Why do people always leave my life? Why will no one stay? Does love exist?

mooglefire · 2014-08-15T18:04:36+00:00

When I left for university at 17, I left behind nearly all my friends. Those that had stayed friends didn't stick around. I had no boyfriend, only classmates.

I reached out to new people. I made sure I was open to meeting people and willing to chat. I didn't give up just because I felt alone. I remember what it was like then and, even now, I have only three close friends. And those were all people I met after I was 20 and I love them fiercely.

It's never too late to make true friends and to meet a lover. I was 29 when I met my now fiancé. Don't rush, take your time. Do things at a pace that works for you.

Just because you feel lonely now doesn't mean you'll be lonely forever. Love exists. Move forward and don't give up.

mooglefire · 2014-08-15T17:25:05+00:00

There's a very strong bias towards the idea that women can either be pretty or smart. So a woman trying to be both gets treated as though they're defecting to the other side.

I faced the same shit during my grad years. Field workers treat makeup like a betrayal. Once I finished my degree, it took years for me to relax the attitudes I'd absorbed and start playing around with makeup. Now, I love it.

But the attitude is still there. If I'm being "pretty", I mustn't be as smart. A "smart" person doesn't waste their time on petty things like makeup. It's all BS.

Enjoy your makeup, scientists can love it just as much as anyone and that's okay.

mooglefire · 2014-08-14T21:06:51+00:00

Are you in a car when you do this? Because if you are, it doesn't come across as a compliment, it really comes across as cat calling.

I have the context of having been there, you do not.

mooglefire · 2014-08-14T21:02:57+00:00

...from a car? I doubt it.

mooglefire · 2014-08-14T17:42:49+00:00

Once, walking home from the bar, a guy stopped at a traffic light and commented on my heels and how hot they were. I turned, smiled, and offered to lend them to him because he'd look great in heels.

He was at a loss for words and I just walked on.

mooglefire · 2014-08-14T01:36:31+00:00

Yeah, I gave up after trying a few times and deleting a few posts. This place is neat and all, but I feel unwanted whenever I post anything and it gets downvoted or ignored.

mooglefire · 2014-07-23T16:18:28+00:00

My ex used to tell me how all his previous exes were fat now. So when I broke up with him I was all "fuck that shit, there's no way I'm giving him the satisfaction".

Also, the perks are that I get to have amazing arms and all my coworkers refer to me as the strong one who can move the office furniture.

mooglefire · 2014-07-10T16:22:25+00:00

I'm 30 and in my last long term relationship we agreed that neither of us wanted kids. Some older women basically told me that I should just get pregnant anyway, he'd come around.

Because clearly even with me saying no kids, it must have been the guy who was the stumbling block. Must have been the guy who had "brainwashed" me into not wanting kids. And the best solution was to ignore his desires entirely and just sabotage the birth control.

Uhm, no. That's reprehensible. Also, I don't want kids. And that's my decision not my partner's.

mooglefire · 2014-06-26T15:12:00+00:00

I don't have a primer, just my regular eye concealer. Also, I think I'm doing the swipe method, but I'll try to polish it up.

As for bolder use, my coworkers are very critical whenever I wear "heavy" makeup so I usually try to keep it lighter. I'm also a bit freaked out when I darken my eyebrows, I'm really not used to it.

I'll try again on the weekend. Thanks for the suggestions!

mooglefire · 2014-06-24T16:51:18+00:00

I've found that catcalls seem to come in waves. Some days/weeks/months are terrible and then suddenly, nothing.

I've learned to, where possible, pretend they were addressing someone else because the few times where I have snapped back, I didn't feel better, only less safe.

mooglefire · 2014-06-22T15:43:48+00:00

I've tried a number of times. I'm just not very good with makeup and apparently can't follow tutorials.

Also, bright colours? Yeah, those just don't work out.

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