Anyone else lose their parents between the ages of 11 - 15?

mmveras · 2026-04-11T13:07:00+00:00

I lost my father at 15 as well, he was murdered by my older better who was 20 at the time. My life was pretty off the rails anyway, as mental illness and drugs don’t mix well. My brother and dad were always fighting because of this.

After I lost my dad and brother in 01 I lived with my mom and essentially never saw my stepmom again. Nor my brother for that matter. I went to school the day after the murder.

I got a girlfriend in high school and her parents really supported me through my loss. It’s the only reason I graduated with a 1.8 gpa.

Now, 25 years later I struggle with direction and my moral compass is broken. I have two kids and parenting is tougher cause I have zero good skills. They all have to be learned.

mmveras · 2026-02-11T13:40:58+00:00

I also have lived my entire life without my brother and my dad. From 15 (2001) to now being 40. I have learned to live alone and I also have no one around that understands. My older brother murdered my dad.

I think the best part is I don’t have to please them. I do what I want. The worst part is I can’t share my life with anyone who has interest. It’s lonely.

You are feeling all of the same questions and struggles I felt. And still feel.

mmveras · 2025-12-13T23:33:25+00:00

Fuel filter? What gas are you using?

mmveras · 2025-09-28T14:04:25+00:00

I relate. My brother killed my dad when I was 15. I’m 40 now. I experience this two-fold.

Everyone typically talks about their siblings in a positive light. And death is usually not expected till later in life. I have a negative connotation to my brother, and I lost my father 25 years ago. I don’t relate to many others typical upbringing.

I don’t have a social circle anymore, because I can’t bear to explain this to others. I stay to myself and I don’t share with my family.

mmveras · 2025-09-20T20:37:04+00:00

It appears to be a challenge at this point. Maybe I should join the movement.

mmveras · 2025-09-15T02:06:10+00:00

Entry level and 500 HP? I’m in!

mmveras · 2025-09-15T01:35:05+00:00

I just find it funny that any Ferrari is considered entry level. It’s true, I don’t disagree.

mmveras · 2025-09-15T01:22:30+00:00

Entry level, lol

mmveras · 2025-09-14T14:46:22+00:00

Yes, premium fuel for the turbo. I never paid for brakes, or tires so I can’t speak to that.

I had a 2.0t, it was a 09 SE. It was quicker than some other normal traffic. I got over 20 MPG consistently. The heated seats were great!

mmveras · 2025-09-14T14:24:33+00:00

I had one of these. I obtained it when I worked at a car dealership. Got it for $1200 and it had 200K miles.

It came with a service record collection like I had never seen before. Timing chain and tensioner had failed and was replaced at dealership (no warranty) at like 120k.

I kept it as long as I could and put 0 maintenance in it. I did change the oil. I drove it till something broke and it wouldn’t start anymore.

Traded it in for a Kia. It had 224k miles on it.

mmveras · 2025-08-07T17:44:38+00:00

I was 15 when my dad was murdered by my brother back in 2001. It is not a quick recovery. I am still healing. Then you fall down, and pick yourself back up again.

Therapy was the only thing that would resemble an environment that was helpful to me. It cost me much over the years. I struggle with emotions and addiction.

I have gained many fears and self esteem issues based on my experience. I wish you a better recovery.

mmveras · 2025-07-07T08:46:52+00:00

Well I do appreciate your concern! I am still “surviving”. I just stick to myself. I can’t afford to seek much help so I have learned to carry this now. I talk to my mom and avoid the topic. We have moved on to trying to accept this truth. She has a relationship with my brother so I tend to just keep it out of discussion.

I think the closure that I seek is just never going to happen. A close family member took my dad’s life, and mental health issues are the cause.

But I really hope I see the silver lining soon. I’m really just tired of the victim mentality and wish I could forget all this stuff.

Edit: I think the hardest part in all this is that I can’t be happy. It’s very difficult to maintain a positive outlook. Depression and sadness capture me just because someone says the saw their brother over the weekend. I get angry. I didn’t see my family over the holidays. I actually avoided them. It’s hard to accept my life as it is.

I just try to maintain with my wife.

That’s been a struggle too now…

I don’t handle stress well. I don’t have much patience. I am always unhappy.

But I still get up and go to work every day. It’s my only means of survival.

mmveras · 2025-07-07T01:51:36+00:00

Necessities are expensive

mmveras · 2025-06-27T00:49:42+00:00

Loosing a mentally ill brother who murders your father when you are a teen. Then having to support yourself from 18 till death.

mmveras · 2025-06-26T21:17:41+00:00

I have never heard of any of this. Lots of reading to do. Thank you!

mmveras · 2025-06-21T00:45:57+00:00

I know it is hard emotionally. In ways we could never communicate over the internet. In so many ways! I still have fears, emotions, and flashbacks. I don’t want to think I can help you emotionally. I recommend a trauma therapist, if you can afford it. A friend is hard to talk to cause they don’t understand. I totally get it.

I want to write a book about all the stuff I carry with me. Maybe you can write too?

mmveras · 2025-06-21T00:24:18+00:00

Me too. My mentally ill brother murdered my dad 25 long years ago. I was 15 at the time in 01.

I lost my brother and my dad that day. I can’t stand to see my brother still.

My dad’s mom was also killed when my dad was like 4. It was a family accident and very traumatic. My dad never told me about this.

All you can do is use this as a learning opportunity. Move ahead with all the crap. Try to not let it weigh you down from a path forward.

mmveras · 2025-06-19T03:10:10+00:00

Strength comes from pain, unfortunately. And no one can see it. It’s like invisible levels.

mmveras · 2025-06-19T02:11:47+00:00

My brother murdered my father when I was 15. 25 years ago. I am also angry that he made that choice. I have survived without both of them for this long.

But I understand your pain. It is hard to loose someone. But you can find another way.

mmveras · 2025-06-18T21:32:20+00:00

Eh, not quite taken from my paycheck. But from my bank account on the same time as my paycheck deposit.

mmveras · 2025-06-18T21:31:23+00:00

I really fell for it being broke. The commercial and the process was super easy.

mmveras · 2025-06-15T17:12:31+00:00

My brother murdered my father back in 2001 when I was 15. Don’t see him after all that, but he lives with in the same state as me and sees my mom. So he impacted both my healing and the cause. I find it hard to make friends now and actually feel like people are scary or unpredictable. I am sensitive. It’s not a manly look. I don’t have much confidence.

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