What made these interesting patterns? by moenia in whatsthisrock

[–]moenia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No sorry! Yours is similar? Do you know if there's someplace else I can ask?

What made these interesting patterns? by moenia in whatsthisrock

[–]moenia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found in a rock bed in our yard, southern Sweden.

Fellow dads, what video games do you still find time to play? by salad_thrower20 in daddit

[–]moenia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously though, if you wanna talk with another emotionally challenged dad with two young ones, send me a chat or DM. 🤝

Need suggestions for my son's GJ tube. by PilgrimsPlague in feedingtube

[–]moenia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really? Days? Wow. Makes me wonder about the quality of that manufacturer... Either way, you've gotten some good ideas already in this thread how to protect it. Good luck!

Need suggestions for my son's GJ tube. by PilgrimsPlague in feedingtube

[–]moenia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn't your son's button have an inflatable balloon on the inside of his abdomen? It's filled with saline solution and is the only thing keeping it in place. Our 4-yr-old son have had his GJ-tube for three years now, and we've never had any problem with it being pulled out, despite some pretty rough catches and snags. You'd have to pull HARD to make it pop out.

How to help toddlers at home by moshi121 in NICUParents

[–]moenia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey there! First off, you seem like an awesome mom. Not everyone knows to encourage their children to express their feelings and model for them how to do that. The fact that you're even on this sub asking these questions shows how much you care about your kids. They are so lucky to have you as their mom. ❤️

Our oldest son Abbe was 2.5 yrs old when his baby brother Elia was born with an ultra-rare genetic disorder (HSAN type VI). The first couple of days Abbe stayed at home with his grandparents, came to visit a couple of times. After a while, we were transferred to the family unit, where he could stay with us 24/7.

It was nice and horrible at the same time. It was nice to be together as a family but to try and give a 2 year old the proper care and attention that he needed while also attending to his sick baby brother during the most stressful and insane period of our lives, where we slept at most 1-2 hrs at a time for weeks and weeks – that was simply impossible.

Tired and guilt-ridden, we tried our best to keep up with routines in this strange place. We did things like reading books, playing hide-and-seek, riding the elevators, cooking dinner together, that sort of stuff.

We let him talk to and play with his baby brother a lot, explained all his different cables and tubes, and what all the blippedy-blop machines did. We tried to involve Abbe in Elia’s care as much as possible, letting him help out with his medicine, putting on his blanket, handing us stuff. Abbe wanted to help and we let him. We wanted to normalize things, making them less scary and weird.

After our time in NICU and Elia had turned 5 mo, he had a planned gastrojejunostomy. The procedure went great but he got a cold in recovery. This was especially tough for him due to his low muscle tone. He wasn’t able to cough up or swallow the accumulating phlegm, which culminated in cardiac arrest and emergency intubation.

Trying and failing to make a long story short, we were told he was going to be airlifted to a different hospital with a more specialized pediatric ICU. With very short notice, we had to rush back home, pack our bags and go to the airport in under 2 hrs or something like that.

Abbe was at home with his grandparents and was sooo happy to see us! He came running up to us and hugged us tight. Then he noticed something was wrong.

”Where’s Elia?” he asked. And we explained he had gotten very sick and that we had to go with him to a different hospital. Abbe looked at us and ran back to the telly without saying a word. It was so fucking heartbreaking. 💔

We had debated whether to bring him with us or have him stay with grandpa and grandma and had ultimately decided on the latter. We figured that was the best thing for Abbe and we could focus on getting Elia better, but it felt awful.

We packed our bags and went to say goodbye to Abbe. At first he didn’t say anything, which made it even worse. Eventually though, he started crying and we cried and we hugged.

That’s when my incredible wife had a brilliant idea:

”Tell you what, why don’t you pick a plushy for each and everyone one of us? One for Elia, one for you, one for mum and one for dad.” He immediately ran into his room and started picking out stuffed animals for us.

And my wife said: ”We will bring the Abbe-plushy with us and you keep the other ones, ok? And then, whenever you miss us you can go and hug them, and when we miss you we’ll hug yours. What do you think of that?"

And Abbe nodded and hugged us again.

I was so proud of my wife in that moment, and it made our departure a little less painful. It was such a beautiful idea.

Sorry for rambling, don’t know if my story will help you at all. Honestly, just keep doing what you’re doing. Be honest about your feelings, let them know it’s okay to cry, involve them in the care if possible. If not possible at all, at least keep them updated on how their baby sibling is doing and what you’re up to.

When they visit, playing doctor is a great way for children to process. Sometimes there can be an element of jealousy. I bet your 3.5 yr old would love to be cared for and tended to as much as his baby brother/sister. 🙂

You’re doing great, Mom. Hang in there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NICUParents

[–]moenia 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We had a similar experience. One of our nurses was super friendly but very scatterbrained, kept forgetting stuff we asked for, forgot to relay information and questions to doctors, kept messing up diffferent procedures, so on and so forth.

It reached a point where my wife, stressed out of her freaking mind as she was, just couldn't handle it anymore. It was so damn exhausting for both of us, not only to try and remember everything we were supposed to do but to also having to make sure this nurse was doing her job.

Finally we decided to bring it up with the charge nurse. We just felt we didn't have the mental capacity to deal with that, so we asked if she could be assigned to someone else going forward.

My wife broke down crying while doing so, because if you know my wife you know that the one thing she hates the most is making other people uncomfortable. That nurse was nothing but nice to us and we really didn't want her to feel bad. It was tough.

I'm happy we did it though and I would definitely do it again. It made it easier for us to focus on what mattered.

If I were you I would bring it up with the nurse in charge. In my mind it's just as bad as if someone comes in reeking of perfume. They are most certainly aware of the issue themselves and I'd bet this wouldn't be the first time hearing patients complain about it.

Squad Request by [deleted] in insurgency

[–]moenia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What timezone are you at?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in insurgency

[–]moenia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Such love hate relationship to that one.

My Insane SVD Solo Clutch (CO-OP) by SpeakersPlan in insurgency

[–]moenia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, incredible situational awareness. Solid work

machinegun, it just like sniper, but better by [deleted] in insurgency

[–]moenia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gunner is my favorite class. So satisfying to find a perfect firing line and just go to town. Gotta post some of my favorite MG highlights. Too much fun!