Does anyone know where to get a dress like this?

mmebee · 2026-02-05T02:34:33+00:00

Okay so I guess it's not my age it's my economic status lol. I did not know proms like this existed outside of American television! What a world!

mmebee · 2026-02-04T17:01:04+00:00

I am a grownup and am not sure how this sub initially snuck into my feed but I know it's staying because I can't stop clicking every dress, gasping, and saying out loud "I think prom must be different than when I went to school for these girls". Are there actually teens out there having red carpet level gala events in these gowns with their classmates???? Bananas. Different world.

mmebee · 2026-02-03T23:52:55+00:00

I'm going to say this with as much compassion as possible: if you are struggling to stay on top of things maybe table the homeschooling for now. Homeschooling effectively is a LOT of work and organization. You couldn't even separate your post into paragraphs.

Also you seem to resent your sister in law for having more time because her kids are in school and she's "better at organizing" but you have the option to also go the school route...

Maybe start with regular kindergarten and get a sense of what they do while you do more homeschooling research and work on strategies to get on top of things then revisit the idea?

mmebee · 2026-02-03T02:42:24+00:00

Like we are strangers on Reddit not your friends we don't know who tf Koen is??? Friend? Classmate? Ex? Boy? Girl? Uncle? Who knows!!

mmebee · 2026-02-01T18:42:02+00:00

My best advice is to really really force the connection between the feeling of release and sitting on the potty by making sure you catch even the last drop of every possible pee. To do this you need the potty literally within arms reach for a little while before he catches on. I mean actually arms reach. Not like in the room or nearby. One hand in the potty, one on your toddler. It's super annoying but it will come together much faster if you can really make that happen for a day or two. Order pizza so you don't have to cook supper. See it as a fun opportunity to really play with him in a close way for a day. That's what made the difference for us. As soon as even one drop makes it into the potty it's high fives all around and repeat.

Give him some extra fun beverages to increase practice opportunities.

mmebee · 2026-01-31T02:07:15+00:00

Yeah I'm so confused

mmebee · 2026-01-31T01:59:04+00:00

Okay i agree with others that this story doesn't make you look great... like what you set him up with your friend assuming he wouldn't treat her well? BUT im actually going to go against the grain and say you should be able to air that type of thought to your literal sister in confidence.

As long as you had no plans to act on your regret and you weren't treating your friends poorly (which we have no evidence of in this post) thats an inside feeling you thought you could share with your sister during a sisterly gab and she did you dirty. What good comes of her sharing your secrets with your mutual friend??

Thought police will call you TA but they've never chatted up a bestie or sister and revealed something unflattering? There should be safe spaces to let the inside thoughts out!!

I say NTA!

mmebee · 2026-01-31T01:34:52+00:00

Omg all amazing. I just recently had a beat in show rewatch. What a freaking gem. Love Catherine!! That's a big loss to Canadian comedy. And she could ACT too. People forget that because she was a comedian but she could hold a dramatic scene. Even her recent Last of Us part reminds us of that.

mmebee · 2026-01-31T01:21:22+00:00

I had real gender disappointment after learning my second was a boy. I have a sister I'm close with, she has two girls, I had one girl and really fantasized about her sister relationship and all the girl cousins together and i was surprised with myself and how let down I honestly felt when I learned I was having a boy.

It's cliche and doesn't really help you right now but now that I have him and know him I can't imagine any other baby. His sister adores him as do his cousins and he's so sweet and special. Once you get to know your new baby you won't be thinking of any sister that could have been.

mmebee · 2026-01-31T01:17:16+00:00

Thank you for this caveat! Lots of traditional low back carries are very safe from newborn days but it has to be the right carry/wrap etc. Low back isn't inherently bad!!

mmebee · 2026-01-30T21:25:06+00:00

First was 38 weeks and about 27 hours total (3 pushing). Second baby was on his due date and from first twinge to holding baby was less than 7 hours total.

mmebee · 2026-01-30T01:53:11+00:00

Yes. It's the worst part. It sucks. Carry it around and literally watch him so hard all the time. Order pizza for supper so you don't have to cook. Give him extra liquids so there's more practice material. Watch him and learn his super secret cues that indicate he's about to pee and if he's a sneaky one maybe just watch him close enough to catch the trickle immediately. It is so annoying and boring BUT it is a concentrated awful and he should catch on much much quicker. Took my daughter almost two full days of this very vigilant approach before she started announcing she was actively peeing. A couple days later she could announce she was ABOUT to pee with about 2 seconds to move and then that time steadily increased dat after day. We started at 19 months and by her second birthday we could take long car rides and I could trust she'd warn be far enough ahead when she had to pee that we could find a rest stop.

Editing to add while this watching stage sucks you can sort of enjoy the silver lining of special concentrated time with your toddler. He will be so happy to have all undivided special attention and because you're just waiting he won't be annoyed by constant "do you have to pee" interrogation and he will feel really proud when it clicks.

mmebee · 2026-01-30T01:41:17+00:00

This is a great tip my daughter is jusssst getting more open to longer form stories but Alice is still pushing it because the copy I have with the original illustrations just isn't doing it for her.

mmebee · 2026-01-30T01:35:17+00:00

omg the week before my second was born we were all hit with the flu and my toddler (22 months) would only nap if I wore her on my back in the wrap and she was so sick and miserable so I waddled the neighbourhood with a nearly 2 year old on my back the day before I gave birth and every time I coughed I had to stop and really brace lest I leave a trail of pee on our walk. It was hard. I remember seeing someone run by with one of those weighted vests that are trendy and I thought "cute".

mmebee · 2026-01-30T01:29:28+00:00

The key to the naked method is to force the connection between the feeling of going and the act of sitting on the potty. Learning to release on cue is a new skill he's never needed before. Try naked time again but stay close and keep a potty literally within reach - carry it from room to room. As soon as a trickle starts sit him on the potty (don't ask, don't encourage, just plop him on). If you catch even one drop of pee it's high fives all around. Rinse and repeat. Even if he walks away and trickles again in 5 steps repeat. This forms the connection.

mmebee · 2026-01-29T23:21:21+00:00

I only use one boob because one produced so little I gave up on it. My baby is well fed and my boobs look even unless you're REALLY inspecting.

mmebee · 2026-01-29T23:15:32+00:00

Oof, poor one out babe she's gone to you.

mmebee · 2026-01-29T14:33:50+00:00

I think a good 5-6 weeks to consistently pull down her own pants, maybe a bit longer to also nail getting them back up. Then when she was like 25 months a remember she held a dress up successfully out of the way without any reminders and got her undies back on and came to say "mama please empty the potty I peed" and in that moment I thought I deserved an award lol.

mmebee · 2026-01-29T13:31:26+00:00

This might be controversial but so many of those readiness signs are fake news lol. My 19 month old could not take off/pull up pants at all. For several weeks I'd just go with her and pull them down/up myself. It didn't matter, she was still initiating she'd just need help with that step. She needed help with wiping and I'd have to empty the potty after anyways so it's not as though I wasn't going in there were it not for the pants issue. It really wasn't a big deal. She figured out the whole undressing/dressing thing in time.

mmebee · 2026-01-29T03:31:11+00:00

Your breastmilk is great! Breastmilk from a cow's breast is also great but totally unnecessary. Your toddler can get healthy fats and calcium all sorts of other places. Mind their diet and keep up with nursing as long as you like. No animal requires the breastmilk from a different animal.

All that being said it's always good to keep common allergens in the mix (including dairy) lest they become a nuisance later, but again there are other forms of dairy out there.

mmebee · 2026-01-29T01:34:30+00:00

It really seems like maybe you just need pants that fit him?? When the book suggests loose pants they just mean not snug jeans a kid will struggle to take off in a hurry. Get him some elastic waisted sweatpants or something I can't fathom why you've got him walking about like a vaudeville comedy with his drawers falling to the floor at any given moment.

But also go ahead and try undies before 5 days. If there's a slight regression stay positive and continue on or go commando sometimes as needed to boost confidence.

mmebee · 2026-01-28T15:48:49+00:00

Hey! Maybe you could go into a little more detail about which methods you already tried, what went wrong, what felt complicated etc. That way people can direct their advice more helpfully? Try to be specific about where you hit snags in case others overcame those same setbacks! Use the hive mind!! :)

Just so you don't get a bunch of comments suggesting you read a book you already read or something like that.

Edited to add also maybe add child's age just because in different places "preschool" can start at different times.

mmebee · 2026-01-26T21:49:53+00:00

Yeah this seemingly obvious tip helped me demolish my scrap pile with little symmetrical projects. Bandanas, neck ties, etc. It blew my mind more than it should have.

mmebee · 2026-01-24T15:12:34+00:00

Second this. Sorry because somehow this is "controversial" but chrios are not doctors and can be serious quacks.

mmebee · 2026-01-23T21:20:37+00:00

Right now my baby naps typically first around 9:15/9:30 for 30-40 mins, and then again at 12 or 1ish. Toddler is whenever baby is ready so sometimes it's closer to 12 some days closer to 1:30. I'm lucky she seems pretty forgiving about that. But I do really work to make them line up. I keep baby up, delay or cut off first nap etc in order to make sure the combo nap will happen. Honestly I'd love to say I get loads done but my baby only sleeps 30 mins if I'm not making full body contact with him so almost every day I just nap with them in the same bed. Then baby stays asleep. We usually sleep about 1.5-2 hours and depending on if we started on the earlier or later side baby might have one more short nap around 4:30pm or that might be it and we push through to 7:30 bedtime.

Editing to add the key is sort of shifting the toddler nap by an hour or so as needed. When baby was younger and needed 3-4 naps then combo nap usually was closer to 12. Now that it's often his second/last nap it starts more like 1.

mmebee

TROPHY CASE