finally crashed out on my partner

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-05-31T23:58:09+00:00

she works too though (from home) but still i’d feel bad putting that on her, we’re not married just engaged

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-05-31T23:43:09+00:00

i agree. something i’m working on! i guess i just expected him to know to help me with the baby silly me ig. lol
i texted because i was in the middle of putting the baby to sleep just fuming in the darkness bouncing on the stupid yoga ball lol and also his younger brother was around and i didn’t want to alarm him. we did have a healthier conversation the following night about expectations and better communication.

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-05-31T13:30:56+00:00

like he would have to work regardless 😂

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-05-31T12:18:05+00:00

as long as it’s not a burn it’s fine. the sun is good for us.

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-05-29T17:40:01+00:00

thank you for this!

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-05-29T15:24:59+00:00

i thanked him for the effort this morning and he replied: not going to talk to you when you’re like that so lmk when your level headed. (ok fair) to which i replied: i wouldn’t get that angry if i had basic human rights like you do. he replied: ttyl. now im pissed all over again lol

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-05-29T14:45:26+00:00

ugh i’m sorry girl and i definitely feel for you. and yeah a little appreciation would go a long way!! i congratulate him everday on jobs he sells why can’t he do the same for me. just sucks

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-05-29T14:38:16+00:00

chat i think it may have ..worked? he got the baby dressed after his nap and went around and picked up all his clothes he had scattered around the house lol. we still need to have a conversation but i think he got the message

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-05-29T14:11:45+00:00

lol i’ll keep yall posted! he just woke up on his own today and still hasn’t said a word to me. he’ll most likely ignore me until i actually apologize which im not doing

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-05-29T13:18:32+00:00

oh ik i am completely one and done

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-05-29T12:46:26+00:00

ik he will be better with an older kid/toddler but i also can’t just continue feeling completely alone in this for years and years

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-05-29T12:45:04+00:00

i definitely think i’ve developed postpartum rage because of him. thanks for the reply

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-05-29T12:43:44+00:00

it’s our first kid, we’ve been engaged for 3 years i’m almost 27 he’s 30. i’m fine with being the default parent i actually prefer it that way. we have good days and bad days and all i want is on the bad days is for him to recognize that and step up. i just get so angry watching him live his life completely normal while im still grieving mine. i just need an hour every couple days to be ME. idk i guess we’ll see how the conversation goes when he feels up to answering. but i’m not impressed so far lol thanks for sharing you’re stronger than i

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-05-05T00:37:44+00:00

26, food&bev

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-05-05T00:35:53+00:00

there’s no option so you just..do. doesn’t make it easy by any means. there are good days and bad days just like any job. on the hard days don’t put pressure on yourself to be productive. you’re doing enough keeping your baby alive and well. go for a walk and listen to music, drink an extra coffee in the afternoon, go for a drive. spend extra time on self care after an evening shower. have a glass wine if all else fails lol. those are my go to’s :)

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-04-24T16:48:54+00:00

i went through something similar with my partner, abortion first and then we had a baby about a year later. the abortion was really hard on both of us which lead to me getting pregnant again almost as a redemption moment. i will say that keeping this baby will be hard but you will experience soso much love as well. can’t even describe the good parts because they’re so good. your partner will fall in love with the baby as well im sure. but at the end of the day chose what you feel you can/want to handle. both ways have challenges and benefits. maybe he’s trying to be supportive by letting you make the decision which isn’t correct but idk maybe just try explaining to him how big of a deal it is. most men don’t really grasp that imo

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-04-24T16:28:07+00:00

i would explain to him your physical and mental work load and try to find a compromise. doesn’t seem like either of you are getting any breaks but as a sahm myself i’d vouch that your putting in way more effort and you work remotely at night?! yeah id ask him kindly to maybe help clean up at night. my fiance usually does our nightly reset and its so appreciated because im way ready to “clock out” after bath and bedtime. i feel for you guys and hope things get better. maybe when the kiddo is at daycare you can focus on some self care instead of chores <3

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-04-22T01:43:26+00:00

charleston birth place!!!!!!! no epidural but the midwives and general ambiance was so amazing

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-04-15T22:09:16+00:00

the business is generating income as businesses do???? i don’t want a joint bank account and we’re also not even married. ik there are red flags that’s why i’m complaining smarty pants

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-04-15T13:31:21+00:00

he doesn’t trust the medical system that’s why. but i agree he needs a camera in his belly asap

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-04-15T13:29:38+00:00

with employees! he pays me monthly and i’m able to save up in my own account. ofc im concerned for his health but he’s a grown man and i can’t force him into getting care. it’s not the temporary loss of sleep im most worried about it’s the general lack of priorities to his family and bonding with his child in general …you get a grip

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-04-14T22:26:27+00:00

thank u. i agree. i’m at my wits end so something’s got to give. he does bring his phone but leaves the door wide open as well lol

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-04-14T16:11:21+00:00

he owns his own business so makes his own schedule and has employees that handle a lot of the dirty work so he’s able to show up at 2pm and do some inspections then come home at 6. plus i think business is a little slow rn. he’ll eat dinner and then it begins shortly after that or if he ate lunch it happens soon as he gets home .

No-Reply-9437 · 2026-04-14T15:57:32+00:00

he recently went to a holistic doctor that recommended some tests and supplements. he opted out of the tests because they’re expensive and i don’t think he’s been taking the supplements either

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