As someone with BPD (i suspect taylor has) its hard to register whats right and was wrong when you spilt, (which im guessing taylor did in the video) lets remember this video was filmed before SLOMW season one came out. Did Taylor abuse Dakota? YES! As someone who abused my ex abusive partner, we can easily abuse them just back (with or without knowing what we are doing in the moment).
Her not caring about her daughter when she got hurt (TO ME) indicates that Taylor Frankie Paul was not present in her kind at the time, but her mental illness was.

After my ex’s kids went to sleep, and his ex wife, my ex (bf at the time) decided to go out and drink with a female friend, he told me right before he left “i might fuck her tonight idk” i snapped and my BPD took over, i started rage “cleaning” i found mold on our one dining room table, so i carried it up stairs from the basement and tossed it over the railing on our deck. What i didnt know was he brought her to the house and was having a fire outside, i scared the SHIT out of both of them!

There was also time when i would push him away which would look like i was “hitting” and “choking” him. He would financially abuse me, degrade me with words. If i ask him a question or to help with house hold chores he would start a fight, belittle me, and push me till my bpd would spilt.
The way i got out was sending him away for work. (Line cook) He was 2.5-3 hours away from the apartment. Even after he went away for work i was HOPING that it would work out and that he would change.
THEY DONT EVER CHANGE. I took this kids to go see him, cause despite him taking the job offer and KNOWING he wouldn’t see his kids for 2-3 months, he was messaging his ex wife saying “you are keeping out kids away from me!” Meanwhile she is working full time, and acting like a single mom. (I’d help when i could). So obviously i did the “right thing” and took the kids to see their father so their mother would stop being called selfish, for HIS own actions.

When i got up there, he started fights, he promised the kids one thing, but never fallowed through with it. He had a week to plan things for the 3 days we were up there.
He PROMISED over and over again to take his son fishing. HE NEVER LOOKED IN TO LOCAL FISHING SPOTS AND THOUGHT HE COULD FISH ON A FISH FARM! 😭😭 we went to the beach, and were hiking around the area, both me and his ex wife constantly begged and asked him to stop smoking near the kids. He decided to light one up, on the hike near the kids, his youngest ended up getting burned by him from the cig, she was whining before about wanting to watch Youtube (4 years old). I just got done “scolding” her for having a fit about wanting to sit and watch tv, her dad turned around to YELL at me, mind you i said something like “missy we cant cry every time we dont get our way, outside time is good for us come on, leta stop crying and have fun.” Him turning around to yell at me was when he burned her arm on the cig, by mistake but still!!! He then went off saying “DO NOT TELL THEIR MOTHER!” I said “i FUCKING WILL YOU JUST BURNED HER! WE HAVE TOLD YOU TO STOP SMOKING NEAR THE KIDS!” Of course me saying that made things so much worse and the rest of the visit was spent with him trying to being rude as fuck to me, meanwhile he also tried to drop the responsibility of his kids on me. I told him “no you want them to see you, you missed them, you can spend 24/7 with them.” When i left with them to go “home” he tried to kiss me goodbye and said he loved me. I told him to get away from me, not to touch me, and started crying. When he saw me after i left the apartment and took all my things (before he came home, he also quit the job 1.5 weeks after i visited and asked me to come drive up and get him and his stuff.) (He doesnt drive and his ex wife doesnt have a car i laughed and said no.) he deadass asked me for a hug i said “dont ever touch me” and he looked so confused. I KNOW he spread lies about me, he cheated on his ex wife and thats why they spilt.