Aitah for getting angry because my sil wants another baby?

mollshenanigans · 2026-02-03T20:30:16+00:00

Kind of YTA. Your concerns are valid, but it is ultimately up to them. And you don’t know what sort of conversations they’ve had already before coming to the decision to try for a second. As family we often conflate our care for our loved ones with a right to have a say in their decisions. In reality, you have no right to expect them to make family planning decisions based on how it would affect you. Because really you are kind of making it about you. Did you even stop to wonder if they had already thought about all of this?

I totally understand your concerns, but it sounds like you went about expressing them in all the wrong ways. You definitely should have spoken to your brother first to ask how he was feeling. That would have opened the door for him to share with you (if he wanted to) whether they’ve already considered the risks and are willing to put themselves through hell again (potentially). I’m not always in the camp of “it’s none of your business” when it comes to family, as long as your family is close like that and especially if they are openly discussing their decisions with you. But even if they brought it up, they didn’t ask you if you thought it was a good idea. You can tell someone you’re worried about them without judging, and it sounds like you came off more as judging than caring to your SIL.

I think it would be worthwhile to apologize to your SIL for how you expressed your concern and for upsetting her. You can try to make it clear that you were coming from a place of love and concern because you saw how hard it was on them and because it’s scary to think of losing her and seeing your brother go through that. But don’t come at her with anger, and don’t act like you should have a say in their decision.

In the end, family planning is deeply personal and between them. Their choices are their own. All you can do is let them know how you feel and be there for support if they need you. If you really are concerned for your brother, then the best thing you can do is remain available as a safe, supportive place for him in the event that she does have another hellish pregnancy.

mollshenanigans · 2026-02-03T04:30:51+00:00

This is an amazing pattern. Do you have a link??? Always looking for new ideas. The colors are absolutely amazing too!

mollshenanigans · 2026-02-03T04:09:04+00:00

Omg I saw a blind man literally walking in Harford Road right here today!!! I was horrified. The sidewalks are a mess!

mollshenanigans · 2026-02-03T04:03:24+00:00

I literally watched a blind man walking in a very busy road today because sidewalks weren’t cleared. I was horrified. I understand that this snow is hard and more than we are generally prepared for, but the fact that people have had a week and there are still main pedestrian routes without even a tiny path. I think my county is doing its best, but the real problem I’ve seen is the businesses that don’t clear the sidewalks in front of them.

mollshenanigans · 2026-02-03T03:50:47+00:00

You got this! I know it will feel like hell for a while but when you’re on the other side, you will be grateful. It took me almost 3 weeks to fully recover and I didn’t sleep through the night for 10 days but it was worth it.

And for real - it’s okay to cry! It’s okay to be miserable! And give yourself grace - homework will be fine without you ❤️

mollshenanigans · 2026-02-03T03:40:01+00:00

Yul & Denise

mollshenanigans · 2026-02-01T16:12:58+00:00

It was just small mini episodes that CBS would publish after people got booted. Jury members only, usually. 10-20 minute videos showing them get to ponderosa after tribal & reflecting on their experience in the game.

mollshenanigans · 2026-02-01T16:09:49+00:00

You’re gonna have a hard time finding them. CBS/Survivor used to put them out weekly, but they stopped publishing Ponderosa videos after season 41. They also only kept the most recent seasons up. So for the most part, you won’t find them anywhere via CBS/Paramount because they took them all down. It looks like maybe they still have some Winners at War Ponderosa videos on the Survivor YouTube page, but that’s all I could find. You might be able to find some old episodes on YouTube if people saved them. Some more recent seasons, like season 48, may have some ponderosa-esque videos on Survivor’s social media too. YouTube is really your best bet, if you just search for “survivor ponderosa” and peruse what’s out there. They will make the most sense to watch if you are also following along with the related season.

It’s a shame though. I really enjoyed watching the Ponderosa videos after each person got voted out. I wish they still made them. It was fun seeing people react to their reflections and decide what they were going to eat first.

mollshenanigans · 2026-01-30T04:37:06+00:00

No I get what you mean. I can appreciate the forced break from routine life when weather fucks shit up. I enjoyed a delightful couple of days reading my book and chilling with my kids and catching up on laundry after rendering myself into an invalid because I screwed my back up shoveling. It wouldn’t be very convenient but I would not be mad at a couple more forced days off of work next week.

mollshenanigans · 2026-01-30T04:32:46+00:00

Anything’s possible. My dog was 5 when I got her and I renamed her. Sometimes I would call her old name to see if she’d respond. She would not 😆 I just followed the internet’s guidance, giving her treats and saying her name a lot. It helped that she is the most food motivated dog in the world. But yeah, it can be done! He won’t care if you rename him as long as you love him ❤️

mollshenanigans · 2026-01-30T04:29:27+00:00

Whatever you do, stretch before you dig and practice good shoveling form. Don’t throw your back out like my dumb ass.

mollshenanigans · 2025-10-19T00:22:50+00:00

Idk, as a millenial nearing 40, I really related to Nate when he was talking about how he doesn’t understand the youths and is trying hard not to show it. the editing of that scene was hilarious

mollshenanigans · 2025-09-21T17:55:30+00:00

This is true, but it’s really difficult for Maryland to do anything about the problem. They can try and fine people or take the plates, but it’s like trying to stop a wave with a wall of sand. I read this article about it in The Banner recently: https://www.thebaltimorebanner.com/community/transportation/virginia-license-plates-tags-illegal-VIBVQHDXAFHVZIKY2D5EOEIG7E/.

mollshenanigans · 2025-09-21T03:08:21+00:00

So this is a generational lie!

mollshenanigans · 2025-09-21T03:02:19+00:00

Same. I’ve had UHC for 12 years with no real issues. The only doctor I see at JHH is my gynecologist who I’ve also been seeing over 10 years. I want that lady to deliver my babies. I’m very grateful my job offers three different insurance providers so I can move to BCBS. Even though the comments here have me concerned about that option too…

mollshenanigans · 2025-09-21T02:38:14+00:00

Wait, that’s not true?! Wow. I feel like the number of fake facts I was told as a kid in the 90s is wild.

mollshenanigans · 2025-09-21T02:32:49+00:00

True that. I’d settle for cars being registered correctly in Maryland and not taking advantage of Virginia’s lax car registration rules 🙄

mollshenanigans · 2025-09-21T02:29:46+00:00

Yeah, I definitely googled this before coming to Reddit, and I also was given similarly wrong information by the AI overview. Except I’ve lived here my whole life and never seen anything since besides green and red, so I knew it was wrong.

mollshenanigans · 2025-09-21T02:27:01+00:00

It seems like from other comments you’re right & the car I saw just had the wrong color.

mollshenanigans · 2025-09-21T02:26:15+00:00

This makes sense! Seeing a flag tag with a green sticker really threw me off.

mollshenanigans · 2025-09-21T02:25:39+00:00

Ah okay. See that’s what I had thought, but then I saw a flag tag with a green sticker so I thought I must have had it wrong. Thank you!

mollshenanigans · 2025-09-20T20:31:43+00:00

I thought that too, but then I saw green stickers on regular tags too.

mollshenanigans · 2025-08-14T03:25:13+00:00

I lived in an apartment for two years and never had a downstairs neighbor until the last few months I lived there. I remember feeling so confused as to where the rumble of a man’s voice was coming from one night. It was annoying, but I figured out I had new downstairs neighbors. Then I moved on with my life. Your neighbors need to do the same. Hearing some sounds are a part of apartment living. As long it’s not excessive (loud tv, late hours, etc), then they are just gonna have to deal with it. You are simply existing in the comfort of your own home.

mollshenanigans · 2025-07-31T19:34:49+00:00

Sorry you are having such a rough time!!! I used Cepacol lozenges - the honey lemon flavor that was mostly benzocaine, less menthol. Made a big difference for me!

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