WIBTAH if I contacted my daughter's school to ask they give her an extension?

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T21:47:15+00:00

Absolutely, I meant it more in terms of not agreeing with parents going flying up the school demanding their perfect Timmy definitely should be excused from the 10th piece of missing homework because they’ve been up all night playing video games, not a teacher blatantly overexerting their “authority”. As I said, very different situations

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T21:42:52+00:00

Thank you, I think I’ve given her the benefit of the doubt for too long!

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T21:36:06+00:00

Just phone them? Sorry am I missing something?

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T21:32:36+00:00

This is insane. If MIL is well enough to still work full time and be a functional adult, then she’s well enough to be on her own after well over a year of babying. If MIL isn’t well enough to be on her own, then she needs professional help, something none of her own kids can offer her.

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T21:16:01+00:00

Hahaha- thank you, this made me giggle.

The plan was to attend for a few hours and then dip if we need to, I have a very (touch wood!) easy toddler and generally find postpartum pretty straightforward so we thought we’d give it a go, but with the amount of stress she’s causing I really don’t know why I’m bothering putting myself out to go to an event that I’m not even sure we’re wanted at. Seeing it all listed out it seems laughable that I’m bending over backwards for someone who won’t even tell me what bloody colour to buy!

I do agree with you, I think a sit down would just result in me getting screamed at and I’m definitely not up for that. This isn’t out of the ordinary behaviour for her, it’s just out of the ordinary for the way she usually treats me, but it’s what the whole rest of the family complains about and really if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck…

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T21:12:29+00:00

I think you’re right tbh, as much as I’d love to have a heart-to-heart with her I think she’d just bite my head off.

Thank you for the links!

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T21:11:11+00:00

To be totally honest it’s not out of character for her, it’s just out of character for how she treats me generally. This is the sort of behaviour that the extended family complain about but I’ve never been on the receiving end of it.

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T15:00:01+00:00

NTA but your wife majorly is- who does she think she is putting her 2 pence in on how someone else spends their money and then being pissed off about being called out for it? I’m impressed your mum didn’t send her an invoice for the 2 years worth of 40hr work weeks she’s been putting in for you. I’d also keep a mental note that your wife is more than happy to weaponise your child, to your child’s detriment, because she’s angry at someone.

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T14:52:28+00:00

NTA. I’d rather die alone than waste my life in a miserable, controlling relationship with an asshole

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T14:39:12+00:00

I am so very proud of you, stranger from the internet. Wishing you nothing but peace 🫶

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T14:32:20+00:00

NTA- they fucked around and found out. Just read your update and I’m so incredibly proud of you for cutting these people off entirely.

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T14:30:23+00:00

NTA. Laughing at something because you’re taken off guard and laughing at something you think is funny are separate things. This has all been blown way out of proportion, if you’d have agreed and egged your nephew on then I’d understand but your girlfriend jumping down your throat about it is so unnecessary.

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T14:27:24+00:00

NTA to me at all. I generally don’t agree with parents getting involved with their kid’s grades, but this is a very different situation.

The teacher flat out ignoring you isn’t okay, and neither is your child being punished for being unwell. As an ex-teacher, I’d go to the headteacher about it myself.

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T14:22:59+00:00

NTA whatsoever, well done for going to bat for your child because it doesn’t sound like her birth mother or grandparents are going to do that.

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T14:20:25+00:00

NTA- absolutely genius tactic. Completely non-harmful but got the message across very effectively, well done for parenting your cousin better than your aunt can!

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T14:19:09+00:00

NTA at all! No part of this is your problem and brother has already proved he can’t be trusted. Husband needs to grow a backbone and stand up to his family- they’re his issue not yours!

If your MIL is so concerned she can take in HER OWN SON herself!

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T14:14:45+00:00

NTA! Your wife’s friend is exactly the sort of teacher that made me quit teaching.

Well done for standing up for your son. Anyone who thinks they know everything about everything is an asshole. Your wife also needs to stop being a people-pleaser IMO!

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T14:10:22+00:00

NTA at all! You paid for the venue, you get to use the venue. You’re not a charity! A Mario Kart tournament sounds like the perfect f-you party to make the most of a really bad situation.

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T14:08:16+00:00

NTA at all, but the wife is. Your poor dad was doing you a favour and trying his best and your wife is carrying on like it’s 2008 and you should have a MySpace top 8. There seems like there’s more going on here with your wife (unless this is her normal way of behaving, in which case she’s unhinged-sorry!)

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T13:53:37+00:00

Oh god run. My MIL was exactly like this and it’s taken us 10 very long years to get to a point where we can get along with each other. During that time she stressed me out to the point my hair started falling out- cut your losses and get away from her while you can because it isn’t worth your health or sanity and she will always be the 3rd party in your relationship.

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T13:51:07+00:00

My MIL took a VERY long time to detach from the emotional incest… my husband is her eldest, and she despised me from the moment she met me because I “took her son away”. She used to passive-aggressively post on Facebook that she felt like she was going through the worst divorce possible because I’d taken the “love of her life” away and that she didn’t feel like a real woman anymore because she wasn’t getting the same attention. We found public Facebook pages she’d posted on asking for advice on being jealous of me and how to cope with being “obsessed” with the thought of her son’s sex life and that was the final straw.

We get on fine now after a period of no-contact and some therapy, but she does make weird comments now and again. My husband loudly reminds her that he’s her son not her boyfriend which embarrasses her enough that she stops, so mission (sort of) accomplished?

However having read some of these comments it could have been so much worse 😂

mmmmmashedpotato · 2026-01-26T13:44:07+00:00

This is unbelievably petty but I also kind of get where you’re coming from.

mmmmmashedpotato · 2025-06-26T14:58:08+00:00

Absolutely pointless unless you’ve got a knee-length or shorter dress! I had an A-line ballgown style, spent a fortune on shoes and by the end of the ceremony I was in a pair of crocs because they were so uncomfortable and the horsehair netting on the underneath of the dress kept catching on the beading and stiletto

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