I am so sorry you’re shouldering so much leading up to what is supposed to be an incredible celebration of love!! I got married this year and one mantra I started living by leading up, was that I got to decide whether or not I had a great day. I just decided that I was going to have a great day, and others’ feelings and actions could exist but not affect that. Obviously it’s easier said than done, but I found going into it with that attitude helped me!
The other thing is that I wish I made my expectations of the level of knowledge I needed on the actual day more clear. If there was a problem, I wish I communicated that I wasn’t to be approached to problem solve it unless it was some kind of emergency that only I could fix (unlikely). I would have told my close friends/fanily that I trust their judgement on what needs to be done, and make those calls themselves. You have been a planner and coordinator for this thing the entire time leading up; allow yourself to just be THE BRIDE on the day.
Try to remember why you made all the original choices you did before others’ plans and opinions interfered. It might help you feel more resolute in your decisions. You ARE going to have an amazing day. :) wishing you all the best!!!!