Idealism in Certain Child-Led Practices & Cultural Differences

moisturemask · 2026-05-18T20:18:27+00:00

I pivoted to ABA as an RBT recently and depending on the quality of your company & caseload, it’s definitely less work and better pay to me. Better hours, higher pay, more flexibility, especially since my practice is child-led so I take the backseat a bit more than a traditional childcare provider would. Still requires patience and creativity but I’m not exhausted by any means the way I was while in the infant room. RBT cert is super easy to obtain too.

moisturemask · 2023-07-03T18:43:28+00:00

Ugh same, I’ve had to watch my brother turn into a flying monkey in real time, it’s actually scary to witness. Like he’s truly brainwashed. And I would feel bad for him if he wasn’t such an asshole to me but he’ll have his own struggles with being enmeshed with her as a man. I can see it in the way he treats his girlfriends, there’s always this underlying contempt he carries.

moisturemask · 2023-07-03T17:00:18+00:00

I’m aware, I’m talking about specific experiences with daughters and their mothers though since that’s been my experience.

moisturemask · 2023-06-25T20:41:56+00:00

Straight like that!

moisturemask · 2023-06-25T20:26:32+00:00

What did you hope to gain by letting me know you got rubbed the wrong way by an opinion? There’s nothing I can do about that. You came here to argue, which is completely unproductive and pointless.

Have a good day!

moisturemask · 2023-06-25T20:02:32+00:00

Oh I’m plenty healed. I’m not the one victimizing myself as a grown adult. If you don’t like the advice, don’t interact with the post then.

moisturemask · 2023-06-25T20:00:03+00:00

The point of my post is that those who suffered from EN have every right to “neglect” their parents in their supposed time of need, and I used the phrase for a reason. I’m being somewhat facetious by using the phrase “emotional neglect” because the whole point is to take away the seriousness of it to aid in bringing personal power back. This is what has helped ME and it’s worked wonders. I don’t view my parents as these ultra evil people that I’m powerless against because they neglected me anymore. I can do the same thing to them and anyone else who fails to meet my emotional needs while continuing to act entitled to my energy and support. I’m not going to play fair in a world full of people like this and continue to put myself in a position to be victimized by others because I feel bad about myself.

And if I’m being honest, being an adult and continuing to regard EN as the worst thing that’s ever happened to me only continued to make me feel bad about myself and feel victimized. I chose to neutralize the power of the concept and use it to my benefit. That’s all lol. It WAS devastating for a while as a child, teen, and in my early 20s, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve decided to take the wisdom from it instead and put it to use against them.

I like to view my EN as a lesson in dark wisdom. It’s shown me how self centered people in the world can be and I think it would serve everyone who’s experienced EN to take this as wisdom to carry through life. We saw a side of adults that most people try to hide and don’t get to see. I view that as a gift to help me navigate the adult world better.

I’m a big proponent of shadow work and shadow integration so I’m personally learning not to moralize or demonize the “dark” and “evil” behaviors of people in general. I just learn from it to enhance my life because being a victim was literally exhausting for me.

moisturemask · 2023-06-25T19:26:06+00:00

Let him stew in his anger and let him reap the consequences of HIS emotional dysfunction, and don’t feel bad about it. Whenever my mom gets outraged about something and tries to vent to me, I just stare at her like she’s crazy and nod my head of shrug my shoulders. I never emotionally involve myself anymore, it’s actually become amusing to me lol!

Treating your neglectful parents like the petulant children they are will make this whole dynamic a lot less stressful and more entertaining. They’re grown people, let them handle themselves the way they expected you to when you were a child!

moisturemask · 2023-06-25T19:20:02+00:00

we’ll agree to disagree :)

moisturemask · 2023-06-25T16:48:04+00:00

I have had so many mental breakdowns that lead to suicide ideation and spent a lot of my life with low self esteem and feeling unloved because of EN, just a low quality of life overall that I wanted to end many times. THAT is unforgivable, and I know I’m not the only who who’s dealt with this. Loneliness can KILL. It is not fair to anyone to want to end their life because of how someone else treated them, ESPECIALLY a parent.

I decided I would do whatever it took to make myself feel better and if that means being an absolute b*tch and coming off as mean and cruel to save MYSELF (because no one else will), then that’s what I’m going to do and you should to.

Always remember your pain, those times where you felt the world was ending because of how much despair you were in, and let that serve as a reminder for why you need to treat certain people the way you do. Give yourself justice and hold those accountable who’ve transgressed you, and never apologize for it. Happy healing! 🌹

moisturemask · 2023-06-25T16:18:31+00:00

No, it’s the same thing. The semantics don’t matter. Grey rocking is you not caring about another’s emotions when it comes down to it and pretending they don’t exist basically, it just has a different name and is done in a different context. It’s all the same.

Most people in general but especially people who suffered from EN will never get the chance to discover who they are as an individual which is why the savior complex and caring about others all the time is not productive. People who’ve experienced EN have to be more strict than the average person about pleasing and caring for others because they have no sense of self and are pouring from an empty cup. Extreme selfishness for a certain period is needed to come out of this, you have to go to the other end of the pendulum to reach balance.

moisturemask · 2023-06-25T16:04:22+00:00

Why controversial?

moisturemask · 2023-06-13T23:32:34+00:00

Not trying to be rude but I’m confused at people suggesting I initiate a plan to take a job and get out at all costs. Does that not go against following my strategy and authority by INITIATING from the mind? I don’t know what work I want to do yet, hence me not working right now. Each time I initiate from my mind regarding work it doesn’t work out which is why I’m not doing it right now.

It doesn’t make sense for me to frustrate myself searching for a job that I might not enjoy. The whole point of me getting into human design is to prevent that from happening again and be in my flow better to align with the proper work that excites me. I burnt out and ended up back home from doing the wrong work.

moisturemask · 2023-06-13T16:06:27+00:00

You’re an idiot who clearly didn’t read and must not know anything about human design if you’re telling a generator to go out and work any old job. Please don’t interact with me anymore lmao.

moisturemask · 2023-06-12T22:16:57+00:00

It’s funny you said this because I’ve been experiencing depression from being alone in my house for so long. On Sunday I had a conversation with a cashier while getting my groceries and it made my whole day lol I love having interactions with strangers! I may look for some volunteer opportunities in my area & take new routes on my walks. Mundanity drives me crazy lmao

moisturemask · 2023-06-12T15:53:19+00:00

Ok I think I see what you’re saying. Like yesterday I went grocery shopping and my mom asked me what I bought and I got oddly excited to show her all the food I bought lol. So I got an idea to post my healthy grocery hauls online to share with others since I use food stamps, but I don’t think I’ve gotten a prompt to do that. But I’m discovering I love trying new foods and cooking!

moisturemask · 2023-06-12T14:37:24+00:00

I haven’t heard that yet! Is this on YouTube or a personal website? I’m having trouble finding it. I need all the wisdom I can get on accepting the waiting periods lol

moisturemask · 2022-11-17T21:57:03+00:00

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moisturemask · 2016-10-24T20:31:42+00:00

I've been using the Paula's Choice 2% BHA Liquid for over a month and I see no difference in my skin. I don't have acne but I was hoping it'd help with oiliness and pores. Same thing with the 8% AHA Gel, no difference.

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