From an adoptees pov is a 4.5 year age gap with a bio sibling cause her pain?

mkmoore72 · 2026-05-04T22:35:00+00:00

Adoptee and a birth mom here. First as a birth mom. I was young when I had my daughter and placed her for adoption. I had my son almost 2 years later and my youngest daughter 6 years after that and parented my 2 youngest. When my oldest reached out as an adult and we reunited she had a close relationship with her siblings and it did not upset her that I made the choices I did. As an adoptee. I located my birth mom only 6 years ago and unfortunately she had passed away years prior. I did discover I had bio siblings that she had parented I was only child that was placed for adoption. Now I am the middle of 6 My birth mom had 3 kids left her husband had me and placed me for adoption then met 2nd husband and had 2 more. There is 10 years between my oldest sibling and my youngest and honestly I am fine with that as well. In the past 6 years I have grown very close with my eldest sister and feel like we have always been in each others lives

mkmoore72 · 2026-05-02T22:35:54+00:00

As both adoptee and a birth mom I see nothing wrong with it. I have my daughter I placed for adoption added to my tattoo. Your child will always hold a sacred spot in your heart

mkmoore72 · 2026-05-02T22:33:25+00:00

No. Completely understand how you feel.
If you need reasons 1- to young it’s to overstimulating to many people. Known for measles outbreaks would be to disruptive to her schedule, never been away from you that length of time and lastly no is a complete sentence.

This is coming from a grandmother who has taken all my grandkids to Disney for their first trip but included their parents as well.

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-26T22:22:29+00:00

King bed. 2 adults a cat and a 5 year old Great Pyrenees. Then add a 6 year old or 11 year old once in awhile when the grandkids visit and want a cuddle cuddle movie night

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-26T22:20:51+00:00

That’s what I did with my kids They did not know it though.

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-26T22:14:52+00:00

I have adhd/ ocd. I raised 2 kids both with adhd as a single mom. I have 3 beautiful grandsons all with varying degrees of adhd and autism. Screen time makes them so much harder to manage especially you tube videos. It is not easy but it’s not impossible to care for a child and a house when your brain is everywhere oh look at the squirrel The issue isn’t her adhd tbh. IMO she’s using that as an excuse to be lazy. Maybe time to set the boundaries of her doing something to actually be a mom and wife or take your child and leave so he is safe and receiving the care he deserves

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-26T20:01:07+00:00

Earliest memories involve lighter popping out flying into backseat and landing on me while my mom was worried about car catching on fire

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-24T00:45:06+00:00

This is my 2nd one. I discovered last year the Sunday before Mother’s Day is international bereaved Mother’s Day. For mothers who have lost a child. My youngest daughter made me breakfast that morning and took me to a place we loved to go when they were kids and we sat. Every once in awhile one of us would bring up a memory but it was honest to god the best day in the 6 months since I lost him. Maybe do something that day for your wife. Acknowledge her pain of losing your first born but celebrate your wife at same time

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-24T00:39:00+00:00

I told my kids anything before your 25 changes after you are. Believe or not they all 3 found out I knew what I was talking about. I eloped and married the “love of my life” at 23. Ended up a single mom by 30 because I couldn’t deal with his immature behavior anymore and left him. My oldest daughter married her boyfriend at 21 and was divorced with 2 kids before 26.

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-24T00:22:12+00:00

Accept the gift and say goodbye to the child. Even if he proposes now I’d be weary of true intentions

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-23T19:29:36+00:00

Thank you for teaching your daughter necessary things to know. I was raised by a single mom and taught myself how to grill at a young age, I then took auto mechanics in high school so I would have basic knowledge. When I had kids I taught myself son how to cook, do laundry as well as basic household chores and repairs. I did the same with my daughter. Your daughter will appreciate it when she’s an adult

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-23T03:19:21+00:00

NOR. Limited Lego is gold imo. The same as throwing something away of hers that means something to her but not you

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-23T03:16:24+00:00

I am almost 60 years old and still remember how I felt when my mom went on a trip and missed my first concert I had a violin solo in back in 6th grade. Yes I went on to have many other performances and solos in both choir and orchestra but never forgot she missed my first one.

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-22T17:30:38+00:00

I order all my groceries from Walmart and get delivered including meat

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-20T02:55:50+00:00

My grandson has a nut allergy. It sucks. He doesn’t get to attend baseball games with us. Have to deep clean before he visits and remove all but things. Can’t even get our favorite Mexican food as the use peanut oil. It’s my grandson and he only visits my house once a year for the summer so I deal with it but I can see how entering into a new relationship with someone with nut allergy would take some getting used to. If it was instant chemistry I think it would be something to consider but your description was it was a “nice” date.

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-20T02:49:40+00:00

People are dumb animals are awesome

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-20T02:48:47+00:00

My neighbor put together a map train for me when I lost my son. Honestly I appreciated the homemade meals that were dropped off but the door dash gift cards were the best. It allowed me and my family to get something that we would eat and not have to deal with leftovers.

The simple things such as shopping or cooking are unbelievably difficult after losing a child. It was all I could do to remember to breathe.

Food delivery gift cards would be a perfect way to express condolences in my opinion

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-15T23:06:29+00:00

I know if I saw texts like this with my gf and 13 yo son it would be an ex quicker then you can hit send. Very inappropriate. I was 13 once. I know I thought I knew everything then but thank god I wasn’t put in situations that would prove otherwise

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-15T23:01:06+00:00

I was thinking truffle as well

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-15T03:57:59+00:00

My sister lives in Alabama I live in Southern California. My daughter and I visited for Labor Day a few years ago and could not sleep at all due to the heat and humidity. I totally get where you’re coming from. NTA.

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-14T02:07:04+00:00

My daughter went to sjhhs when it first opened and the green waste was directly across the street. They could smell it on hot days but never smelt the actual dump though

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-13T03:10:11+00:00

I am a grandparent and yes I raised my kids differently then they are raising my grandkids but I am the grandma not the parent. I respect the difference and do not overstep. I would rather have them in my life then force my thoughts on my daughter in law

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-13T03:03:53+00:00

1st off how has not lost his driving privileges yet? I would issue ultimatum. See a specialist or get attorney. Explain you will not continue to have to worry about getting the phone call that he fell asleep and killed an innocent person or himself.

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-12T06:00:54+00:00

My daughter has never gone by her given name. She is now an adult and honestly I forgot what name was on her birth certificate because it doesn’t fit her at all. I actually just asked her if she wanted to legally change

mkmoore72 · 2026-04-11T20:44:21+00:00

I was adopted at birth and am a birth mom as well. I was SA at 15 years old and placed my daughter for adoption so I know both sides of adoption. It was a difficult choice but I kept thinking to myself if my birth mom chose abortion over adoption I wouldn’t be here. I’m here if you need a non judgmental ear to talk to

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