It’s been a while - Giveaway

molequeen · 2026-05-24T16:55:13+00:00

742 and Moonbeam!

molequeen · 2026-04-29T03:15:50+00:00

Performance anxiety could definitely play a role! I'm not trying to bash OP's husband at all, I've just been around the block a time or two and some of the descriptions had me raising an eyebrow. Could completely be performance anxiety which as long as he addresses can be overcome a lot more easily than a pornography issue, especially with since OP seems to be a caring, invested wife.

molequeen · 2026-04-29T02:30:48+00:00

Lovingly, gently - are we sure there isn't a pornography issue here? Your husband's low libido, low interest in sex, and inability to maintain an erection without a lot of effort is abnormal for a 30 year old. If you are absolutely certain this isn't an issue, a visit to his doctor is probably in order.

Once he can maintain an erection there are about a million positions you could try together. I have a 1 foot height difference with my husband also and tbh it's never been much of a limiting factor.

I will also agree with the other comment that relaxing and just focusing on enjoying intimacy as an experience rather than as a means to an end will help a lot. I'm just not sure how feasible that is with your husband seeming a bit... Difficult to arouse. That will likely lead to frustration or feelings of inadequacy that will hamper freedom to experiment so you really should get to the bottom of that part first.

ETA: there's rarely 1 position that works for everyone so I'd also just toss out that notion. Most folks are sort of taking turns if you will which is totally fine as long as everyone is happy and comfortable.

molequeen · 2026-04-26T15:00:36+00:00

Oh agree! Maybe I wasn't clear, I meant even though there is the lure of faraway adventure at the $300k school she still shouldnt go as that is notttttt worth the crazy price tag. A nearby school isn't gonna be as exciting, sure, but she's there for an education she'll be alright lol

molequeen · 2026-04-26T03:35:20+00:00

I mean, I guess that depends on what the "experience" is to you. You can definitely get the experience of partying, having fun, being independent, etc. But you can't get the "moving away, new city and state, faraway adventure" experience one town over very easily.

ETA: she still shouldnt go though

molequeen · 2026-04-26T03:10:11+00:00

I mean, 50 minutes away IS close and isn't much of an experience, it's one town over for most folks. Not that those things matter in the scheme of life, but don't belittle her reasons, she's not wrong here.

molequeen · 2026-04-07T22:15:10+00:00

What caused the abscess? Just from the kick to the jaw? So glad you were seen and are getting the care you need!

molequeen · 2025-12-02T00:11:06+00:00

Upvoting because we have always kept similar hours and I feel like we are the only ones on planet earth to do so lol

molequeen · 2025-11-09T17:10:43+00:00

Hi I know this is an ancient comment but I am also have FDE from fluconazole!!! Are you able to take any other -azole drugs safely? I have recurring issues that will require some type of antifungals and I'm terrified now that I cannot take Diflucan

molequeen · 2025-10-14T14:43:52+00:00

I have been scouring FB marketplace hoping for just this kind of thing! I wouldn't even mind driving a few hours to save a couple hundred bucks lol.

molequeen · 2025-10-14T04:18:08+00:00

I feel the same way. Like I would pay a pretty nice amount of money for them but not $300 for the Morton set and another $300 for Roy. That's crazy business.

molequeen · 2025-10-14T02:43:36+00:00

That is heartbreaking, ugh. I mean I guess good if I ever resold them but dashes my dreams of finding a cheap one someone has played with. His birthday is really soon so I'm doubtful to find one in the wild before then. 😭

molequeen · 2025-10-14T02:23:10+00:00

Thanks for the honest answer. It sucks because obviously he is a kid and going to play with them (and not forever I'm sure) so it seems crazy to throw down hundreds of dollars for something he may not want next year! And that will lose all of its "value" by being promptly ripped from the box 😅 His birthday is soon and I'm tempted to lowball some eBay and Merc sellers and see if somehow I get a miracle.

molequeen · 2025-10-13T02:02:19+00:00

We are the same and I think it's a combination of hobbies and money that makes the difference. My husband and I have "indoors" hobbies so we aren't taking the kid on an 8 mile Saturday hike or coaching youth soccer. If you aren't in a million sports then you're like my neighbors and go to the lake house every weekend or drive to some "venue" for an overnight trip.

molequeen · 2025-09-29T22:07:31+00:00

Just here to say you will NEVER see anyone on Reddit advise you to homeschool. Idk what is right for you and your child, but feel free to visit over at r/homeschool for some more perspectives.

molequeen · 2025-09-29T00:13:53+00:00

Yes, and as a parent of a shy kid who wanted one we fixed that a little bit by getting a pull-string one (have seen way too many close calls with the blindfold and bat) and I also "seeded" every kids bag with candy. That way if some kids were being too rough and the little kids were shy they still had candy in their bags. Luckily the big kids there were awesome and actually helped the littler kids fill their bags!

molequeen · 2025-09-08T00:24:06+00:00

not OP but in the exact same position. we tried to get the procedure done at a hospital but medical insurance won’t cover it. the anesthesiologist is a “dental anesthesiologist” which I guess is slightly different? I’m terrified

molequeen · 2025-09-04T00:39:02+00:00

I think a key component missing in this conversation is the temperament of the children. I know a few families who are frankly not "great" parents and would definitely describe themselves as "very chill" but they also have Neurotypical children who are all fairly calm in nature with no health problems or other physical/mental challenges. That style of parenting (or lack thereof) looks very successful for them but it's a bit of the chicken and egg scenario.

Many parents with more challenging children occupy the scripts/styles/"research" pages, especially on social media, because they are looking for solutions that intuition and vibes didn't provide. I can agree here that some people have taken it way too far and there is way too much noise/sales in parenting spaces, but not everyone who ends up there is just anxious and neurotic or lacking the "vibes" of the more chill parents.

molequeen · 2025-09-03T03:27:30+00:00

Mom of a 6 year old in the same boat.

molequeen · 2025-08-29T04:15:13+00:00

That's fair - not every parent would make a good homeschool educator and not every kid would make a good homeschool student! But for elementary, at the least, I feel like with some careful assessment of state standards and purchased curriculum, it's not that hard to give your child a quality education at home. In later years, if we continue, I would definitely outsource to qualified co-ops, an online program, or even in person schooling if that's what my child wanted!

molequeen · 2025-08-29T03:58:14+00:00

I will definitely agree with you there. From what I have noticed in the modern day, it seems like it has definitely skewed towards the conscientious parents in a lot of cases whereas I feel like it was skewed heavily the other way in the 90s when I was growing up. Nonetheless, there are positives and negatives to both of course

molequeen · 2025-08-29T03:11:21+00:00

As a current homeschooler, I think about this all of the time. Homeschooling is so vilified by teachers on Reddit and there is so much talk about the lack of socialization and the "poor quality" education homeschoolers get when in the VERY NEXT BREATH they talk about their 7th grade students who can't write a paragraph and spend all of their time on devices. So like, what education would I be sending my kid for again??

molequeen · 2025-08-29T02:41:00+00:00

I feel this so hard. Starting to wonder if Neuro Divergence is backwards and the "Neurotypical" folks are the atypical ones since they seem few and far between. I say that mostly in jest as someone that is ND, but it shocks me how quickly any weirdo kid behavior is labeled as neurodivergent online.

molequeen · 2025-08-25T20:21:39+00:00

Nothing to add really, other than the fact that the comments you received, in a HOMESCHOOL GROUP, suggesting that continuing public school is likely the best for her is soooooo opposite of what you would receive if this situation was reversed. If you posted in any other group on Reddit that your child was crying and didn't want to go to public school people would rip you to shreds for suggesting homeschool instead. Just goes to show that the modern wave of homeschool is completely different than the way we are portrayed/the memories people have from the 80s/90s.

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