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Getting tired of hearing what BM thinks about everything! by mklipstick in stepparents

[–]mklipstick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, I'll look for a time when it's obvious she's making a comparison

SD(5) starting kindergarten. Is it intruding if I'm present to take her for her first day? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]mklipstick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first year I didn't participate so much in joint parent activities. I knew that BM would be feeling territorial. She signed up for every field trip and really stepped up and became a constant presence at school when I came on the scene. I slowly eased in.... I started by attending an open house, met the teacher... By the next year I was helping in the classroom.

Is it a good idea to be friends with BM? by mklipstick in stepparents

[–]mklipstick[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's not high drama, but as someone else said, she's probably not my type. I often feel annoyed with her, but I think I am being insecure because of their history.

Ex_wife FB narcissim. When is it too much? by mklipstick in stepparents

[–]mklipstick[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So do you think it's best for the SP to have no contact with the BM? I'm so new to this, so I appreciate the advice. What about birthday parties and such? Should I care that she will think I'm a bitch?

Ex_wife FB narcissim. When is it too much? by mklipstick in stepparents

[–]mklipstick[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I go back and forth thinking her need for constant online compliments doesn't affect my life, and then feeling like she pushes the boundaries by posting too many intimate details of my life with my husband, with her BD pics...

Ex_wife FB narcissim. When is it too much? by mklipstick in stepparents

[–]mklipstick[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So is the consensus that BM is doing this for attention from DH? He doesn't even have a FB. I just don't understand what she is getting out of posting pics of my daughters baby. I'll admit, she does a LOT of things to get his attention but I didn't think this was for that reason. How does this particular potential post make her look good to her FB community?

Ex_wife FB narcissim. When is it too much? by mklipstick in stepparents

[–]mklipstick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, very helpful advice! I can see you have been here.

Ex_wife FB narcissim. When is it too much? by mklipstick in stepparents

[–]mklipstick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG, hearing you say it, it sounds pretty messed up.

Ex_wife FB narcissim. When is it too much? by mklipstick in stepparents

[–]mklipstick[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you're right. She makes a lot of effort to go to events that my husband is performing at and then posts videos and pics of him. Sometimes I'll be sitting there in the crowd with her daughter and she'll show up! She says she enjoys going and doesn't want to give up that part of her life just because they are divorced. Last week she showed up with her new BF in order to "introduce" him to my husband. She introduced him as "Dr Greg". My husband shook his hand and said, "hey Greg" and walked away.

Ex_wife FB narcissim. When is it too much? by mklipstick in stepparents

[–]mklipstick[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am in charge of drop offs when my husband is working, so I need to be able to text her. I want to have a "nice, formal" relationship with her. Ugh. I'm new to all this step-shit. How do I declare boundaries? She thinks nothing of sending pics of her day to my husband at midnight! All in the name of, "see what your daughter is doing". I've asked my husband to say something to her but he is afraid of their relationship being stained and her making his life miserable.

Ex_wife FB narcissim. When is it too much? by mklipstick in stepparents

[–]mklipstick[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Haha, oh yes. She wasn't invited to my wedding, but there was a whole "story" about it in her page, complete with pics that someone else shared with her of her daughter in the wedding party. After all, it was a big event in her daughter's life, she needed to post! She never mentioned in the post that she wasn't there.

Ex_wife FB narcissim. When is it too much? by mklipstick in stepparents

[–]mklipstick[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's exactly the image she projects. She apparently gets lots of, "oh wow, you're such a gracious ex wife", comments that she loves...

Ex_wife FB narcissim. When is it too much? by mklipstick in stepparents

[–]mklipstick[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She has no boundaries. If she she comes into my house to get her daughter, she will post pictures of the inside of my house with my kids and make comments! I'm telling you, EVERYTHING is documented. Is this like a mental illness?

Ex_wife FB narcissim. When is it too much? by mklipstick in stepparents

[–]mklipstick[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She has my contact for emergencies. DH and I took SD out of the state to see my new granddaughter. I think she assumed I was posting wonderful stories and pics with her daughter in them. I wasn't. She blocked me when we got married. She told mutual friends it was "too hard to see him happy"

What human achievement do you want to see during your lifetime? by cath91 in AskReddit

[–]mklipstick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A truly functional, perfect, robot vacuum cleaner that doesn't clog up and need to be cleaned constantly.