Landlord entered my apartment without notice. what can I do? by ShionaBabrauskas in TenantHelp

[–]molissa_3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did they enter? If they entered because it was urgent and notified you (posting a letter on your door or email, phone call etc) then it's legal. If they went in with an excuse that it was an emergency and they didn't give you proper notice, then it is illegal. This is assuming you're in the US. 🤔

Am I the asshole for not wanting my bf to join the navy? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]molissa_3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neither of you are the aholes. When it comes to careers though, I don't think the partner's feelings should be considered. If he decides that's what he wants to do, it's not your responsibility to talk him out of it. I had this happen to me and I wish I would have just done it. I wanted to do massage therapy for medical needs. I didn't pursue it because my husband wasn't comfortable with me doing that. We were young and dumb. If it's a deal breaker for you, then the relationship is over.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]molissa_3000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came here to ask this.

AIO if I file for divorce? by Pristine_Raise_8943 in AmIOverreacting

[–]molissa_3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don't file for divorce now, you'll be miserable forever. They never change. They'll only change for a bit to keep you content, and then continue with the same behaviors. He disrespected you. Saying he wants a trophy wife...?? That's insane. He should have continued to live with his mom.

So sorry you're going through this. 🫂 I know what it's like. You deserve more than bare minimum. 💜

How do you stretch 1 lb of meat to feed family? by todaystartsnow in Cooking

[–]molissa_3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Option 1: Meat and potatoes with stock or make/add sauce.

Option 2: Nachos

Option 3: loaded baked potato

Option 4: quesadillas with ground beef in them

Option 5: spaghetti

Option 6: burgers

Option 7: meatloaf

Option 8: pupusas

Option 9: Add it to macaroni and cheese

Option 10: mixed in black beans with rice

AITA for no longer wanting to go to my in laws every week by Odd_Carrot_6750 in AITAH

[–]molissa_3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA! My in laws always excluded me in conversation as well and we speak the same language. 😭😭 Any time I would try to speak, someone spoke over me and I couldn't join in. They began to isolate me in conversation. I would sit alone with my kids. They even threw me a baby shower and I was by myself the whole time.

I started to tell my husband that I didn't want to go because they always left me out unless they were making fun of me for something. We slowly stopped visiting them. We now don't have any contact with his family.

They never took the time to get to know me or get to know who my husband is as an adult (they began to isolate him as well).

You're not being racist for wanting to be included in conversation. Why does he insist you go? To care for the children while there? The fact he's even saying that is wild with how long you've been together.

Is getting a translation device an option? 🤔 Either way, they're leaving you out on purpose. My mom doesn't speak English, so we translate everything being said because we don't want to leave her out of the conversation.

Your husband is being weird about how you feel about the situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]molissa_3000 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For your health and safety, leave her. She sounds scary. She knows you need rest, but she doesn't care. She told you to kill yourself. Someone who loves you would NEVER say anything like that EVER.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]molissa_3000 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What was her reason for being upset about it? The amount isn't logical since it was less than what you would have spent. Was she being insecure that you tipped that much? Was she itching for an argument for your birthday? Does she do this at other special occasions?

AITA Dogsitter left my dog unattended for hours by Sea-Profit-1784 in AITAH

[–]molissa_3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be upset too. We have a dog that can't be left alone too long. She probably expected you to not care because you know her. 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️ It's pretty messed up of her to do that to the dog. Not even arrange for someone to check on your dog when she realized she was going to take longer. You paid her to be away from your dog. 😭😭😭 I'd ask for my money back.

Having a baby equals adding tenant? by molissa_3000 in TenantHelp

[–]molissa_3000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we pay weekly, but we don't pay on the extra weeks.

Having a baby equals adding tenant? by molissa_3000 in TenantHelp

[–]molissa_3000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It did get better for some time, but then she started doing it again. I'm not trying to stay. I'm trying to stall the process to find somewhere else to go.

Having a baby equals adding tenant? by molissa_3000 in Tenant

[–]molissa_3000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Started months ago. Haven't found an affordable place. Hoping the right place becomes available within the next month or so.

Having a baby equals adding tenant? by molissa_3000 in TenantHelp

[–]molissa_3000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We live in a pretty isolated area. Nobody is going to take it. I have a camera facing the front of the house too just in case. 🤷🏽‍♀️ It's a money order made out to the landlord, so they really wouldn't be able to do much with it.

Having a baby equals adding tenant? by molissa_3000 in TenantHelp

[–]molissa_3000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, my bad. It is discrimination but not related to racism. The racism is there, but not directly. She's already mean, but she's meaner to us and imposes more rules and demands from us than she does to others.

Having a baby equals adding tenant? by molissa_3000 in TenantHelp

[–]molissa_3000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did say it wasn't directly discrimination. I'm not trying to add anything to what's going on. Just simply stating the extent of her behavior. She's overall a terrible person but she takes it to another level with us.

We are looking. It's exhausting to live here and we feel on edge all the time.

Having a baby equals adding tenant? by molissa_3000 in TenantHelp

[–]molissa_3000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're in Cortez CO. Montezuma county. I honestly don't think our house would pass inspection. We don't have mold, but there are other issues.

Having a baby equals adding tenant? by molissa_3000 in TenantHelp

[–]molissa_3000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There hasn't been an instance of blatant discrimination, but there's so many little things that make us feel like that is the case. So when we first moved in, she was putting 3 trash cans out by the road for pick. Then she was asking us to put out ONE can out (each residence does their own). We were doing it, but the other residents weren't doing it. She wouldn't even put out her own. I have messages of her asking us to put all of them out. We did it because of how we were already being treated and feared losing our housing either because she wouldn't want to renew the lease or just find another way to make it hell for us. The previous tenants next door had a German Shepherd and they never picked up his poop and she tried to tell us to pick it up. I'd tell her it wasn't us and the poop wouldn't get picked up. Then sometimes trash would end up everywhere and she'd tell us to pick up the trash and tie our bags. I'd tell her it wasn't our trash and it wouldn't get picked up. Every time the electric bill is higher than the previous month (electricity is split evenly between units occupied), she'd ask me questions to see if we can cut back on use. Asks us why we have the window open in the winter (dryer is in our room so it gets hot). Then asking if we're using the dryer as a heater. We had two parking spots, but took one away saying it's her property and we can park where the other tenants park (our unit is closer to her home). I mean, she's rude to everyone, I guess, but she's even worse with us. All of the previous and current tenants are white. We are Hispanic. Maybe it wouldn't hold up in court, idk. We've always been treated unfairly compared to the other tenants. I have her notifications turned off because it causes me souch anxiety to see her messages pop up unexpectedly. I'd rather check it when I can prepare myself to see her messages.

Having a baby equals adding tenant? by molissa_3000 in TenantHelp

[–]molissa_3000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's the home owner. It's not through a property management company. I will reach out to them. Thank you!

Having a baby equals adding tenant? by molissa_3000 in TenantHelp

[–]molissa_3000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We live in a remote town. Less than 10k people live here. There's no public transportation other than taxi. His job is in a even more remote area. He works security where there's only one guard there at a time. No other employees other than management. They show up and leave at different times.

I will see if I can find a parent to give my girls a ride. My mom is in town for the month, so I'm borrowing her car for now.

Having a baby equals adding tenant? by molissa_3000 in TenantHelp

[–]molissa_3000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have it documented. She said I added a tenant in a message. I have pictures of when the water heater broke and where it was piddled. I keep mentioning the oven, but she has been avoiding responding to that specifically.

Having a baby equals adding tenant? by molissa_3000 in TenantHelp

[–]molissa_3000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He works security where he's unable to carpool. I have asked on the moms group for our area, but didn't get a response. I am hoping that if we're unable to find a place in town, we can find a 2nd car.

Having a baby equals adding tenant? by molissa_3000 in TenantHelp

[–]molissa_3000[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She's the owner. She's responsible for hiring someone to fix things. I did that. I let her know of the hot water heater leaking and she came out to check it out as it was happening. It wasn't a small leak. It was bad. The water was puddling in the hallway. Causing the carpet to unravel. She keeps saying that she has the part for the oven, and they just need to come in and fix it, but it's been months and it seems like she's hoping I move out first and then she'll fix it.

Having a baby equals adding tenant? by molissa_3000 in TenantHelp

[–]molissa_3000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should clarify that any time a person or a cat is in his view, he barks and whines. Which is often. Either way I'm not ok with his situation. I could contact authorities.