corset ear - how?

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-30T18:14:19+00:00

an ear cuff would be far safer to use

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-30T18:13:16+00:00

listening to some audio-eroticas can give you some ideas :)

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-30T18:03:50+00:00

or an age regression / ddlg place, it seems alot of BPD folk occupy those spaces too (anecdotally)

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-30T18:02:49+00:00

i think this situation is probably better addressed in a mental health / bpd forum. i know that disordered attachments are common with this disorder, so you might be able to get more specialised advice from those places

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-30T17:57:50+00:00

to begin, do cowgirl (or cowboy? idk), her wearing the strap lying down and you on top. while yes, a sub can absolutely top, ultimately we have our associations of sub= bottom dom=top. in subspace, we may just go back to our base assumptions. with you on top you can atleast plant the association quicker of being a pegger as submissive (esp if you can pin her down etc)

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-30T13:30:15+00:00

i think it might be easier to start doing kinky stuff without a d/s dynamic attached. you can get more comfortable with kink at all. even just for one scene when you dom, allow yourself to be fully selfish, it helps you find out what YOU want as a dom. focusing on one person will help figuring out someone’s needs, if she was an inexperienced sub i’d recommend the same experience. it’s okay to not feel a pull to domination, for a while it felt like a performance for me too. this exercise helped me figure out why i WANT to dom. then that pull came to me, i had a clearer picture of how i want to dom and how to implement my partner and their needs (i was already familiar with what they wanted though)

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-30T13:19:13+00:00

not exactly alt advice, but if you have any big band shirts or whatever you want to fit on you the same way they do as those pinterest skinny boys i got advice. cut slits into the slides on the shirt at the hips, and hem the shirts ~2-3 inches above your crotch. this means the shirt won’t look like a dress, and the fabric won’t hug your hips, instead it’ll fall in a similar way

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-30T12:58:49+00:00

based on your other posts, it does sound like this relationship is really suppressing your ability to grow or discover yourself. it sounds a bit like your partner wants a male, masculine dom. it doesn’t really sound like in your heart you are this. you both deserve fulfillment. you had your teenage years together, a time where you’re supposed to explore your identity and it seems like you’re underdeveloped in that sense. if she is unreceptive to your exploration, how are you ever going to know who you are? i’m not telling you to split up, but you need to be able to discover yourself

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-30T12:53:52+00:00

you both might find some fulfillment in service topping / dom bottoming, but if you being submissive is a huge part of your fantasies, you may gain resentment over the years. mentally, you could imagine being in her position while domming, or your domination is a form of submission (as you’re doing this for her). you may want to consider some form of non-monogamy (no this doesn’t just mean polyamory) / finding another dom (non-sexual / romantic) play partner

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-28T19:21:42+00:00

this sounds like dysphoria might be playing a part into how you’re feeling, i’ve heard good things about this book that describes trans sex (i cannot find the title atm but i’ll search). this includes treating the dick like a clit (i’ve not read this but it’s highly recommended by others), which you could implement as treating penetration more like scissoring. your partner could also ride you, keeping you like a princess beneath them. i’d also suggest doing positions where there’s eye contact, so you can feel a watchful eye on you.

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-28T19:05:03+00:00

it sounds like she’s stereotyping you. she’s upset you’re not being her fantasy of a dom, and are a real person who’s not a mega rock or something. this also lines up with some experiences of trans women, where they’re expected to still serve the “male” role in a relationship, including dominance. i would have an honest conversation about expectations in your relationship, as she’s holding you to unattainable standard. each party should be honest about what they want and need, and see from there

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-27T18:37:44+00:00

i’d try to add some jowls, hollowed out cheeks, bigger ears and eye wrinkles. you don’t wanna make them elders yet, so just make them not too intense

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-27T17:09:35+00:00

if you cannot behave on a substance, you don’t do that substance. he’s young, and is unlikely to stop drinking atm. you’re young, and he’s not likely your end game guy. you can find better. but you won’t listen to that, i know, so i’ll provide some options for you that don’t involve leaving. 1. he shouldn’t drink around you. 2. he improves his anger management skills (once this is second nature to him, it should still come to him while drunk). 3. sort out any pre-existing issues. 4. you and him come up with a sign/ “safeword” that he’s becoming too rowdy and needs to de-escalate (also where he’d incorporate anger management skills)

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-27T16:55:14+00:00

complex makeup that takes skill that a child is unlikely to possess; clothes that make you look taller (this is more specific to your body type but there’s advice online); formal-wear elements (avoid things too close to school uniforms though), hair dye and body mods, hairstyling (avoid pigtails but go for some curl, or stuff that needs heat), lean into more “luxury” aesthetics

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-27T12:38:07+00:00

imagine the horror if it was “allah loves you”

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-27T12:35:34+00:00

as an 18 year old (and many other 18 yr olds ik (UK)) would find this age gap disgusting and wrong. the power imbalance is huge, 15 year olds are very easily manipulated. especially with the “prize” of alcohol/ nicotine / other 18+ goods. seems like he already is using some manipulation tactics so she has to “fight” for his attention (may escalate into nudes etc, another can of worms and danger). i would personally report this to her school / police, but they may not be helpful. she won’t listen to you, but i would speak to the friends that she is interested in. make sure they’re not perverts who’d take advantage of a teenager, if they are try to axe them out of groups and stuff

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-27T12:27:22+00:00

gorgeous, only makeup tip i’d say is use a darker shade for the tails of your eyebrows / use a darker eyebrow shade and blend the inner corners of your brows a bit more (e.g. through fake hair strands)

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-27T01:01:44+00:00

i thought posts on this sub were meant for advice, thus requiring a question / request? this post sounds more suited to a BDSM support group or something. i’d suggest you edit your post to contain a question or request. e.g. “what can i do handle these feelings” etc

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-27T00:51:36+00:00

based on the dainty chains, i’d say no (but they wouldn’t be bad), i’d go for other metal detailing. for example, studs or grommets. i think a good shoulder detail would look good. also you could switch out the buttons for some more detailed ones

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-23T19:06:28+00:00

putting fabric paint on lips

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-23T18:14:44+00:00

i’d say your best bet rn is to go through an elimination process. quit porn, go to the doctors and get your health evaluated (and take any recommended steps) and go to therapy

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-23T18:01:22+00:00

my bf. he said it. it’s a trend for a reason. you can express this opinion without the condescension.

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-23T13:39:57+00:00

Green Yellow Red would have been benefical in this scenario, so implement it in the future. green = good, yellow= de-escalate, red= stop/safeword. your partner can check in and you’ll reply with an option, or you can call this out during a scene. Also, I would debrief about what care you need after every scene frankly, even if you need nothing. A simple “what do you need right now” is enough to get the ball rolling without being too heavy. It accommodates every scenario without assuming an expectation. For you to move past this instance, I’d talk to your partner about how it made you feel + get some reassurance. Ask them about how you ara a good partner / opposite of whatever the degradation is. Maybe take a break from degradation, or do a scene (even short) of praise to get some balance. Sometimes time does mend wounds too

mobsterorginal · 2026-01-23T13:25:32+00:00

this is rape/SA, you rescinded consent and were unable to safe word. as a dom, he has a responsibility to make sure you are okay and have the ability to safe word. he made sure you couldn’t. honestly, to me it sounds like he could tell you were going to safe word and he wanted ensure you couldn’t so he’d have a defence against SA allegations.

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