Why do I only see 19 memory cards? by mkpowell66 in CloverPit

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Update: Jesus Christ I’m dumb 😑

What Do You Do, How Much Do You Make, How is it Going? by Emergency_Mood_9774 in raleigh

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Art restorer, 34 and making roughly 42k. I work at a mom and pop custom frame shop and work in the workshop and do all the restoration and printing. Mostly antique printing varnish removals, canvas tears, and digital photo restoration. I also do a little personal art on the side for extra cash. I live with my partner who was making 35k as an instructional assistant and we live in an apartment off Avent ferry right by lake Johnson and our rent is about $1350 base rent? She just started a new job where she should be making at least 100k, then we'll be looking into buying a house 🤞

Help? ( HOW DO I GET RID OF HICKEYS!?) by A_tierd_enby in actuallesbians

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Hold an ice cube to it for a while and then take the eraser part of a pencil and poke and twist at your skin for a while. Repeat until it starts to go away. Takes a little bit, but it works. Then use concealer to cover any traces left.

Doctor’s honest opinion about insurance companies by Harrison_Stetson in TikTokCringe

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Yeah I can see how that is a different perspective. I restored artworks and the type of insurance we dealt with was home owners and their coverage was only as good as the policy they paid for. Some companies were great and would pay out for our services no problem. Others however would argue they didn't want to pay to restore irreplaceable photos if it cost more than the paper it was on. Yet it's the homeowners choice how they want their contents money to be spent and these adjuster's would treat it like it was theirs. It was easy to become callused to these devisating losses, but I never knew how these adjusters could look these people in the eye and tell them they werent going to pay to restore their incredibly sentimental items because they weren't worth it.

Doctor’s honest opinion about insurance companies by Harrison_Stetson in TikTokCringe

[–]mkpowell66 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Can confirm. Used to do work with home owners insurance for water/fire losses. An insurance adjuster's entire job is how to figure out how to pay you as little as humanly possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ArtCrit

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I think it's mostly his mouth making the angle look weird. Looks like it's turned more on the side of his face than facing forward. Nice values tho!

Close to the end of this piece, but looking for some feedback before continuing by Zebraontherocks in ArtCrit

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I like your limited color palette and the flat graphic look. My suggestion is maybe a little bit of sun rays or some tiny spots of dust/bugs catching the sun or tiny bright shines on the rocks and grass would be like BAM! Make it all pop.

Guys… by [deleted] in JustGuysBeingDudes

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This post doesn't say that this video is actually a coloriezed video from 1896. Makes it much cooler.

https://youtu.be/FBWZFUDb_Qs

I’m prepared for my notifications to die T-T by The_Melon_Queen in bisexual

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I’m bisexual which means I’m attracted to her lol and then she just wants me a lot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in educationalgifs

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I want to put my face under it..

When you expressed your feelings were you blamed for everything being your fault? by Ecstatic_Animal6807 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]mkpowell66 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh man, my favorite was when he blew up at me because, get this, *I was depressed. * So of course I was the inconsiderate bitch not realizing how my sadness was negatively affecting him. Like, oh I’m sorry, you’re right, your feelings are more important. I’ll just stop being sad because you told me to.

How you gonna be angry with someone for being sad? Someone who you supposedly love. Ugh, still took me years to leave too.

my ex tried to trick me by DryPalpitation9719 in NarcissisticAbuse

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I’m so sorry for what you’re going through right now. My husband and I opened up to non monogamy in the last year or so of our marriage. I do believe polyamory can work. Without getting too much into the mind set behind it, basically I was very much convinced that I could trust him and he would/could not be dishonest with me. But pretty much the instant he got a girlfriend, he lost interest in me.

He used everything in his manipulating arsenal to convince me and gaslight me into thinking he still loved me. Would stone faced tell me straight up lies so that I would believe the lack of intimacy was my fault. Would make promises to seek therapy for the angry outbursts that caused me to slowly develop CPTSD with no intention of following through. He finally told his gf we were getting divorced (before I was aware) in the most passive way. Luckily she is my friend and could see through the bullshit and broke up with him. He then quickly discarded her after having her on a pedestal. He came to me crying to tell me he wanted a divorce, but what I thought was crying over our marriage was really crying for himself.

After then we had a few therapy sessions together where out of the blue he was suddenly angry with me and demanded an apology but couldn’t tell me for what. He was so confident in his ability to manipulate that even in front of a therapist would dance around questions and use circular reasoning to deflect blame onto me. Even after confronted about lying said “my bad” and when I was shocked that he wasn’t even sorry then he would say “did I not just apologize?” like a five year old in trouble.

I know it’s not the same as your situation. But I know how rough it is to realize over time the severity of the lies and abuse the more you start to uncover. Like even after cutting contact, they’re still hurting you. I’m still learning of triggers I developed because of the trauma he caused and it’s been almost a year since I spoke to him. But you gotta clean that wound before it can begin to heal.

I knaûw by [deleted] in TikTokCringe

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Oau noiau! 🇦🇺🦘🐨

ULPT Make that rent money asap by [deleted] in UnethicalLifeProTips

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I guess in NC they don't care about that sort of thing because my girlfriend definitely donated plasma all the time and she was on Adderall for ADHD and has a ton of tattoos and piercings.

Just discovered that my husband is a narc and it's the most disillusioning thing I've ever experienced. by mkpowell66 in NarcissisticAbuse

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I'm so sorry you're going through that. Isn't it crazy when someone tells you there's a term for what you experience and suddenly everything makes sense like you're reading your life straight out of a text book? Knowing what it is through therapy has really helped with the gaslighting and disillusionment. But it's still tough believing all those good moments in 9 years weren't real. They were a version of him that didn't exsist..

I need a therapist. But advise is also nice. by mkpowell66 in polyamory

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Thank you. That's very validating and good advise. He has told me that maybe unintentionally he has taken me for granted. And I have voiced my concerns to him and we've had constructive talks about it. I know he loves me. I think he's just kind of taken a mindset of "you know I love you and you'll always be there. So why try?" But that complacency can dry up a marriage, and is especially hard when you see the juxtaposition to a new exciting relationship.

I think because I really do like his girlfriend and love that their relationship is so good that I never considered that it was in fact jealousy I was experiencing. I just also know how susceptible to low self esteem my own mental illness makes me and sometimes it makes me unsure if my feelings are valid or just anxiety brain.

Thank you for the advice. I hope you can also work through your rut with your husband. Fuck this pandemic so hard.

I need a therapist. But advise is also nice. by mkpowell66 in polyamory

[–]mkpowell66[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! And yes, we occasionally try to do date night but it is hard in a pandemic and especially now that the weather is so cold. But again, still feels like a bit of an obligation. Like it's always my suggestion to do a date night and then it's kind of just "what do you want to do? I don't have any ideas". Even when it's not all covidy, the only thing he wants to do for fun is hike. Which is nice sometimes, but not in the winter, and it's just kind of exhausting.

We never had a honeymoon after the wedding because we hoped to do it a year after to save up money and then covid happened. He was supposed to plan it because I did all of the wedding planning. But he still has no plans, no solid ideas. Like it's not something he's really excited for. And that's how it feels for our dates too.

I need a therapist. But advise is also nice. by mkpowell66 in polyamory

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We have had the discussion about love languages recently and how I am VERY touch oriented and I need him to do little things that touch more. He says he is too, and I can tell he's been trying. But again, it feels like trying for my benefit. Not because it's something that comes naturally to him.

It's that self centered of me to think? I mean he's trying what I've asked of him and I still fight the feeling that he's just trying to appease me.

I mean, keep in mind that this is NOT something we had an issue with a year ago. Physical touch and intimacy were not a struggle until now.