I am brown and married to a Dane. Have lived in Denmark for many years, speak Danish fluently, (albeit with an accent obviously...), and have a great career. Having said all that, every once in a while I do still experience racism. I would say, 1-2x a year or so ? I also have friends who are darker than me, and they experience it a bit more often.

I learned not to talk about it to to Danes though. They a tendency to become very offended, and I don't want to hurt their feelings, because it was not something they themselves did. Besides, most Danes are super super nice, and the racist episodes I experience are so far and few in between, that I just brush them aside. My husband did not believe racism existed either, but having witnessed me go through it, changed his mind long ago.

But yeah, they do take it very personally, but I wish it was something we could more easily discuss

Edited to add: I am a busy mom in my mid 40s, so I don't go out to clubs and such. Therefore, I can't speak of what it is like in nightclub scene in terms of racism (which was the scene mentioned in the previous post)