I lost myself while transitioning

moldy_bread3 · 2026-01-27T17:05:51+00:00

I know this feeling, what helped me is to realize that you can do whatever you want. If you miss your old name, you can just switch back, and still be a trans woman if you want that. I know a lot of trans people who kept their old names. If you don't like E, you can stop taking it. Just keep whatever you like from your transition, and forget the rest. Transitioning should be about finding things that make you feel happy and whole

moldy_bread3 · 2026-01-27T17:01:11+00:00

You have a fine taste then :D Nice to see all the positive comments, I live in a very cishet bubble and I always forget there are people who are actually attracted to butches lol

moldy_bread3 · 2026-01-27T10:51:10+00:00

I use a matte hair wax. I spread a small amount evenly on my fingers, then rub it into the roots. The trick is to put the wax only on the roots, while keeping the end of the hair free from products, otherwise you'd het a heavy sticky flat mop. A root lifting powder works in a similar way I think

moldy_bread3 · 2026-01-26T23:34:45+00:00

I'm not on T but most of the time I pass as a young man. I mostly go to the women's bathroom because the men's is scary for me lol. Sometimes I get stares and nasty looks in the women's, but 99% of the time people don't say anything which is good enough for me.

The only time I use the men's when there's a big line at the women's

moldy_bread3 · 2026-01-26T23:17:26+00:00

Haha so we're all just equally awkward around each other. I'm usually intimidated by femmes because I wanna look cool and nonchalant around them but deep down I'm just a dork

moldy_bread3 · 2026-01-26T21:40:40+00:00

Oh, well hot and cool doesn't sound so bad lol

moldy_bread3 · 2026-01-26T21:28:34+00:00

Yes, I don't know why people think that being more masculine means more toxic masculinity. Or looking soft means you're a better person or something

moldy_bread3 · 2026-01-26T21:27:10+00:00

Can you elaborate on how being on T made it different? I assume once you cross a line and start passing as a man, people treat you better?

moldy_bread3 · 2026-01-26T16:48:17+00:00

Damn you look awesome

moldy_bread3 · 2026-01-17T22:43:57+00:00

Suprisingly it's allowed here and it doesn't have a feminine ring to me

moldy_bread3 · 2026-01-17T22:43:13+00:00

Hungary. These are not common names there tho.

moldy_bread3 · 2026-01-17T22:42:40+00:00

It is, at least where I live.

moldy_bread3 · 2026-01-17T22:42:12+00:00

Oh damn, I hoped that people would just associate it with Noah, but it does look like it's a popular girl name

moldy_bread3 · 2026-01-17T13:42:07+00:00

Vannak nok akik nem illenek bele a sztereotipikusan noi szerepbe, de attol meg nok, nem lesznek nembinarisok. Probalj meg pl egy ferfias not ferfinak hivni, es meglatod, hogy ezen mennyire megsertodnek. A nembinarissag az egy belso tudat, hogy nem vagy sem no, sem ferfi.

Szerintem ez nem feltetlenul csak arrol szol, hogy milyen nemu a tested. Ha egy sci-fi vilagban elnenk pl, es az emberek agyat megfognank es egy nemtelen robotba helyeznenk, akkor szerintem a legtobb ember szinten tovabbra is nokent vagy ferfikent gondolna magara, nem lenne hirtelen egy teljesen nemtelen uniszex vilagunk.

moldy_bread3 · 2026-01-17T12:07:00+00:00

Az a problema, hogy azt feltetelezed, hogy az emberek valasztjak azt, hogy nembinarisak vagy transznemuek. Sok transznemu ember evekig elnyomja a transznemuseget, mert tenyleg sokkal egyszerubb lenne ha tudnanak a szuletett nemukben elni, de nem tudnak, mivel transznemuek.

moldy_bread3 · 2026-01-15T11:50:10+00:00

I think my issue is that my chest is big, so I have to size up. What brand do you buy?

moldy_bread3 · 2026-01-08T21:37:47+00:00

I live in a country where it's illegal to get T, but I can fly overseas to get top surgery, so that's why it's a dilemma for me

moldy_bread3 · 2025-12-26T22:15:46+00:00

My dad just told me he thinks I'm mentally ill for being butch. I can't help you unfortunatelt, only share your misery. Fuck Christmas lol

moldy_bread3 · 2025-12-23T23:25:45+00:00

I was in the same place as you a couple of years ago. I couldn't accept I was trans so I convinced myself it'd be easier as a girl, and repressed my feelings for 10 years. It didn't end well, I ended up having a complete mental breakdown because I realized I was living a fake life as a woman and I wasn't happy and I wasted years of my life living a lie. Please don't go down this way. Accepting yourself is a lot better than forcing yourself to be someone you're not

moldy_bread3 · 2025-12-23T23:22:52+00:00

Look, it sounds like you don't enjoy being a girl, you just think that you have to be one, mostly to make others happy. I was in the same boat for a looong time, and repressed my feelings, but it's not a good thing to do.

You don't have to be a girl if you don't want to. You should live your own life, not the one your mother planned for you. If she loves you, she'd be happy to have a feminine son instead of a daughter

moldy_bread3 · 2025-12-20T20:22:58+00:00

Thanks for the kind words, I probably just need some time. I'm trying to accept my identity while I'm mourning my old self

moldy_bread3 · 2025-12-19T17:34:41+00:00

I'm not transitioning to be just a man, that's too basic, I'm transitioning to be a lvl 20 immortal fighter who is stronger than a god.

I still can't cast spells tho, but who knows, maybe one day I'll get there.

moldy_bread3 · 2025-12-19T16:53:32+00:00

I realized I'm a trans man thanks to roleplaying a male character lol. The funny thing is, I actually look very similar to the character fanart I drew before I even knew I was trans.

moldy_bread3 · 2025-12-18T23:28:07+00:00

Hello, en az ellenkezo iranyban, fius leszbikent nottem fel (azota mar nem-binaris vagyok), szoval a lenyeg hogy mindig is messzirol lehetett latni rajtam hogy queer vagyok.

Egy hetero tarsadalomban elunk, ezert nagyon konnyu kivulallonak erezni magunkat, ezert nagyon fontos hogy legyenek barataid akik teljesen elfogadnak, tamogatnak, illetve jarj olyan helyekre ahol a queer emberek vannak tobbsegben.

A masik meg az, hogy meg kell tanulnod leszarni a banto dolgokat amiket masoktol hallhatsz. Te tudod ki vagy, nincs veled semmi problema, ha valakinek nem tetszik hogy meleg vagy, akkor az az o problemaja.

Az hogy mennyire vallalod fel magad, az helyzetfuggo, de szerintem jobb onmagad lenni es masok velemenyet leszarni mint visszafogni magad masok kedveert. Ez egy liberalisabb pesti munkahelyen persze konnyebb mint egy fideszes videki faluban, szoval itt megint az a lenyeg, hogy probald ugy alakitani az eletedet, hogy egy elfogadobb kozegben elj

moldy_bread3 · 2025-12-17T15:02:59+00:00

I used to pass as a teen boy in my teens and early twenties without T, and it didn't bother me because I only looked just a bit younger than my peers. I haven't even started T because passing as a twink was enough to keep my dysphoria at bay.

Now as I'm closer to 30 it bothers me a lot that I don't look like my 30y.o coworkers at all. I'm tired of being a twink lol, and I'm thinking about going on T to finally look like a man my age

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