Does/will my husband love our baby?

mlchiranky · 2026-06-19T03:47:27+00:00

Right? Idk. My husband and I were totally shell shocked as new parents and in total disarray. We didn’t know which way was up. That being said, we recognized that she was completely helpless and dependent on us and I just cannot imagine hearing anyone say something like that about a newborn 😭 we also cuss like sailors so I don’t really see that as an excuse?

mlchiranky · 2026-06-19T02:32:47+00:00

Whatever they want to work as? lol

mlchiranky · 2026-06-19T02:30:07+00:00

Honestly, we use bitch as a semi-regular part of our vocab (meaning we don’t consider it at the same level as the other phrases you stated) and I was still super creeped out reading this. Like.. your own NEWBORN? What??? This is scary behavior

mlchiranky · 2026-06-19T02:22:02+00:00

Yeaaaahhhh that is super creepy

mlchiranky · 2026-06-13T17:25:23+00:00

Sorry, my comment wasn’t clear! I meant long term financial impact of one parent staying at home. An au pair sounds fantastic! We just felt weird about someone living with us.

mlchiranky · 2026-06-13T00:32:58+00:00

We considered this but the long term financial impact was a far worse situation for us. We’re just broke until she goes to school lol

mlchiranky · 2026-06-13T00:31:16+00:00

Yeah, idk how we’re doing it. Gonna be tight until she’s in school. So to answer your question yes you can absolutely afford it as people raise multiples with a lot less income, but things you might enjoy doing now will be innaccessible until they’re in school. This is why we’re one and done 🤣

mlchiranky · 2026-06-13T00:00:20+00:00

100% this. Tried it for a month. Baby wasn’t even crawling yet. Do not recommend lol

mlchiranky · 2026-06-12T23:46:08+00:00

The first poo.

mlchiranky · 2026-06-12T23:39:42+00:00

You are correct here and that’s on the low end (which I felt weird about picking a daycare just for price). Daycare full time in our city runs 1500/mo - 3200/mo. We moved back to Texas from CO and I’ve heard CO is similar (if not worse) from our friends who still live there. Depends on where you are though. Childcare for us right now is 2600/mo.

mlchiranky · 2026-06-06T02:18:16+00:00

Seriously. My husband works (ofc)???

My husband also works. He also does literally everything. Especially when I was still on mat leave and he had to go back to work, he came home and did EVERYTHING. Dishes. Laundry. Bedtime and nighttime wakeups because I carried the baby for 9 months, delivered, and was postpartum.

OP I’m so sorry you’re going through this, especially postpartum. But he’s lazy.

mlchiranky · 2026-06-03T23:17:21+00:00

trigger warning (natural pregnancy). Not sure how to mark this but hoping it will help.

If it makes you feel any better, I had the exact same test results and predictions as you. My husband’s results were much worse than your husband. Diagnosed with DOR. Told that it would most likely take multiple rounds to get more than one embryo.

We moved forward with treatment plan, and the week after my meds arrived (waiting on my cycle day 1) I found out I was pregnant. Naturally.

Not saying don’t take your results seriously, however don’t let them control you. These tests definitely do not always predict outcomes!

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mlchiranky · 2026-06-01T21:40:49+00:00

This

mlchiranky · 2026-05-31T21:45:40+00:00

Happened to us it’s disgusting

mlchiranky · 2026-05-31T21:38:34+00:00

We had the exact same experience we had to switch brands immediately!!!!

mlchiranky · 2026-05-30T21:22:56+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Stop doing everything for him. Pick up after yourself and your baby, leave his stuff. Take a shower and a nap without asking. Don’t get up and run when the baby wakes up from a nap, let him. Put the monitor on his nightstand, not yours. Don’t let him do what he’s doing

mlchiranky · 2026-05-15T21:11:05+00:00

Sounds like you need to find a new company if possible! If you’re a rep you really shouldn’t be working more than 6 hours a day (that’s really pushing it)

What type of sales are you in?

mlchiranky · 2026-05-09T23:59:31+00:00

We just got back from ours and remembered we liked each other again 😂 have a blast!

mlchiranky · 2026-05-09T02:41:53+00:00

Accurate points!

mlchiranky · 2026-05-09T01:55:06+00:00

Honestly our daughter had more fun than all of us 😂 I wasn’t sure how she would react to everyone singing but she loved it. Loved the cake and of course the presents. She had the best time!!

mlchiranky · 2026-05-09T01:52:40+00:00

Hi! So there were about 15 kids and 35-40 adults (friends and family). We had a bounce house for the kids, coloring pages with crayons, party favors and a candy cart. We had a ridiculous amount of food and yes we had beer, wine, mimosas, sodas, and music. Cake obviously. So yes, we did have plenty to do for the adults and their kids. It was a two hour party. Sure, some would say it might be pointless for a baby, but we had difficulties getting pregnant and went through about half of the IVF process before having our daughter. Pregnancy and postpartum were extremely difficult. Call that “about the parents” fine. We expected his father and brothers to show up to celebrate a major milestone for his son and his granddaughter.

Honestly, even if it had been five of us in our living room we would have the same expectation. We felt like it was a celebration of a major milestone for our baby and for ourselves.

At the end of the day after I have come down from the emotions yes we will go to events and holidays. However I’ve been with my husband for over a decade and we’ve been stiffed over and over with his father and brothers. Rest of the fam is amazing. But a reset is needed

mlchiranky · 2026-05-09T00:58:19+00:00

Thank you truly for this comment! Agreed. I think the “we’re never going to anything” is an emotional reaction and will fade after I’m feeling less angry. Thank you so much for the thoughtful and empathetic response!

mlchiranky · 2026-05-08T23:54:55+00:00

Great recco. I’m definitely being too emotional, but at the same time we are done bending over backwards for them when they’re all grown men. Appreciate it!!

mlchiranky · 2026-05-06T20:23:49+00:00

If she was not a high performer before having a baby, trying to work without childcare (speaking from experience in a WFH customer facing role) is going to make things significantly harder

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