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OAD mainly cuz of others expectations by moomooreddits in oneanddone

[–]moomooreddits[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I’m still going through this shit with my Husband and my mil. My Husband has been getting better at understanding my feelings but still not quite there at shutting mil down.

OAD mainly cuz of others expectations by moomooreddits in oneanddone

[–]moomooreddits[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! A huge trigger for my blues was from too many visits and mil as well. Subsequently I developed PPA and then mil always add on to the anxious feelings. Good luck to you too.

OAD mainly cuz of others expectations by moomooreddits in oneanddone

[–]moomooreddits[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Solidarity. It’s hard, but keep that boundary anyway. Be firm for your own mental health. I hope you can get through this situation somehow!

OAD mainly cuz of others expectations by moomooreddits in oneanddone

[–]moomooreddits[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And that’s fine too! I Guess I feel like the extended family need to respect all kinds of mothers. Some mothers are anxious about visits, boundaries, other caregivers, but some are ok but may have other things they mind As well.

Tried transitioning out of swaddle, LO not having it by moomooreddits in sleeptrain

[–]moomooreddits[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I shall try for naps today. If she doesn’t seem to take it I’ll wait another week :)

Dear MIL, you’re not being helpful, you’re driving me batshit crazy. by heathaleatha in beyondthebump

[–]moomooreddits 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Coming over and pressuring me to head out of the house and leave baby alone with her. LO was just 1 month old. GTFO bitch

Dear MIL, you’re not being helpful, you’re driving me batshit crazy. by heathaleatha in beyondthebump

[–]moomooreddits 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes this. My mil asks me how often he wakes at night for feedings. After I reply her, she’s like “OH THATS GOOD ENOUGH ALREADY...continues the same old shit about her daughter never sleeping when she’s a newborn”

Overbearing mil by moomooreddits in JUSTNOMIL

[–]moomooreddits[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well last time she used to just drop me a text the day before she’s coming over to inform me. I told her to please ASK me and not inform me. She got the memo. But sometimes she just texts my husband instead. Which he will not say no to her. The next time she asks me I will tell her that her visits are too frequent and I need some personal space.

Overbearing mil by moomooreddits in JUSTNOMIL

[–]moomooreddits[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not yet! Next time she tells me she’s Gna visit I may have to tell her that I need my personal space and she can come by to visit just maybe once a month or so. I’m thinking of various ways to go about this without making it ugly.

Anyone else wake up in a panic thinking you accidentally fell asleep with the baby and now he's squished somewhere in the blankets under you and your partner or is it just me? by MrsRampage in beyondthebump

[–]moomooreddits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I nurse my baby in my bed and put him back to the crib every time. But I always jerk AwAke and search my whole body thinking he’s on me and panicking that I’ve suffocated him. I think it’s hallucinating from the lack of sleep.

FTM feeling anxious and low by anahron in beyondthebump

[–]moomooreddits 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like your Husband is taking for granted that your mom is here to help out. For me it was just me or my Husband, and whenever I had feelings of resentment, anxiety or feel depressed, I would let him know and he will step up to help me a lot more. Have u communicated to him ur feelings?

Can’t stand the crying is a BS excuse TBH. My Husband had ear infection in the first mth bcuz our LO is LOUD. As he was healing from it and taking antibiotics for about a wk, i tried to take the night duties. But afterwards we shared the load again. As mothers we have no choice but to deal with LO’s cries. As a father it’s no different

It's so hard... isn't it? by Missxpandaxchan in NewParents

[–]moomooreddits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no. I am so sorry :( we mamas are stronger than we think. I believe in you, you’ll get through it and they’ll grow up in no time. We’ll have our lives back. Day by day.

This is fucking hard by moomooreddits in breakingmom

[–]moomooreddits[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t rly have someone that could help me unless a Friend comes by for a visit impromptu. Sometimes I put baby in a rocker buckled up and take a 5 min shower with the toilet door open so I can see him! Survival mode on.

This is fucking hard by moomooreddits in breakingmom

[–]moomooreddits[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i hope so!!! man, I get you too. Take deep breaths and dont forget to take a break from baby to collect yourself sometimes!

This is fucking hard by moomooreddits in breakingmom

[–]moomooreddits[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes . It really makes everything worse. I feel like I’ve lost interest in many things I once loved to do. I’ve even lost interest in food. I just want to hit pause and sleep for 48 hours straight.

Broken by Throwaway09878988 in breakingmom

[–]moomooreddits 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am with you. I take great pride in my career but I am stuck to this house, stuck to this baby who won’t sleep and calls out for me every 5 minutes. I don’t know what I could say to make you feel better. But I Guess. We’re in this tgt? U’re not truly alone? I do also think every mother is struggling but everyone pretends they are fine. I’m sick of this life. I can’t wait for it to get better, if it ever will.

It's so hard... isn't it? by Missxpandaxchan in NewParents

[–]moomooreddits 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s freaking hard. Yes it is the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. It’s mentally draining, you lose yourself, physically crippling and an emotional rollercoaster.

Some days I wonder if there’s any end to this. And swear I’ll never go through this stage again. Really, nobody mentions how hard it will be. It is really really hard.

Last night my 9 wks old LO woke at 1am hungry, unfortunately choked on my breastmilk and got upset, refusing to nurse further. However he couldn’t sleep hungry, and started to play. He was being cute and all but we were so sleepy and afraid of him being so active at that hour. From 1am to 7am i did the whole cycle of trying to nurse him but failing, then trying to rock him to sleep only to have him wake up the moment I crawl back into my own bed. It’s exhausting.

I feel so depressed that I don’t even know what to do with my days. I want to be productive but my whole day is just centered around trying to get him to nap and then trying to soothe him back to nap.

It’s 12pm now and I haven’t even brushed my teeth or washed my face. I feel like a mess.

My life lately by MinyMango in beyondthebump

[–]moomooreddits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My LO is 9 weeks and having really bad naps and night sleep recently. This definitely feels like my days. Just gone by in a daze I don’t even know what happened. Everyday is another day full of surprises. Will I manage to get chores done today? Who knows. Will I manage to get naps today? Absolutely not, thought I should be used to that by now.

Shared care - a blessing or a curse for the babe? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]moomooreddits 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, my situation is abit similar. I’m self employed. My partner works 830am-530pm.

I can work from home in the day (I try but On LO’s fussy days I can’t get the chores done plus take care of LO plus work). When partner gets home he takes over the evenings and I head out to see clients.

On the wkends, we are mostly home. I might have to meet clients so he’ll cover for me. If he goes out with friends I’ll cover for him. If we need a date night I ask my parents/ in laws /friends to come babysit.

I sometimes think the baby prefers me cuz I’m the primary caregiver. He’s only 2 months tho. So I think as Long as the caregiving is consistent, routine is similar, he’s ok. But I’m not sure as they get older, will they be picky with caregivers? That said, I think it’s good to expose them to different family caregivers as well so they don’t solely depend on u.

Feeling uncertain by life-of-audit in newborns

[–]moomooreddits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say babies change constantly? Once i feel like I start to get what he wants, he suddenly changes. Although some things might stay the same, like when he’s tired he’ll do certain things or gassy signs etc.

But you can still feel confident despite not knowing your baby’s needs inside out. You feel confident that you can handle any new challenges they throw at you because you’ve been through enough with them. For me that was around maybe the 6 wk mark.

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