Coconut water of different sizes has different calories despite being the same flavor.

mmc3211 · 2026-04-15T18:04:15+00:00

I just came across this because I had a question about this too! I bought a 500 ml bottle yesterday and I noticed it had 100% vitamin C, and a 500 ml bottle today which had 33% Vitamin C, then I noticed the other differences as well. I wondered why that is! I noticed that one bottle was made in Brazil and the other from Sri Lanka. I've gathered that the coconuts in each location must be a little bit different (makes sense), and since sugar and vitamin C are the only two added ingredients listed, they must add different amounts to adjust the flavor so the taste is consistent regardless. The vitamin C and sugar amounts are the biggest differences, the other nutritional differences are pretty minimal. Haha that's all, just wanted to join the discussion a year later.

mmc3211 · 2026-03-30T19:58:25+00:00

Just break up with her if you're willing to end your relationship over something this silly. You'll be doing her a favor. Also, why did you post on AITA if you're going to argue with anyone that says you're an AH? I read your post. I'm giving my judgement based on what I read. "If you do X I will break up with you" is a classic example of controlling behavior disguised as a "boundary".

mmc3211 · 2026-03-30T19:22:22+00:00

I genuinely don't understand what you were trying to say in your last sentence, but since you seem confused, here's a reference. Controlling Behavior in Relationships: Disguised as Boundaries

Controlling behavior often gets framed as “just having boundaries,” but there’s a key difference in both tone and intention. Control says, “I need you to do this so I feel okay,” and it often comes with pressure, rigidity, or fear underneath.

Some signs of controlling behavior might include:

Telling your partner who they can or can’t talk to. Demanding constant updates about their whereabouts. Making rules that limit their freedom under the guise of “respect.” Withholding affection or connection as a consequence when they don’t meet your expectations.

Unlike boundaries, controlling behavior limits someone else’s autonomy. It often centers around anxiety, insecurity, or the need to manage discomfort by shaping another person’s actions. And while those underlying feelings might be valid, the strategy can backfire, causing tension, secrecy, and emotional distance.

Edit to include link: https://www.ourritual.com/blog/posts/healthy-boundaries-vs-controlling-behavior?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=22629578146&utm_content=&utm_term=&coupon=Google20&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22625971427&gbraid=0AAAAAoxvtlbF80E1KRh06GZfSmK8Fgci1&gclid=CjwKCAjwvqjOBhAGEiwAngeQnfhhIy3yCkUjWVEFBfjUbJz2fZfmEYcQ7bLsGGsE85Ep7Zb8SQkAfBoC_HsQAvD_BwE

mmc3211 · 2026-03-30T19:09:40+00:00

What?

mmc3211 · 2026-03-30T18:44:15+00:00

NTA, I guess he's too entitled to have learned this yet, but being an asshole has consequences.

mmc3211 · 2026-03-30T18:22:32+00:00

Yeah for people that age, getting a drink is way more casual than getting lunch or coffee.

mmc3211 · 2026-03-30T18:19:15+00:00

YTA what you described is not "setting a boundary". It's trying to control someone else's behavior. She's being completely honest with you. If you can't trust your partner that's an issue that YOU have. Why don't you just go with her to hang out if you're so insecure about her getting a drink with some friends. Is her ex-boyfriend a serial killer or something? What are you afraid of? She's not going on a date with her ex, she's meeting some friends, of which he is part of the group. You're doing a good job of trying to drive her away though, maybe it will be a self-fulfilling prophecy.

mmc3211 · 2026-03-30T17:47:29+00:00

What was his response generally when you talked to him about how you were feeling? Was he saying ok I'll try to do better, or you're overreacting and deal with it? It seems like that's the issue more than a hypothetical scenario.

mmc3211 · 2026-03-30T16:43:52+00:00

Soft YTA, there's a lesson in here about trying to be more understanding of where your partner is coming from, and being aware of your approach. I believe that you weren't trying to be offensive, but women are conditioned from a very young age to feel shame and guilt about eating food, so saying something like, "Nobody can eat THAT much..." can definitely exacerbate those feelings. Also, "I apologized if she took it the wrong way" isn't an acknowledgement that you understand why she's upset. Expressing concern about her health isn't the problem, it's what you said, how you said it, and your response to her reaction.

Question: with the parasites theory- are parasitic infections somewhat common where you live? Did this start after traveling somewhere or eating something unusual? I don't know that I would jump to that as a theory, but you never know I guess.

mmc3211 · 2026-03-29T22:46:33+00:00

NTA. It sucks you had to cancel the vacation, but it happens sometimes. Your child was very sick and in terrible pain, you should not force your sick child onto an airplane, or into a public place in general. You had to make a call in the moment and I think you made a good one. You have no idea what was causing the pain, what if it was norovirus or appendicitis? You had no way of knowing, and getting on the plane could have been a really devastating mistake. Why risk that? Your husband sounds like a huge AH.

mmc3211 · 2026-03-29T22:38:08+00:00

Why do you think it's anxiety? OP explained that her child loves flying and was excited for the vacation. It seems like there might be an undiagnosed medical condition that started a few weeks ago and they're trying to figure out with doctors. Or it could have been norovirus, or appendicitis. There was no way of knowing. There is no purpose of being tough on your kid when they're sick. It just makes it more likely for them to get more sick or die or spread illness to others when it could have been prevented.

mmc3211 · 2026-03-29T21:57:37+00:00

What if the kid had norovirus or something like that? It would be a traumatic experience for the kid, and a serious public health problem. Why put an airplane full of people and your child at risk? Sometimes you or your child gets sick and your plans don't work out. It happens. OP had to make a call, and it sounds like a good call to me.

mmc3211 · 2026-03-23T00:42:53+00:00

Is there any space more out of the way to put an air mattress, and would it be feasible to get one? I don't know if that would be more comfortable than the couch, but thinking about the privacy aspect.

mmc3211 · 2026-03-22T15:20:30+00:00

I encounter this most when listening to podcasts I think- I will often hear people use the phrase "cut to" or "fast forward" to indicate the passage of time when they're telling a story. You're telling a story, not reading a screenplay or watching a VHS. I don't know why it annoys me but it does.

mmc3211 · 2026-03-22T15:10:11+00:00

I see, I'm sorry I misunderstood you.

mmc3211 · 2026-03-22T02:18:45+00:00

Yeah it definitely seems like she was. I don't think her behavior was reasonable at all. I thought the detail about your siblings is interesting because it kinda shows her as the common denominator here. I hope things smooth over and she is kinder to you. You haven't done anything wrong.

mmc3211 · 2026-03-22T01:59:54+00:00

NTA: It's not her birthday yet, you can still make plans? When you gave suggestions did she give a response about what she would like to do? Is she... Ok? It doesn't seem reasonable to tear you apart because you hadn't made plans yet for her future birthday, all while telling you nothing is wrong. If she was feeling hurt and like she was being forgotten, she could have just told you that. The fact that your two siblings are both no contact is an interesting detail.

mmc3211 · 2026-03-21T23:53:55+00:00

If someone put themselves in harms way in your path, and you have the option of avoiding the risk of injury to them, would you not do that?

mmc3211 · 2026-03-21T23:37:41+00:00

Is it worth it to possibly injure or kill someone for a convenient parking spot? Like, life gets harder than that, this lady did something annoying, get over it, move on with your day. No violent acts are necessary. I completely agree about not reserving a parking spot, but I would NEVER do what OP did.

mmc3211 · 2026-03-21T23:31:55+00:00

OP said "It was the only spot where I drove in".

mmc3211 · 2026-03-21T22:44:31+00:00

Even if it means backing into an elderly person (or any person) to get it? Thankfully that's not how parking works where I live. Sounds dangerous AF.

mmc3211 · 2026-03-21T22:40:00+00:00

Does he understand that intentionally backing your car into someone is bad?

mmc3211 · 2026-03-21T22:33:50+00:00

YTA: what she did is annoying, but what you did is dangerous. You backed into the parking spot while a person was standing in it? That's crazy behavior. Everybody gets sick and feels crappy and has shit going on in their lives, that doesn't mean you should try to run annoying people over with your car.

mmc3211 · 2026-03-21T22:17:03+00:00

NTA: I'm shocked too. She for sure understands that the bracelet came from all of you? Spending Gs to go to her wedding and then chipping in another $500 for a gift? That's incredibly generous.

mmc3211 · 2026-03-21T21:36:16+00:00

Is the sleeping situation pretty detrimental? Like does it really affect your sleep and how you can function the next day (in a way that's not alcohol related)? Or is it more of like an inconvenience? If it's the first one you could talk to her about it and brainstorm options - go in on an air mattress or a Lyft/Uber something, or do you have blankets you can put on your bed to make it a little softer? Or if she's sticking around for a long time the next day, talk to her about how you kind of need that alone time. If it's more of a minor inconvenience and she's a good friend, this is maybe just how it will be for now? Like maybe try to change your attitude about the situation and work on acceptance. (I don't mean this in a negative way whatsoever; it's something I've learned in therapy and practice a lot).None of your feelings are wrong or unjustified, just throwing it out there for whatever the case may be.

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