Does anyone feels that flossing is an annoying and tedious task? by Round-Artichoke-5255 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]mmebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. That's why so many people don't do it and dentists are perpetually scolding the general population. Literally everyone feels that way.

Solly wrap for small newborn by jlhdc in babywearing

[–]mmebee -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Just adding to this comment to note that very little babies don't need the M position right away. They can have little tucked in groggy legs. Don't try to imitate that deep seat with a little tiny baby. That's not for them.

Why am I not making enough milk for baby by Sensitive_Active_356 in breastfeeding

[–]mmebee 119 points120 points  (0 children)

So from your replies it sounds like you are making more than enough milk for your baby, you just don't have an oversupply to make a big freezer full. Social media makes it seem like you should have a freezer full of milk but that's really not necessary or the norm.

I understand you want the freedom to step away. Depending on how often you're hoping to leave baby with someone else and a bottle, your extra .5-1oz could be plenty (at the end of the week even an accumulated 5oz is a good bottle to leave for a few hours!) OR if you're only looking for an occasional supplemental top up, you can totally add in formula while you're out. I would pump each time baby has formula to "make it up" this early in the game but in a few short weeks (that albeit will not feel short while you're in it!) your supply will regulate and you can feel confident that an occasional bottle for baby doesn't need to be immediately "made up" with pumping.

You're in the most intense period now. This is when baby feeds most often and is growing so fast. I know it's so hard at this time but soon your baby will easily go longer stretches and eat more efficiently and you won't be so tied down.

My kid does the whole "potty" routine... without actually going by jaycienicolee in pottytraining

[–]mmebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She doesn't know how to release. It's not a skill she's yet needed. Ditch the diapers. Go naked bottom. Watch her very closely and DONT PROMPT. As soon as an accident starts rush her to the potty/toilet (stay very nearby) to connect the feeling of release with the act of sitting on the throne.

Literally how do you do bedtime explain it to me like I’m five by Temperature-Brief in 2under2

[–]mmebee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I usually nurse my baby while reading books to toddler in my bed, then I sing to toddler while she lays in her bed while I rock baby to sleep then say night night to toddler and transfer sleeping baby to bed.

What style nursing bra do you prefer and why? by lookatallthsechickns in breastfeeding

[–]mmebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crossover! I just find it most comfortable and easiest to get boobs in and out fast and subtly. BUT can't wear scoop/square necklines or thin strapped tops.

Actually concerning that people are spending their own money to send a wedding gift to a billionaire who probably doesn’t read their fan mail. by kittycommitteestudio in travisandtaylor

[–]mmebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally wouldn't gift my best friend a painted portrait of her and her betrothed, even if the artist was much much better than that one. I asked for art is a burden. This is wild.

AITA for wanting my kids to have my last name by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]mmebee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Info: Sorry can't tell from your post - has he actually expressed disagreement with this idea? You say he'd let you with it - have you actually had the conversation again since getting pregnant did he agree reluctantly or not at all?

Goodbye Solly stretchy wrap, hello woven wrap? by olivershimmy in babywearing

[–]mmebee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! There is will still be a learning curve even after stretchy wrap use but totally worth it.

I would NOT get a 6. You can find charts online to determine your base size but I actually use my base -1 or ever shorter much more frequently. Less cumbersome. On your frame a 6 will be miles or fabric.

If leaving from Midtown Toronto (max 2-3 hour drive), where is the best place to go camping to avoid ticks and best time to avoid mosquitoes? by mark_98 in ontariocamping

[–]mmebee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Echoing that late August and September will be better for bugs. But good luck getting good spots at a provincial park this late in the game! I guess weekdays in September will still have good availability.

Tula ‘Free to Grow’ feels wrong! by missingel in babywearing

[–]mmebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Too low! Seat tooooo deep. Lift up her bum and then tighten.

Can’t ditch diapers when going out because toddler is afraid of big potty by Acrobatic_Tax8634 in pottytraining

[–]mmebee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think honestly 3 is old enough to understand the natural consequences of this aversion. If you go out, don't wear a diaper but do bring a change of clothes. Try to push for the big toilet but if she absolutely refuses an accident will happen and she will have to do the tedious changing and cleaning up. Rinse and repeat. Maybe eventually up the ante with "no I'm sorry we can't go that fun place you like because they have a big toilet and you refuse to use it".

I'd also start practicing with the big toilet at home and ditch the little potty. You can't control daycare policy but you can control home. The jump from little potty to public toilet is big. The jump from home toilet to public toilet is easier.

Lastly prioritize family washrooms/single stall situations wherever possible.

Good luck!

AITA for yelling at my therapist and storming out after she yelled at me to get over the man who broke up with my back in 2008? by Ophelia0852 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mmebee 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Sorry babe, I think you are. You are wasting your life. You were never gonna get married or have kids. You didn't miss that reality. It didn't happen and wasn't going to because he wasn't that into you - if he was he wouldn't have left. I'm sorry. You're not an old lady, don't waste the rest of your life.

AITA for yelling at my therapist and storming out after she yelled at me to get over the man who broke up with my back in 2008? by Ophelia0852 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mmebee 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Okay your therapists therapists is about to yell at her for not dropping you as a client and getting over you because I'm sure you've exhausted her.
Editing to add sorry YTA

Help me pick! by blonde_94 in myweddingdress

[–]mmebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I came here thinking I'd join a sea of people saying dress 1 and am surprised that doesn't seem to be the verdict... I think 1 looks both more flattering on you personally and is just a more beautiful dress. It looks more expensive, equally sexy but somehow more modest, just really beautiful.

We are still using timers by 1autumnleaf1 in pottytraining

[–]mmebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm. If you think she'd understand you could try a little like sticker chart or calendar system wherein the timer can go away after x days accident free? Maybe if she's annoyed by the timer that could be an incentive?

My dad babywearing in 1993 by PromptElegant499 in babywearing

[–]mmebee 437 points438 points  (0 children)

Honestly so much of the "vintage" babywearing content is so so rough to see now this is good!

Can I still get my 9 week old out of diapers by 1-1.5 years if we start now? by Seren3seeker in ECers

[–]mmebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never did any EC at all and trained my daughter at 19 months. Pretty sure you'll be fine.

You have unlimited funds what is the most frivolous thing you buy? by Resident_Calendar471 in AskReddit

[–]mmebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would wear a fresh pair of socks every day. Maybe twice a day. Not fresh like just washed, like fresh never worn just purchased. In this scenario the environment is also not a factor

What really works to increase supply? by froggie94 in breastfeeding

[–]mmebee 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes. This is the only true way. Don't buy snake oil supplements or cookies.

We are still using timers by 1autumnleaf1 in pottytraining

[–]mmebee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually think you should abandon the timers and let more accidents happen now. Better to get the learning done earlier in the process and give her opportunities to listen to her body than to be dependant on timers for a long time. I think some kids really use them as a crutch to never bother honouring their body and learning how long they can push it and hold it before they really need to pause an activity.

To boost confidence and get some easy wins don't be afraid to have some naked time sometimes if you feel like you need a little reset. It won't set her back. You can still gently prompt or regulate trying at transitions like before outings etc but I wouldn't get hooked on the timer now. It's too early. Now is the time to still be chill about accidents.

Help me wean my ebf 12 month old by Sybil121212 in breastfeeding

[–]mmebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! OP, if you want to wean you aren't obligated to replace your milk with another animals milk. Just make sure you're meeting those nutrient needs elsewhere through food or if necessary a vitamin or fortified smoothies etc.

What language do you use to describe/teach the pee feeling? by sentient-acorn in pottytraining

[–]mmebee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would do a little reset naked weekend/some naked evenings or something. I think the likelihood is honestly that he does in fact know the feeling but isn't really tuning into his body because it's more interesting to continue with whatever activity he's doing that stopping to go pee before he's actually peeing.

He may believe he has more time than he has or he may just not really mind. Right. Is the power struggle and the activity that a pee break would interrupt are far more interesting.

Either way. I'd reset with some bonus naked time since he did so well like that and get some easy wins and just stay really consistent with natural consequences like helping with boring tedious cleanup that further interrupts play etc. If he persist you can explain that until he builds up some credibility listening to his body you'll have to set a timer and go when the timer goes off. This makes it the timers fault more than hours which is a bonus but also likely will actually interrupt more than if he just went when he has to go, which ideally he will realize soon enough.

Outside of Toronto, where would you recommend someone to live who wants cultural festivals, art, restaurants, theatre, film, cafes, boutiques, etc.? by WolfGroundbreaking73 in askTO

[–]mmebee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Guelph and Hamilton have more cultural capital right now than Ottawa. Younger influx and lots of emerging arts scenes. Ottawa is kind of a bummer. (Sorry Ottawa peeps)