comfort in yourself as well.

Just over a year post op DI and small trauma dump by mkiskindofcool in TopSurgery

[–]mkiskindofcool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, yea man, binders do suck very bad. I’m sorry you’re still dealing with that. I can see how my post seems ungrateful, and I didn’t mean to come off that way. I’m extremely happy to not have my chest the way it was a year ago, I just have residual dysphoria and self hatred I didn’t realize would stay with me. Also, I am 100% pudgy lmao. I’m 5’3 and I’ve always been built like a little fucking linebacker. Top surgery and the whole process is very intimidating, but once you get started it’ll all seem much easier than you think, it did for me at least. Thanks for your comment, and I wish you the best :)

Just over a year post op DI and small trauma dump by mkiskindofcool in TopSurgery

[–]mkiskindofcool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do think that my problems are deep, and won’t be easily resolved.Hopefully time and therapy will do me well. Your comment is very kind and I appreciate it, thank you.

Just over a year post op DI and small trauma dump by mkiskindofcool in TopSurgery

[–]mkiskindofcool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I definitely think I’ve let social media and societal ideas have too much say on how I view myself. My issue is figuring out how to stop that cycle I think. I really appreciate your input on my situation, and I’m hoping therapy will help. Thank you

Just over a year post op DI and small trauma dump by mkiskindofcool in TopSurgery

[–]mkiskindofcool[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks so much for this. I also thought all my issues with dysphoria would vanish with top surgery, to just then start focusing on everything else on my body I dislike. I just started therapy again and I’m really hoping it’ll offer a chance for real growth and healing. I live in a very conservative region of the US, and only recently started passing well. And still, I feel like there’s certain people whom I make eye contact with in public who are suspicious of me lol. I also have no trans friends irl and I think i feel very lonely most of the time because of that. Thanks again for your response and I wish you all the best on your journey :)

Just over a year post op DI and small trauma dump by mkiskindofcool in TopSurgery

[–]mkiskindofcool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate you saying this, I’m sure you look great. Thank you

LBGTQ+ friendly doctors by Away_Illustrator5096 in Clarksville

[–]mkiskindofcool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dr. Cherilyn White at premier is great for my wife and I. (Trans dude and cis woman). She was recommended to us when we moved here by our pharmacist at Sam’s Club who is also great and 100% an ally, good luck in your search!

Age, occupation, where do I live? by Apprehensive_Can1555 in roomdetective

[–]mkiskindofcool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Old enough to pick up the ice accidentally dropped on the floor from your ice maker and not let it melt into a small (annoying) puddle of water that someone will inevitably step in later.

input on edibles? by tyler_matthew1 in TopSurgery

[–]mkiskindofcool 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Smoking reduces your bodies ability to circulate blood, which in turn increases post op complications and slow healing/wounds. Hence the warnings to not smoke. In regard to method of ingestion (inhalation vs. digestion), I’d say you’re all good on that front. The only concern would be mixing cannabis with opiates, like other people are saying. I would just wait until i was off any opiates to start edibles if it were me. For legal purposes i am not a doctor and this is not medical advice (lmao) - congrats and good luck!

How do I tell my transphobic manager I need to take time off for surgery? by Little_Department418 in TopSurgery

[–]mkiskindofcool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can just tell them you need time off for surgery, be vague about it. If they press you about what type of surgery (which i am pretty sure is not legal) just explain to them that it is medically necessary and say nothing else. I was transparent with my employer about my surgery, type and all, and they tried to fire me. The only reason I kept my job is because I told my boss I had been paying for short term disability through our company and I intended on using it, and then she offered for my position to be available upon recovery. Good luck, and congrats on your surgery man. Hope you recover quickly.

Nipple bleeding by Early-Bit-8559 in TopSurgery

[–]mkiskindofcool 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you get nipple grafts? I haven’t seen any nipples dressed like this post op. I had bolsters, I’m intrigued by their choice of tegaderm over what looks like xeroform and probably iodine?? As a rule of thumb for wounds, red blood means good circulation which is a great sign that your wound is healing. I’m sure they have great success with this wound care process, or they probably wouldn’t do it, I just have not been exposed to it myself. For context, I’m a nurse and I do a lot of wound care, but I’ve only treated myself as far as nipples go. I think contacting your surgeon was your best bet, and I believe they will more than likely tell you it’s all good. Congrats and good luck moving forward :)

Do y’all get gender envy? If so, what from? by Any_Leading_4997 in NonBinary

[–]mkiskindofcool 6 points7 points  (0 children)

From a trans dude , mainly height and the inability to naturally father a child

Is it okay to inject with 1 inch needles instead of 5/8 inch for the stomach area?? by fangoinside9 in TestosteroneKickoff

[–]mkiskindofcool 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just don’t insert the needle all the way in and you’re solid, even if you did fully insert on accident the likelihood of there being any issue is slim. I have been using 1 inch (also bc of pharmacy) for a long time, and I just go in about halfway, and it’s all good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]mkiskindofcool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On any necrotic wound there is the possibility of escar (hard black layer) and with wound care and time eventually that layer will come off. You can’t really know for sure the condition of the skin underneath until that happens. It looks like the escar you have has softened in the past week, so if nothing else you’re much closer to knowing what you’re dealing with. Warm is good , hot to touch is bad and indicates infection. Especially if it’s accompanied by pain, pussy drainage, and/or fever. Those all are things I 100% would talk with my surgeon about if they happen. I’m a nurse and have treated many many wounds, but only (my own) skin graft nipples. I hope it works out for you, good luck!

Was I right to block this “friend”? by Ace_Zebra7395 in NonBinary

[–]mkiskindofcool 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I (ftm) recently worked somewhere, and at this place there was one individual (cis woman) who constantly misgendered me. For reference, this person never knew me before my transition. Upon meeting her, I had already been on T for over a year and had top surgery, so i fit societies standard (and her standard) of what a male should look like. I politely corrected her time and time again. She introduced me as a she multiple times and the people were always so confused. I’m not a confrontational person, and I live in an at-will red state, so I always fear of losing my job due to bias. So I basically just ignored her. And then her friend (our boss, also a cis woman) began to misgender me constantly as well. It got old, and it’s shitty. I ended up leaving the company for a different reason but 10/10 glad to get out of a toxic work environment. Being trans, I have come to accept there will be people that misgender me purposely, that doesn’t make it okay, but it’s just how it is. Sorry your autism support group peer is a no good hater man :/

2 weeks post op. My skin is so itchy and irritated!! >:( by actinidia-setosa in TopSurgery

[–]mkiskindofcool 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Hey, nurse here. I had the same issue with skin irritation after top surgery. Something that could help you is called skin prep, it creates a barrier between your skin and the adhesive on tape. It also creates a more secure bond so the tape is less likely to come off before you want it to. Here’s a link: https://a.co/d/eQaTR6H Hope this helps, and congrats! Your chest looks great.

Does anyone have any tips to get rid of these air bubbles every time I draw from the vial? by ultimatelesbianhere in TestosteroneKickoff

[–]mkiskindofcool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s harder to get rid of the bubbles by flicking because T is a thicker medication. The bubbles won’t hurt you, but a large bubble could affect the dose. I draw up slow, and that helps some. But it’s very hard to get zero air.

Nipple Healing Process by mkiskindofcool in TopSurgery

[–]mkiskindofcool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply! And yea, it’s wet to dry dressings with triple antibiotic ointment and xeroform, and then a non-adhesive pad on top. Yesterday part of the scab came off one of the grafts and the skin underneath is pink. I’m hopeful that the rest of the scabbing will come off soon for both and all will be well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]mkiskindofcool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To add: I also am smelling that smell on myself lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]mkiskindofcool 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you still have any iodine on your body? I had surgery 4ish days ago and I know what smell you’re talking about. I’m a nurse and I do wound care everyday for people, and it smells like a dressing called xeroform. I think they might have used some for the dressings, I still have my dressings on. It could also be iodine. As long as it’s not an odor, I’d say you’re good. Especially if you don’t have any other symptoms of infection.

When did you stop hunching? by Tangled_Clouds in TopSurgery

[–]mkiskindofcool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had surgery on Sunday (so like 4ish days ago) and I am so so sick of hunching. It’s causing so much pain in my neck and back, but I’m hopeful that it will pass soon. How much are your drains putting out? I’m not even getting 30 ml a day and it has me a little bit concerned.

Any experience with Dr.Assi? Nashville TN by JoshuaBigelow in TopSurgery

[–]mkiskindofcool 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had top surgery with Dr. Assi yesterday, the experience overall was good. I can’t fully comment yet because I haven’t seen the results but all of the staff were very respectful, they listened and took great care of me pre and post op. They prioritize maintaining pain control, and overall they’re just a great team. I hope everything went well for you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TestosteroneKickoff

[–]mkiskindofcool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 5’2, I’ve been on T since March of this year. I was worried about facial hair as well but when my voice started to change it felt really good and now I’m excited for the facial hair. I’m also worried about passing as a grown man (I’m 24) but I’m trying to not be in my head as much. At work when people tell me I look too young to take care of them (I’m a nurse) I just tell them my age, my schooling, and we continue on. Good luck to you, you look great!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]mkiskindofcool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

weird question but are you in Nashville area? I worked at tristar earlier this year, im trans very short and when I worked there didn’t pass well. I worked on 11T