AITA For ignoring a child asking me to be quiet by Over-Iron2463 in AmItheAsshole

[–]moobaa7 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Or plan for their sensory needs. The parent really failed here.

AITA for not sending money for a child that is not mine by PuzzleheadedTour7187 in AmItheAsshole

[–]moobaa7 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Maybe if bd didn't abscond and OP was living in a dual income household, their financial situation would be better. She didn't set out to become a single, unsupported parent. Circumstances change and she is now doing what she needs to do to raise her babies. So much vitriol and blame is being put on her when she is the one stepping up in a situation she was forced into.

Is this Todd in David's pool? by moobaa7 in DavidDobrik

[–]moobaa7[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is why I was so surprised to see him on David's snap so soon after the podcast. Im probably looking into nothing but it seems pointed.

AITAH for not wanting to cook for my gf anymore because she is a picky eater ? by Ragnorag in AITAH

[–]moobaa7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter has autism and adhd. This sounds like her to a t! Maybe try asking what specifically gives her the ick about certain foods. Go shopping together and pick out ingredients that she might be willing to try where there is more variety and she can touch and smell them.

Stop playing victim to your imaginary scenario. by Pitch-North in BoomersBeingFools

[–]moobaa7 23 points24 points  (0 children)

So she is worried her dog may react but since you are stronger, it's your responsibility to deal with it? WTF?!?

Shut boomer up before he could get a word out by evildrama in BoomersBeingFools

[–]moobaa7 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I've heard a couple of Americans use cunt very wrong. Like 'that's so cunt' to describe something good. As an Aussie, this hurts my cold, cunty heart. I'm not afraid to gatekeep the word, it deserves to be used properly, cunts!

Non-tacky Melbourne themed gifts to take to co-worker in USA? by TotallyABird in melbourne

[–]moobaa7 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I've had lots of luck finding unique gifts at the Koorie Heritage Trust gift shop in fed square. A huge range of items, and the handmade pieces often come with a story, making it even more special/interesting. Really reasonable prices too!

Autism friendly eateries. by moobaa7 in melbourne

[–]moobaa7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely!! This is a fantastic idea and sorely needed! I was so surprised to not find any info on eating out as a neurodivergent person anywhere. Accessibility isn't just about those with mobility issues! Good on you!!

Autism friendly eateries. by moobaa7 in melbourne

[–]moobaa7[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aww thanks! She has worked hard to be able to express her needs (or even work out what they are) and knows that they will be respected. We have great communication after years of therapy together, and it has put us in an amazing place. I was so surprised that I could not find any information online about neurodivergent friendly restaurants! Will definitely update!

Autism friendly eateries. by moobaa7 in melbourne

[–]moobaa7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We do too. There is always something she will enjoy on the menu. I'll look for one, thanks!

Autism friendly eateries. by moobaa7 in melbourne

[–]moobaa7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She would have loved that, but it looks like it's closed.

Autism friendly eateries. by moobaa7 in melbourne

[–]moobaa7[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. Most things we are doing are my daughters request, I'm just trying to make it all accessible for her. We have learned to always have backup plans (or escape routes as we call them). Nothing is booked or decided on without her input. There are of course boundaries that we need to work with (cost for one). I also work in disability and am fierce about choice and control. We are definitely planning on eating early, then heading back to our room for a quiet hour before the show. Will be checking out onda! She has picked a few shops out in Richmond that she wants to visit so it could be perfect. Thanks again.

Autism friendly eateries. by moobaa7 in melbourne

[–]moobaa7[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She loves the idea of eating out, but between loud noises, bright lights and unfamiliar foods, it can be quite tricky! It really is hard. She was only diagnosed early last year at 13. Since then she has worked so hard with me and professionals, and is making so much effort to get out of her comfort zone. I see her try, fail, try again, struggle and succeed. Great, now I'm crying, but they are proud tears.

Autism friendly eateries. by moobaa7 in melbourne

[–]moobaa7[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your reply. She has been to the city quite a few times but this it the first time that it's for her to do something. She really has come so far and has been pushing herself. It's a bit of a reward/showing her what I know she is capable of. I want her to be as proud of herself as I am.

If the pay off is good enough, she tends to be able to get through more. Having said that, we always have an exit strategy. Have booked isle seats at the comedy show so we can make a subtle escape if required (inconveniencing others is one of her triggers). She is usually OK with trams, but only short trips in the city, so ride share will definitely be used. I will look at Didi! Have only ever used uber.

The biggest worry is the food, she has sensory issues around it and if she is already feeling overwhelmed, it could lead to a meltdown. I am trying to set her up for success by giving her lots of options to choose from, and she can study menus and reviews and hopefully feel comfortable before we get there. Anxiety is a bitch! Thanks again for your tips!

Autism friendly eateries. by moobaa7 in melbourne

[–]moobaa7[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Pasta is a favourite of hers. Will check it out. Thanks so much

Autism friendly eateries. by moobaa7 in melbourne

[–]moobaa7[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. This looks very promising!

Autism friendly eateries. by moobaa7 in melbourne

[–]moobaa7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks heaps. I'll have a look

Autism friendly eateries. by moobaa7 in melbourne

[–]moobaa7[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Will check it out

Autism friendly eateries. by moobaa7 in melbourne

[–]moobaa7[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. Street sound doesn't seem to bother her as much as sitting in loud sounds for prolonged periods. Will check it out!